How do you give your woman an orgasm?

[Nick74]

My wife usually orgasms Two times first when she’s on her side, face to face, riding me back and forth. After she comes, I take over, put her legs on my shoulders, and go hard on that cat That’s when she squirts heavily and completely soaks the sheets.

[Kodixx]

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- Chuck

Vacuum without being asked.

[CanGetItUpButNotOff]

My wife usually orgasms Two times first when she’s on her side, face to face, riding me back and forth. After she comes, I take over, put her legs on my shoulders, and go hard on that cat That’s when she squirts heavily and completely soaks the sheets.

This is very interesting to me. From your description it would seem she can cum purely from PIV action. Do you do anything to purposefully stimulate her clit? Does your dick just naturally hit her clit or is she one of the rare ones who can cum just from penetration?

[JaySpringer]

As an older couple, 60s & 70s, what worked most reliably for her was a Magic Wand vibrator.

[Hunchback]

I'm trying to reconcile differences between anecdotal stores and conventional wisdom about what is necessary to bring a woman to orgasm. The lore is replete with stories of mind-blowing multiple orgasms from pure PIV action. But many experts cite statistics that say only 20-30% of women can orgasm from penis action alone; the majority need help with clitoral stimulation.

With my wife, this is the case. When we were young (and I was unaware of the important role of direct clitoral stimulation), she would occasionally cum from a cowgirl position. But for many years now, she only is able to reach orgasm with augmented clitoral stimulation. PIV sex alone has zero chance of her cumming. So, our routine is for me to warm her up slowly, usually manually, then thrust in her for a few minutes to get her really primed. When she's ready, then I'll reach down to her clit and massage it with increasing intensity while simultaneously thrusting into her. (For the complete picture, she, rarely, will ask me to bring her to orgasm without PIV, but her strong preference is to have me in her simulataneous with using my fingers on her clit.)

My question to you is: How do you get her there? Any techniques I should be trying?

This is a very important subject to discuss and shed light onto!

Indeed, this subject is sadly very taboo and very harmful for love relations - A lot of attention is put on PIV, up to a point of girls feeling bad about not being able to orgasm from penetration and thus lying about it just to look "normal"... and guys being clueless about it all and not taking good care of their women. It's generally a lose-lose situation unless people are honest about it and figure out the best solution that works for their couple. Porn is a huge negative factor in this, with extreme exaggeration, totally unreal situations, women screaming like they are about to die the moment a dick comes into them... And sadly, unless a man is a bit more experienced with sex and the female body, it's not obvious to recognize an actual female orgasm happening.

Obviously even my opinion is pretty anecdotal, i am well aware that with over 7 billion people on earth there's bound to be exceptions to everything, but i believe i have in on "pretty good authority", having spoken with people i truly trust about it :

- My completely honest wife of over 19 years, who's ex had a huge penis,
- My ex girlfriend, who was a bit of a slut and had slept with over 30 people before me,
- My sister, who's also had quite a few guys in her life,
- My mother (yes, we've talked about that at table)

They all completely agreed that PIV orgasm is practically non-existent for women. My wife said she's only once came from PIV action, with her ex, in a doggy style position. The rest claim to never ever have came from PIV only. Do with that info whatever you want, but i tend to believe these people and even tho it's not a huge number of women, the consensus is 99% on the side of "needs additional stimulation". *shrug*

That is why me and my wife have undertaken to properly educate our two girls on the subject, to make sure they don't suffer needlessly and enjoy a good and fulfilling (pun intended, i guess) sex life.


To elaborate on the original question a bit more - Yes, my wife only comes when i stimulate her clitoris. She prefers manual stimulation, in general, over mouth.
After almost 20 years together know each other well enough to not follow particular "routines" or try to chase "achievements", we just enjoy each other and do whatever we feel like in the moment... still, we generally do it like that: Start with some cuddling (during a movie, if possible) then when "it's time" inject my EDEX and get to more "serious" touching, fingering her, ass slapping, fellatio, you get the gist... then PIV until i come followed by a moment of cuddling and calm, and then i'd masturbate her or eat her out until she comes. Rarely, i'd go for a second round of it all or just the PIV or maybe just masturbating her. It has happened a few times that after we are both finished, i still feel a bit horny but the medication is not working fully anymore to allow proper PIV so she has masturbated me to climax under the sheets.
Then it's generally more cuddling, spooning etc and sleep.

An important thing to mention is that in general unless i penetrate her first, she has a hard time to come just by clitoral stimulation alone. She needs to proper fucking to get her ready to come. So, both parts of sex work together, neither is predominant. We do it in that order (me coming first and her second) because between us, she's the one that is usually completely KOed after the orgasm and incapable of doing anything other than sleep

[CanGetItUpButNotOff]

Great post, Hunchback. Thanks!

[Nick74]

My wife usually orgasms Two times first when she’s on her side, face to face, riding me back and forth. After she comes, I take over, put her legs on my shoulders, and go hard on that cat That’s when she squirts heavily and completely soaks the sheets.

This is very interesting to me. From your description it would seem she can cum purely from PIV action. Do you do anything to purposefully stimulate her clit? Does your dick just naturally hit her clit or is she one of the rare ones who can cum just from penetration?

Hey brother
Usually we don’t do a lot of extra stuff before sex. Neither my wife nor I are really big into oral. I’ll kiss her, play with her breasts, use my hands a bit, and then we move into intercourse.I think over the years we’ve just learned each other’s bodies well…what angles and positions work best for us. Once we find that rhythm, it just kind of happens naturally. I don’t think it’s anything extreme or special, just good chemistry and knowing each other.