Guys in long term relationships j Does your wife come regularly?

[FreddyFree]

A sex researcher, Melanie Curtin has data that shows only 15% of women cum from penis in vagina sex. Also 90% of men are bad in bed. Women take 20-40 minutes to get aroused.

She has a podcast named “Dear Men”. Also a website with courses called please her in bed.

https://www.melaniecurtin.com/product/p ... er-in-bed/

If you have sex like what is shown in porn, you may get yourself off but not the women. Most porn is made for men that want to dominate and have power over women. Women then fake orgasm to please their man and get the sex to end.

[sogwap]

I'm the OP, back with a slightly different question. There is a lot in the popular culture and posts here in FT that speak to women liking their men to stay hard for long periods of time and delay cumming for as long as possible. This would presume that women take longer and are frequently frustrated by their partners cumming too quickly and leaving them unsatisfied. Our experience is the opposite.

From what I have read from both men and women that once the man ejaculates the sex is pretty much over.

If this is true it seems could cause a lot of problems. Especially for women; Either she doesn't cum from the man finishing too quickly. Or if he takes a long time, then she may feel used (as well as bored and sore).

I know before I started using trimix, my wife felt very unsatisfied to the point of not wanting sex. She experienced too many times where either my ED or PE caused sex to fail (her words). Seems no matter how much I tried to make sure she got off by other means, it wasn't good enough.

Even after I started trimix and could last for much longer than she wanted or needed, and I could continue (thrusting after ejaculation) she felt that once I ejaculated sex was over. I'm pretty sure this is due to her expectation and experience. I have tried to explain once I ejaculate sex is not over, I'm still into it, in one sense I'm more into sex after ejaculation,since I don't have to worry about holding back.
Lately, since using trimix, I sometimes have to ask if she has had enough (PIV) sex.

As far as your question, I don't think there is a solid answer, Other than you and your partner coming to an agreement that is good for both of you.

[Hugo C]

Have been married 45 years. My wife has enjoyed sex from day one. As we have aged
I surprised her with a high end vibrator . She continues to have multiple orgasms
and enjoys oral sex and the vibrator. I have had random ED due to prostate surgery and I’m sure changes due to age of 75. We have adjusted our sexual activities due to our
ages. Most recently I purchased a Manta vibrator for men. It proved to be well worth
the money for my orgasms . Leave it up to the German engineers. We have just
decided to go with the flow. We enjoy the now and try not to reflect on what we
used to do sexually.

[dblack]

I've been married 44 years and my wife has always enjoyed sex. She always has multiple orgasms and is ultra responsive which is a massive turn on for me. I am very lucky this has continued even after menopause and although I now have to use a good slug of lubricant her pussy and clit remain super responsive. I often start bringing her to orgasm by a little clit rubbing then immediately follow through with another by penetration using a finger. She also loves oral.
She has some great dick massage techniques to get me ready before pumping up and loves to be taken doggy style which is our regular position. Using a VED gives me more staying power than before and she can go on to have several increasingly loud orgasms before I eventually shoot my load.
I'm a very lucky guy.

[Livingstonguy]

Married 40 years and I learned early that the wife gets her orgasm before I even start thinking about mine. Luckily the wife has never had a problem having an orgasm (or more) with or without me.

If a healthy woman isn't interested in sex or orgasms she needs one of two things. Therapy or hormones. Maybe both

[scharff]

My wife lost most interest in sex a number of years ago but every once in a while she's up for some fun. Doesn't want penetration any longer since it hurts for her and she never liked giving head. But, she can easily ge stimulated from nipple licking and caressing and when she masturbates she climaxes quickly and often. When we were younger she never climaxed from my tongue but now when I go down on her, she will frequently have her third orgasm while I perform oral on her. So things have changed and I doubt it's because I've gotten better at any of it. I don't know if she masturbates alone. I doubt it but she does cum quickly and hard when we do it together.

[riseagain]

We are both 65. Had a great session this morning. Went down on her for about twenty minutes (I love oral sex with her, still nice and tasty) She came once then. Then went right to penetrative sex and she came two more times. So to answer your question ,HELL YES she does.

[AKJess]

The short answer is yes, but depends on the situation. If she is giving me a quickie, she may or may not orgasm since the focus is on me. When we are having some good time together she will orgasm many times -- and when the focus is just on her, she will go on for hours chasing the next orgasm. She usually has small orgasms initially and those will lead to a very strong ones. She will repeat this until she is tired or too sore to continue -- this will go on for hours. I tried counting her orgasms a few times and just ended up saying she had "lots" lol.

[Martin6469]

We are both 78, and I'm married for over 30 years to the only woman in town who gets nothing from having her clit licked! Worse than that, my penis is small and cannot give her an orgasm! But we have a great marriage because we play with big dildos. Her "boyfriends" never fail to give her an orgasm!

Guys with non-orgasmic wives: go immediately to your local sex-toy store (or Amazon). The holidays are coming! (If she says, "Orgasms are for young women," leave it out in the bedroom to appeal to her imagination.)

[Old Guy]

Always make sure the wife has multiple orgasms, every time. It always depends on where we play how I'll get her off. My favorite is getting her in our swing and sitting in front of her right where I can stick my tongue in.