How do you give your woman an orgasm?

[CanGetItUpButNotOff]

I'm trying to reconcile differences between anecdotal stores and conventional wisdom about what is necessary to bring a woman to orgasm. The lore is replete with stories of mind-blowing multiple orgasms from pure PIV action. But many experts cite statistics that say only 20-30% of women can orgasm from penis action alone; the majority need help with clitoral stimulation.

With my wife, this is the case. When we were young (and I was unaware of the important role of direct clitoral stimulation), she would occasionally cum from a cowgirl position. But for many years now, she only is able to reach orgasm with augmented clitoral stimulation. PIV sex alone has zero chance of her cumming. So, our routine is for me to warm her up slowly, usually manually, then thrust in her for a few minutes to get her really primed. When she's ready, then I'll reach down to her clit and massage it with increasing intensity while simultaneously thrusting into her. (For the complete picture, she, rarely, will ask me to bring her to orgasm without PIV, but her strong preference is to have me in her simulataneous with using my fingers on her clit.)

My question to you is: How do you get her there? Any techniques I should be trying?

[Old Guy]

Yes, my wife is similar, needs that clitoral stimulation along with PIV. She uses a clit sucker toy for that, an air pulse toy to stimulate her clit. Unfortunately, it is not usable in missionary position. Doggy or the X position allows her to buzz her clit while we do PIV. In the swing works too. Most times she will have several orgasms during a session.

[SWorks17]

I'm trying to reconcile differences between anecdotal stores and conventional wisdom about what is necessary to bring a woman to orgasm. The lore is replete with stories of mind-blowing multiple orgasms from pure PIV action. But many experts cite statistics that say only 20-30% of women can orgasm from penis action alone; the majority need help with clitoral stimulation.

With my wife, this is the case. When we were young (and I was unaware of the important role of direct clitoral stimulation), she would occasionally cum from a cowgirl position. But for many years now, she only is able to reach orgasm with augmented clitoral stimulation. PIV sex alone has zero chance of her cumming. So, our routine is for me to warm her up slowly, usually manually, then thrust in her for a few minutes to get her really primed. When she's ready, then I'll reach down to her clit and massage it with increasing intensity while simultaneously thrusting into her. (For the complete picture, she, rarely, will ask me to bring her to orgasm without PIV, but her strong preference is to have me in her simulataneous with using my fingers on her clit.)

My question to you is: How do you get her there? Any techniques I should be trying?

CanGetItUpButNotOff, when we were young I could get my wife off in missionary by just grinding her and thrusting hard. One of the things that also gets my wife going and to the edge of orgasm is passionate French kissing, along with thrusting and grinding.
Now that we are older, I'm 67 and she is 62, I can still get her off every time we have sex but I do it a little bit different that than what you do.
We usually can tell when each of us are ready to cum, so I start thrusting harder and she starts bucking harder to the point of climax, once I cum and get past my dick being sensitive from the orgasm and she hasn't cum yet, I'll reach down and grab the base of my dick and I'll pull it back and forth against her clit while I'm still inside her. Some times, I'll pull it out to the entrance of her vigina and I'll massage her clit with the tip of my glans in a back and forth motion, she'll start moaning with pleasure and I'll still hold my dick at its base and I'll stick it back in and thrust slowly. I believe that only having a small amount of my dick inside her, I could be hitting her G spot along with stimulating her clit. When I do this, it doesn't take her very much longer to cum with a big O.

That's how I do it,
SWorks

[AKJess]

Every woman is different and what works one time may not the next. My wife can orgasm when I suck on her nipples, but after that initial orgasm, further nipple play will prevent additional orgasms...until the next time we play. She will orgasm strongly with oral, either direct clitoral stimulation or licking her ass, either will trip her. As for penetration, it's hit or miss, and dependent on her level of horniness, position or some other external factors known just by her. I would say mental stimulation is the primary key to trigger an orgasm with her. If she is enjoying the time together, I can trigger her to cum a variety of ways, some of which are repeatable the next time we play, while others are not. She keeps me on my toes and I am still often pleasantly surprised by what gets her off one time, but won't cause her to flinch the next.

[8characters]

For my wife, it takes a lot of massage and foreplay. Usually about half an hour of massage with lotion: front, back, legs, but little clitoral or vaginal stimulation. Passionate kissing all over helps too. Once she’s warmed up, she uses an Eroscillator for 10 to 15 minutes directly on her clit while I continue to tickle and play inside and outside of her vagina, legs, and breasts. Sometimes with silicone balls inserted, but usually not. Lately, she has enjoyed direct stimulation of her ureter while using the vibrator. Oral stimulation is usually a turn off. Once she has cum, it’s my turn to penetrate and pound from all different directions. With my new implant I can do this for 15 minutes or so. I usually withdraw every few minutes and use a Tenga egg to get some added stimulation. Lately, using her eroscillator on my perineum has been great. I will usually then bring myself to the edge and reinsert my penis for a few strokes before I ejaculate. Commonly this is with her leaning forward, with one or two fingers
In her vagina, the egg on my dick, and the vibrator between my legs. Then we’ll continue thrusting for several minutes.