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I have noticed a decline in sexual function steadily over the past 15-20 years. My primary issue is SEVERE premature ejaculation (good for less than 10 pumps) and inability to maintain an erection on the second try. Pills dont work at all....just give me a headache and stuffy nose and make me hot. Those damn needles in my dick (EDEX)....growing real tired of that. Consulting in January with Dr. Clavell for IPP. But here is my real delima....

I'm on my third marriage and headed for divorce. Not because of anything sexual. She has no problem with my inabilites as long as she gets her which she does when I eat her out. Much bigger issues. But even without a wife I am still wanting to correct my ED with an implant. These ED inabilities cause me to feel LESS than a MAN! I know that's real stupid...so says women I've dealt with...but it's how I feel and I cannot get over it. I already have a small penis (like 2 inches flacid...maybe 4 hard. Nut my thinking that if I know I have the ability to last as long as I want to in bed and give a woman Os through penetration, I will feel real good about myself. I REALLY WANT THIS ED PROBLEM GONE!!!!!

Am I thinking crazy guys? I just want the next woman, whoever that may be to be VERY VERY LUCKY....and PLEASED!! I feel that it will return a greatsense of my MANHOOD!

Thanks in advance for your thoughts

You're not crazy - you're entirely normal. I feel the same, and injections get me reliable erections.

My small penis has never given my wife an orgasm, but big dildos - her "boyfriends" - have every time. You might want to keep an "emergency dildo" handy for when PE strikes.

ceekay87 wrote:I have noticed a decline in sexual function steadily over the past 15-20 years. My primary issue is SEVERE premature ejaculation (good for less than 10 pumps) and inability to maintain an erection on the second try. Pills dont work at all....just give me a headache and stuffy nose and make me hot. Those damn needles in my dick (EDEX)....growing real tired of that. Consulting in January with Dr. Clavell for IPP. But here is my real delima....

I'm on my third marriage and headed for divorce. Not because of anything sexual. She has no problem with my inabilites as long as she gets her which she does when I eat her out. Much bigger issues. But even without a wife I am still wanting to correct my ED with an implant. These ED inabilities cause me to feel LESS than a MAN! I know that's real stupid...so says women I've dealt with...but it's how I feel and I cannot get over it. I already have a small penis (like 2 inches flacid...maybe 4 hard. Nut my thinking that if I know I have the ability to last as long as I want to in bed and give a woman Os through penetration, I will feel real good about myself. I REALLY WANT THIS ED PROBLEM GONE!!!!!

Am I thinking crazy guys? I just want the next woman, whoever that may be to be VERY VERY LUCKY....and PLEASED!! I feel that it will return a greatsense of my MANHOOD!

Thanks in advance for your thoughts

You're not at all crazy. I felt the same way for years. My lack of ability to have sex was a dark cloud over my head.

And as much as I tried to make up for it in other ways, I still felt like far less of a man. And, unfortunately, my wife was coldly tolerant, at best, for many of those years. I'm very surprised that she didn't divorce me over my ED. She did bring up divorce a lot.

Now I have an implant. And even though I still have ED, my self-perception is much different. Knowing that I can fuck any woman, any where, any way, for as long as she wants has been a huge boost for me.

When I see a hot woman in a store, for example, I don't sulk as I quickly glance at her and then look away. I look her confidently in the eye, smile, and think about taking her out to her car and banging her in the back seat.

I hope things work out for you in this new year.

Time2Change wrote:

ceekay87 wrote:I have noticed a decline in sexual function steadily over the past 15-20 years. My primary issue is SEVERE premature ejaculation (good for less than 10 pumps) and inability to maintain an erection on the second try. Pills dont work at all....just give me a headache and stuffy nose and make me hot. Those damn needles in my dick (EDEX)....growing real tired of that. Consulting in January with Dr. Clavell for IPP. But here is my real delima....

I'm on my third marriage and headed for divorce. Not because of anything sexual. She has no problem with my inabilites as long as she gets her which she does when I eat her out. Much bigger issues. But even without a wife I am still wanting to correct my ED with an implant. These ED inabilities cause me to feel LESS than a MAN! I know that's real stupid...so says women I've dealt with...but it's how I feel and I cannot get over it. I already have a small penis (like 2 inches flacid...maybe 4 hard. Nut my thinking that if I know I have the ability to last as long as I want to in bed and give a woman Os through penetration, I will feel real good about myself. I REALLY WANT THIS ED PROBLEM GONE!!!!!

Am I thinking crazy guys? I just want the next woman, whoever that may be to be VERY VERY LUCKY....and PLEASED!! I feel that it will return a greatsense of my MANHOOD!

Thanks in advance for your thoughts

You're not at all crazy. I felt the same way for years. My lack of ability to have sex was a dark cloud over my head.

And as much as I tried to make up for it in other ways, I still felt like far less of a man. And, unfortunately, my wife was coldly tolerant, at best, for many of those years. I'm very surprised that she didn't divorce me over my ED. She did bring up divorce a lot.

Now I have an implant. And even though I still have ED, my self-perception is much different. Knowing that I can fuck any woman, any where, any way, for as long as she wants has been a huge boost for me.

When I see a hot woman in a store, for example, I don't sulk as I quickly glance at her and then look away. I look her confidently in the eye, smile, and think about taking her out to her car and banging her in the back seat.

I hope things work out for you in this new year.

A bit off-topic, but I wonder if your new-found confidence has changed your wife's attitude or your relationship with her.

It has had an effect on our relationship.

We have a more equal relationship now.

And I don't find myself being as apologetic or ready to jump to please her as I did before the implant.

Time2Change wrote:It has had an effect on our relationship.

We have a more equal relationship now.

And I don't find myself being as apologetic or ready to jump to please her as I did before the implant.

Wel, my advice is to continue to be more equal in your relationship, less ready to be apologetic (but still ready to apologize if there is any chance that her perspective deserves one) and just as ready to jump to please as you ever were.

Maintaining a 50-50 relationship demands readiness to maintain a 75-25 relationship. Reciprocity will encourage her to respond with a 75-75 effort (which results in a 150% better relationship, right?)

(edited to add)
A marriage is a PARTNERSHIP. Both partners dedicated to the well-being of the other AND OF THE UNION.

Consider this piece of advice a friend of mine got.

As a young couple on their honeymoon, they asked a (vacation) photographer who had been married for 50 years, "What is the secret to such a long marriage?"

His answer:

He looked at the groom, and said, "YOU, you do everything she tells you to do."

Then he looked at the bride and told her, "YOU, spoil him so rotten that no other woman will want him."

I thought about that for a long time.

Letting the woman have input into what happens to the couple is wise. Women are nesters by nature. They will ALWAYS desire to preserve and advance the common good of the union. They will never give their husband bad advice. They prioritize for the benefit of their children, their home, their husband. The husband may not be top of the list, but at least he is in the mix.

A loving wife will take care of her love as fervently as a loving husband takes care of his.