Asquared65 wrote:My wife loves me eating out her pussy! The thing is see will not give me a blow job. Wondering if other guys are unlucky like me. Also you that are lucky enough to get blow jobs, how do you get your wife to do it?
Hi Asquared---
First two wives pretty much the same except I never went down on the first wife. Oral wasn't in our vocabulary 65-73. Second wife was a major college grad from a restrictive, conservative, moneyed, and funless family. I had learned to give and receive oral by then. She loved receiving but did one half hearted attempt by her to reciprocate resulted in "it's too big for my mouth" complete BS as she was probably celebrating getting away from her parents by fucking and sucking half of Iowa City before I even knew her.
But I had learned to quit asking for any kind of sex and just let it happen or walk away. Since I quit asking, I got a lot more of everything.and not just from her.
Wife three - my last one ever is a wonder of delights of all kinds and only for me. Anything, anywhere and anytime. I never have to ask, Oral is the first thing she gave me and the first thing she offers and I never asked ever.
You might feel older, but you are young to me. 20 years. If you aren't getting even the basics of sex, which oral is, how happy can you be? What is her excuse? Listen patiently and tell her you understand completely, but that is not going to work for you anymore. Then shut up and give no more information. The uncertainty will haunt her. She will ask questions on your intentions, your meaning, etc. Don't answer at all, just say I have already explained it to you.
Stop asking for any kind of sex, just start the foreplay without discussion. Offer your dick to her lips, see what happens. Don't react either way it goes.
The marriage contract includes sex the way you want -- it is not a oneway street. Not optional. Like you providing an income is not optional even though there are things you do on the job that you would prefer to avoid. Hope you get oral soon or at least you enjoy the ensuing fireworks. If she tries, make noise indicating you enjoy it immensely, guide her gently and praise her every stroke. Don't go too deep and do not ejaculate into her mouth until she asks you to. If she does not try to give you oral, don't discuss it. Your position was clear. Either way you will no longer be boring and predictable. Being unpredictable will turn her on.
Pull the rug out from under her, by no longer being a doormat. Never let a woman take your continuance with her for granted. She has to earn your devotion every day just like you do by providing for her. Right now, put her on probation. She should show you that she appreciates and values you. If she doesn't, you will have to decide how you want to live the rest of your life because it will never get better in your situation from her baseline---she currently believes she wears the pants. Put your own pants on, respect yourself, and require treatment as a lover and a husband.
Thats' how you get oral. It's non-negotiable. "I don't want to " doesn't work. She might have done it for others before you. You can judge that for yourself. So just not you? She might have had guys she just played with before you and she had to give them what they wanted. But, you are a nice guy. No need to please nice guys. Nice guys don't get blow jobs or really interesting sex--those things are only for guys who require it.
Sorry, but you did ask how to get a wife to give blow jobs. I think a better question is why doesn't she want to give me blow jobs? and Has she ever given anyone a blow job? Can't ask, wouldn't get the truth anyway. But you can draw conclusions about what you do know of her.
