. I about fell out of my chair I, of course, said "Well nothing, that sounds like a good idea!" She said she is so happy that I got my implant and that she really is enjoying intercourse now. You talk about words that make a guy feel great and loved, it just doesn't get much better then that!!! 
81 yrs., married 58 yrs. ED for over 20 yrs.rancherejim wrote:I feel your pain. My wife shut down right after menopause. I just put up with it for 10 + years, I tried everything to try to get her back in the game. She won't even talk about it. Finely I told her if she didn't start having sex with me I would be finding it elsewhere. So after 50+ years of being faithful to her I started up with the hookers. Despite what people say about hookers I have met some very sweet women in this hobby. Now we have a don't ask don't tell policy in our home. I can't divorce her because she is handicapped and is completely dependent on me for everything.
I am looking forward to my surgery coming up in a couple weeks so I can get out and fuck anytime I want to. If everything go's well I should be able to make the 20 year old girls as happy as they make me. I am still as horny now at 77 as I was as a teenager. Actually maybe more so. Back then it was wham baam thank you mam, now I will be able to make it last for hours if I choose to.
Cigar56 wrote:AnotherOldMan wrote:If you both want sex, or neither wants sex, everything is fine. It's that middle ground where everything goes south.
Very true! My feeling is that she more or less set the time, place and frequency(with few exceptions) when we were "in our prime". If for any reason she wished to shut
it down at this stage then that is what we would do and I would do my best to make it seem like a mutual decision.
Well, I am 61 and my sex drive seems higher than ever. At this point I would not stop having sex if my wife simply decided to quit. If she did that I would exercise my right to masturbate in private, which of course is a form of sex. Whether that would be enough would be something we'd have to determine.
handfulWES wrote:It is difficult to wake up one day and realize the girl you married, had children with will dump you over your ED issues. Before we were married and I was 20, in the military, great career and wanting to have a family I shared my ED issues. It was so fucking hard to admit that I might be less man than she wanted. She said it didn't matter. I am one that will take you at your word. See I grew up on a farm and your word and a hand shake was your bond.
We were married and it wasn't long that I learned my wife had 2 streaks. One was hot and the other cold. When she was hot, she didn't get enough and when cold I got a rest. I never knew this type behavior existed. My military service was during the Vietnam era and I had a tour to pull in southeast Asia. My first stop was in Thailand and I meet the chairman of the Christian and Missionary Alliance Association and we became great friends. He needed a secretary and my wife was a damn good one. We talked and the Christian and Missionary Alliance would pay her way, get her, her visa and passport and even pay her a salary. She jumped at the chance to come. We had our own place living in Koart, Thailand and life seemed just great. My ED issues were growing and getting worse it seemed each day. Then I ended up with an 89 day TDY to Vietnam. I made my trip returned to find that 6 weeks later I had yet another 89 day TDY. When I returned her year's visa was about to expire. It was extended for 90 days and she went home. I was still stuck in southeast Asia.
By the time I returned to the USA my ED issues were very bad. My wife had no use for me although we did have a little girl and was PG with our second kid, a boy. I sought answers and found one doctor who offered some help and I was put on Testosterone. We got my level up to something a bit more normal and 1/2 my ED issues were better. Every time I would have a failure it made things worst. Finally our son was born, and after about 3 years I was left with both children. I had my hands full. They are good kids, grown and on their own thank God and doing well.
I will hit the point. By now I was about to get an implant. We talked, fought and she said OK if it will fix the problem. When it came time to try it out for the first time and she touched me, she jumped out of bed, went downstairs telling me that thing wasn't going in her you know what. I almost died right there. In a few days she was packed and gone. I do understand this problem. I understand it better now because in the heat of the battle it is difficult to see the forest for all the trees.
I have a wonderful sex life several times a week, I still take "T" and I enjoy every moment. It took 50 years to get here and I promise you NO woman or man will take what I enjoy away from me.
handfulWES
After 4 months wife still not on board. I still love her but I need sex so I am on a NSA dating site. Meeting first woman tomorrow for coffee. If I was looking for a relationship not sure, but it just for sex . She is not getting sex from her husband. The problem I have found with alot of those sites is alot of them are pure scam with fake profiles and bots
of course there all bots and scams. The ratio is about 100 to 1, so even if you look like Brad Pitt you will be lucky to get a very haggard women (and after many hours of time invested) NOT A VIABLE OPTIONA REAL MAN WOULD realize that being a good provider is what is most important to the family
Why would you want to have sex with somebody who doesn't want to have sex with you (or presumably with anybody else)? I have always believed sex to be a mutual activity.
ne person "decides for you" that your sex life is over? Obviously sex is a biological function and its also a component of a romantic relationship. the ideal scenario is two people who are madly in love and cant keep their hands off of one and other, but where that does not exist there must be a compromise.... or one person has to lose. From what I have observed and experienced: both lose (eventually) .... and if there is a family involved, the kids get to lose too. In my opinion, the only way a middle aged married man with a family ever could compete with a young ambitious man in the work place, was that the married guy had access to regular sex from his stay-at-home-wife and the single guy had to go devote some portion of time to procuring female companionship (dates, parties, activities, bars not to mention drinking on the weekends to get up the courage to hit on women, etc...) a single young man is in a position to work back to back 20 hour days to get ahead (if he is so inclined) a family man cant compete with that. .....but eventually the single guy has to throw "some cycles" at his social life. When the wife puts her husband in the position of now stepping out (and throwing those same cycles at procuring women) who wins? Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 14 guests
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