Masturbation during marriage

[andrew1959nj]

I too grew up in a very religious family and feared that most of my thoughts were sending me to hell. Masturbation, in particular, was putting me ahead of the line to hell with some very hairy palms. It's approaching 50 years later, I'm still masturbating as desired and I'm happy to report that I have yet to grow so much as a single hair on my right palm. LOL

I still love any form of sex, but I don't have the option of enjoying it with my uber-sexy partner. She had a hysterectomy 6 years ago, refused hormone therapy for health reasons and has had ZERO desire for years. Her sex drive was never that strong and when we first met my ED really came on strong. I think in some ways that made us very attracted to each other. My eyes were pleasured by her awesome body and she wasn't concerned about having to perform acts of sex. Needless to say, porn and masturbation became my only source of sexual release. Prior to my implant, I had given up on women, because pills and needles never worked well with less than 10% success rate and never on dates.

Now with my implant, my partner still has no desire and has tried to accommodate my sexual desires which she knows to be extensive. Even trying hurts both her dry pussy and her ego. She often responds to my flirting with her, that I will have to find that elsewhere. At other times she has implied that she will find someone to "help" me. We get along great as companions, always looking for things that we can enjoy together, without giving up who we are to pursue things that we enjoy individually.

Sooooo, even with my implant, my only sex at home is with myself.

[David_R]

Sex with yourself can be great, but for me anyway, it can't compare (at least psychologically) with making love with another person.
The orgasms are great either way, but they are different for me (at least psychologically).

[Martin6469]

All women love to masturbate while their guy watches. It's a wonderful aspect of femininity. Putting on a "show" is very erotic for them and they have a better orgasm than when masturbating alone. Especially try it if your relationship could use a little improvement. But don't say "masturbate;" say "rub your clit for me" or "give yourself a tickle" in case she has a subconscious religious hangover. You can be nude or clothed, in bed with her or be across the room; she will love to be an actress for an audience of one.

[David_R]

"All women"???

[DonkeyDong10]

Masturbation gets old...it’s nothing comparable to sex with another person!!!

[FreddyFree]

Sex with yourself can be great, but for me anyway, it can't compare (at least psychologically) with making love with another person.
The orgasms are great either way, but they are different for me (at least psychologically).

Agreed!

[dg_moore]

"All women"???

Indeed. AFAIK my wife has never masturbated in her life. Before sex ended for us about 15 years ago she enjoyed sex in the moment, but only intercourse - no foreplay, no cuddling, no nothing. When we made love (which was Saturday night only) she was in the shower 2 seconds after the last throb.

[Old Guy]

"All women"???

Agreed, not All Women are that sexually free. Age plays a part too. My wife admitted to me that she used to masturbate almost daily with her vibrator, but that was 25 years ago. These days if she's in the mood once a week it's a miracle. It takes a while for her to get ready now, and she hides her vibrator under the covers as we foreplay. Once she's getting hot I can pull the covers back, go down there. But for her to sit in a chair and masturbate with me watching, that's never going to happen.
But then I've gotten older too. I used to masturbate several times a week on top of doing the wife 3-4 times a week. Since my implant it's still once a week with the wife, but I still masturbate once a week or so. I like the fact that even deflated my cock is stiff enough to rub one off. My fav thing to masturbate with is what they call an Oro-Stimulator. Kind of a sucking toy that feels like oral sex.
Now the strange part of all this is- the wife will watch me masturbate.

[vajim1]

Lol, my wife gets off watching me masturbate my cock and can orgasm by just rubbing her lags together while watching.

[Old Guy]

Since my implant I have masturbated enough times to make up for all the years of ED and couldn't! LOL
I remember the first time I masturbated after my implant, although I had already had sex with the wife. That was almost three weeks before, so I was horny as can be. I sat in a hot bath and inflated, then used my Oro-Stimulator toy. I had to pump for quite a while, but the sensation of that sucking toy sliding up and down my penis felt so good. As my climax built up my penis got so sensitive I almost couldn't stand it. I shot a load like a teen age boy that squirted out of the Oro.
I just bought a new toy from amazon that is basically hands free. Lube up, stick it in, punch buttons. This thing has a silicone sleeve with nubs inside. It rotates, vibrates, pumps and warms up with a bunch of different speeds. The day it arrived I put it to use. Wow, to just lay there and have your dick worked over until you cum is modern technology put to good use!