Wife’s sexual development over a long term relationship

There is more to sex than an erect penis. How do you maintain your sexuality both for yourself and for your partner? What techniques do you use to give both of you a great, satisfying sex life? How do you explore your own body and sexuality now that the rules have changed?
Dan1234
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Wife’s sexual development over a long term relationship

Postby Dan1234 » Sun Jul 26, 2026 10:25 am

    How has your wife’s sexual appetite changed over the years (better or worse)
    How experienced was she when you first met?
    How have her preferences changed?
    What has she learned to like?
    What has surprised sexually you over the term of your relationship?
    Who usually initiates sex, and how?
    How often do you have sex of some kind?
    How has age changed your sexual relationship?
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Rider1400
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Re: Wife’s sexual development over a long term relationship

Postby Rider1400 » Fri Aug 07, 2026 6:02 pm

Dan1234 wrote:
    How has your wife’s sexual appetite changed over the years (better or worse)
    How experienced was she when you first met?
    How have her preferences changed?
    What has she learned to like?
    What has surprised sexually you over the term of your relationship?
    Who usually initiates sex, and how?
    How often do you have sex of some kind?
    How has age changed your sexual relationship?


I was my wife’s first,40 years ago
Used to want it 3-4 times a week- now once a week
We now have sex once on weekends. Just because life is so busy. We usually set aside one nite for us.
She has learned to like many positions, prostate play with me.
Surprises me that sex just isn’t as important any more to her. Feel like she is in it for me. She’s really good at it though just too busy to stop and enjoy it like we used to.
I always initiate sex. Tell her tonight’s the night or plan a date which always leads to sex.
PIV sex once on weekends. Mid week she gets me off however she chooses, usually manually with some oral. Lots of prostate play. My favorite. Doesn’t complain about it though.
Age has slowed us down. I really think when we she retires in a couple years she might actually have a renewed desire.
60yo.ED started mid 40s pills failed after 10 years. Injections works w diminishing results.
Implanted 5-22 Titan 20cm with 1cm RTE.
Revision 3-26 Titan 24cm with 1cm trimmed off.
Infection, salvage 5-26 Titan 24cm -1cm trimmed.

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SWorks17
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Re: Wife’s sexual development over a long term relationship

Postby SWorks17 » Wed Aug 12, 2026 6:05 pm

Rider1400 wrote:
Dan1234 wrote:
    How has your wife’s sexual appetite changed over the years (better or worse)
    How experienced was she when you first met?
    How have her preferences changed?
    What has she learned to like?
    What has surprised sexually you over the term of your relationship?
    Who usually initiates sex, and how?
    How often do you have sex of some kind?
    How has age changed your sexual relationship?


I was my wife’s first,40 years ago
Used to want it 3-4 times a week- now once a week
We now have sex once on weekends. Just because life is so busy. We usually set aside one nite for us.
She has learned to like many positions, prostate play with me.
Surprises me that sex just isn’t as important any more to her. Feel like she is in it for me. She’s really good at it though just too busy to stop and enjoy it like we used to.
I always initiate sex. Tell her tonight’s the night or plan a date which always leads to sex.
PIV sex once on weekends. Mid week she gets me off however she chooses, usually manually with some oral. Lots of prostate play. My favorite. Doesn’t complain about it though.
Age has slowed us down. I really think when we she retires in a couple years she might actually have a renewed desire.


Rider, try to persuade her to go to a neighborhood wellness clinic that does hormone replacement.
Don’t go to one of the fancy places, ask around.
I talked my wife into getting her hormones checked two years ago. She started with testosterone cream but it didn’t work, you have to remember to put it on and you can’t do any workouts because sweating will affect the absorption of the cream.
Not too long after that she started getting the pellet implanted in her buttocks area every four months and boom, she was a lot more horny and we started have sex 3 to 4 times a week and sometimes brunch sex! Lol
I usually still initiated but every once in awhile, she would say get ready I’m horny.
According to my wife, she said it wakes everything up down there.

Good luck brother,
Your Bionic Brother in Texas
SWorks
Age 68, Garden Ridge Texas, Boston Scientific Rezum procedure for benign enlarged prostate 19 May 21, AMS LGX 18cm with 3cm RT's installed 5 Nov 2021 by Major Dr Shane Barney, BAMC, San Antonio, Texas, Married 37 years.
DOD Pg 131, Faces Pg 27

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Re: Wife’s sexual development over a long term relationship

Postby Martin6469 » Thu Aug 13, 2026 8:43 am

Agree with SWorks. My wife, age 81, gets hormone replacement therapy from a gynecologist and is as interested in sex and gets as wet as a young woman.
Age 81 in 2026. On testosterone replacement due to hypothalamus malfunction. (Attention depressed guys: low testosterone is a cause.) Healthy health nut but ED due to getting old. Like to keep enough cardiovascular ability to thrust for 25 min.

