Use your Tongue

[Norman]

When my erections were getting weaker, I needed something to get me more aroused so my penis would engorge with more blood. I started going down on my wife's pussy, tickling her clit with the tip of my tongue, then following up with a tongue massage by licking her clit with the flat top of the tongue. All of that really got her stimulated and shortly she was pressing her clit hard against my tongue and undulating her pussy to get the most pleasure. That all started her flowing too, so her pussy got nice and wet and slippery. Meanwhile the excitement of it got my penis very stiff, and with her lubrication I was able to slide my penis all the way in. Now its a regular activity and we really get some good fucking.

[trimix60]

Sounds like a really good path to go down, great you are having a good time and I am glad you figured out something that works for you !!!! that would work for me also

Cheers

[acer55]

any recommendations getting a hesitant wife to allow this? my wife has never allowed me to "go down". a deep rooted hang up i guess? i feel like we are both missing out. any suggestions?

[antelope]

I'm no expert, but here are my thoughts.

She needs to be relaxed. Start with a glass of wine and lots of cuddling--before you get to the bedroom. Avoid "slam bam lick you ma'am" at all costs. A woman's body has numerous errogenous zones besides her crotch. Explore them gently in creative ways using your lips, tongue, and fingers. Try massage oil (warming and tingling). Let her know how you feel about her--and her fabulous body--with verbal and non-verbal cues. By the time you work your way down to the Golden Triangle, she should become receptive to this amazing sexual phenomenon. Don't expect a home run the first time and don't give up. Utlimately, she'll be glad you were persistent.

Best wishes.

G

[MIDBOB293]

Acer55: Just a suggestion - We rented an x rated adult video as just kidding around and found that watching it while having a drink changed the mood into a more relaxed and erotic evening. Since then we usually use this as a prelude to going to bed to screw around. Seeing the videos with a lot of licking and sucking as well as intercourse, has greatly made my wife more comfortable with doing everything we see on the video. It is just us and it works for us. Good luck. I am interested to hear if she ever came around to allowing you to satisfying her orally.

[reynell]

I agree

[trimix60]

Oh boy yes! MY wife loves to squat over my face on one knee. I lick her cunt while i play with her nipples or tickle her belly with one hand. I slowly lube the thumb of my other hand (to build the suspence) and slowly rim and then (only partially) enter her ass. She wont do anal so i dont go all the way in. This drives her NUTS ! I can make myself cum at the same time without even touching myself. I can get her to scream every time !!!

Wow, sounds like both of you have figured out the ultimate two way sex where both of you win !!! I hate it when your partner is just like a log while you try and please.

Good for you !!!!!

[MIDBOB293]

Trimix: Tried to send you a mesage but not sure it got through. In any event wanted to comment that your process is similar to mine with my wife and without the tongue susytem, i would not have much going for me. Bob

[flagman]

As a mature man, I find I enjoy pleasing my partner as much as myself. Yes, the tongue. I start with mouth kisses, no tongue... move to breasts. I change techniques like gentle flicking but also use my tongue to trace shapes over her nipples... stars, circles, zigzags... When I head down... I do not pretend that I can give a woman an O. Rather I am the motor but she is the driver. I free her to move her hips to control the action. I alternate long licks with flicking here also.
I LIKE pleasuring my partner... sometimes I get lost in pleasing her. I can even lose focus on myself... temporary loss of erection... not to panick. Laying on my belly pleasuring her is more comfortable without a stiff erection jammed into the mattress. If it was there in the first place, he'll come back with TLC when it's his turn.
It's second hand knowledge but my partners have all indicated they throughly enjoyed themselves. My current wife, prefers to cut the action short & finish with intercourse (sometimes a mutual O... or at least close togeher). This is a mixed blessing... if the pressure hits just the right spot (the head) then I can cum rather quickly... if not I can go to exhaustion & not get there. If SHE has had an extensive O, she may not be recovered enough to squeeze to put pressure there.

[cannonfield]

Oh my goodness! And I have always thought the tongue was made for licking ice creams!