Rider1400
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Re: Wife’s sexual development over a long term relationship

Postby Rider1400 » Thu Aug 13, 2026 11:42 am

SWorks17 wrote:
Rider1400 wrote:
Dan1234 wrote:
    How has your wife’s sexual appetite changed over the years (better or worse)
    How experienced was she when you first met?
    How have her preferences changed?
    What has she learned to like?
    What has surprised sexually you over the term of your relationship?
    Who usually initiates sex, and how?
    How often do you have sex of some kind?
    How has age changed your sexual relationship?


I was my wife’s first,40 years ago
Used to want it 3-4 times a week- now once a week
We now have sex once on weekends. Just because life is so busy. We usually set aside one nite for us.
She has learned to like many positions, prostate play with me.
Surprises me that sex just isn’t as important any more to her. Feel like she is in it for me. She’s really good at it though just too busy to stop and enjoy it like we used to.
I always initiate sex. Tell her tonight’s the night or plan a date which always leads to sex.
PIV sex once on weekends. Mid week she gets me off however she chooses, usually manually with some oral. Lots of prostate play. My favorite. Doesn’t complain about it though.
Age has slowed us down. I really think when we she retires in a couple years she might actually have a renewed desire.


Rider, try to persuade her to go to a neighborhood wellness clinic that does hormone replacement.
Don’t go to one of the fancy places, ask around.
I talked my wife into getting her hormones checked two years ago. She started with testosterone cream but it didn’t work, you have to remember to put it on and you can’t do any workouts because sweating will affect the absorption of the cream.
Not too long after that she started getting the pellet implanted in her buttocks area every four months and boom, she was a lot more horny and we started have sex 3 to 4 times a week and sometimes brunch sex! Lol
I usually still initiated but every once in awhile, she would say get ready I’m horny.
According to my wife, she said it wakes everything up down there.

Good luck brother,
Your Bionic Brother in Texas
SWorks


Wife has been on cream for about a year with little noticeable effects. Just last week I insisted she gets some blood work and see if it’s working. Promises she will!
60yo.ED started mid 40s pills failed after 10 years. Injections works w diminishing results.
Implanted 5-22 Titan 20cm with 1cm RTE.
Revision 3-26 Titan 24cm with 1cm trimmed off.
Infection, salvage 5-26 Titan 24cm -1cm trimmed.

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SWorks17
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Re: Wife’s sexual development over a long term relationship

Postby SWorks17 » Thu Aug 13, 2026 11:56 am

Rider1400 wrote:
SWorks17 wrote:
Rider1400 wrote:
I was my wife’s first,40 years ago
Used to want it 3-4 times a week- now once a week
We now have sex once on weekends. Just because life is so busy. We usually set aside one nite for us.
She has learned to like many positions, prostate play with me.
Surprises me that sex just isn’t as important any more to her. Feel like she is in it for me. She’s really good at it though just too busy to stop and enjoy it like we used to.
I always initiate sex. Tell her tonight’s the night or plan a date which always leads to sex.
PIV sex once on weekends. Mid week she gets me off however she chooses, usually manually with some oral. Lots of prostate play. My favorite. Doesn’t complain about it though.
Age has slowed us down. I really think when we she retires in a couple years she might actually have a renewed desire.


Rider, try to persuade her to go to a neighborhood wellness clinic that does hormone replacement.
Don’t go to one of the fancy places, ask around.
I talked my wife into getting her hormones checked two years ago. She started with testosterone cream but it didn’t work, you have to remember to put it on and you can’t do any workouts because sweating will affect the absorption of the cream.
Not too long after that she started getting the pellet implanted in her buttocks area every four months and boom, she was a lot more horny and we started have sex 3 to 4 times a week and sometimes brunch sex! Lol
I usually still initiated but every once in awhile, she would say get ready I’m horny.
According to my wife, she said it wakes everything up down there.

Good luck brother,
Your Bionic Brother in Texas
SWorks


Wife has been on cream for about a year with little noticeable effects. Just last week I insisted she gets some blood work and see if it’s working. Promises she will!


The pellet is the way to go. Implant and forget for 4 months.

SWorks
Age 68, Garden Ridge Texas, Boston Scientific Rezum procedure for benign enlarged prostate 19 May 21, AMS LGX 18cm with 3cm RT's installed 5 Nov 2021 by Major Dr Shane Barney, BAMC, San Antonio, Texas, Married 37 years.
DOD Pg 131, Faces Pg 27


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