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Me and my wife used to have oral sex as in 69. I am 70 and she is 69 so she wears lingerie and other things. I do oral on her some times.

I think she has a mental block in her head and wont let herself enjoy the oral sex. I had 4 bypass surgery on my heart and I am in my

6th week of rehab. She seems to have forgotten that she used to do oral on me. Why do women all of a sudden not liking to do

something like oral sex ? The doctor said we can have sex after completing the 6th week after surgery.

You can't generalize here. Some women enjoy oral and others do not. My wife is one who did not, and our sex life never suffered from its lack.

I think most women just don't see sex in the same way as men. To them its a different thing altogether. My wife thought wearing sexy lingerie was degrading and humiliating. Go figure. Some don't see that sex can be more than just an expression of love but can also be playful, exploratory, tantalizing, etc. Some women grow up with certain cultural and familial beliefs that draw the line at certain behaviors or acts. Some think they are modern and liberal but are not when it comes to the bedroom. Then menopause hits and their interest really fads. Some, not all. Just my 2 cents. It can be maddening.

Reggieman wrote:I think most women just don't see sex in the same way as men. To them its a different thing altogether. My wife thought wearing sexy lingerie was degrading and humiliating. Go figure. Some don't see that sex can be more than just an expression of love but can also be playful, exploratory, tantalizing, etc. Some women grow up with certain cultural and familial beliefs that draw the line at certain behaviors or acts. Some think they are modern and liberal but are not when it comes to the bedroom. Then menopause hits and their interest really fads. Some, not all. Just my 2 cents. It can be maddening.

I agree Reggieman. My wife will on rare ocation perform oral on my but if I get anywhere close to climax she that's nasty. And I have tried many times to do oral on her and she just sort of lays there. No reaction. Maybe it's me. lol But when I ask her about it she says it's not me. It's just the way she was taught when she was young. Other then the oral however she is very sex oriented. And I might add multi-orgasmic.

right on shopman, my wife won't do oral on me. She won't play around so I can arouse her. I am 69 and she is 73, will let me have sex with her but she is very non responsive. When we were younger she would get in to it, but the older she got the less she would have sex. We sleep in separate bedrooms, she says the CPAP I where bothers her. She knows I bought Cialis she is ok with that but won't play. She was brought up that sex was a taboo, and went through 12 years of Catholic school. I think the nuns really warped her mind. I am going for prostrate surgery and hopefully I can get an erection after. No cancer just to correct and enlarged prostrate. I am willing to get a pump installed if I can't get an erection. Don't know if Medicare will pay for it, hoping it does.

Keep trying, I know a lot of men just give up, but I totally enjoy sex and will to I am pushing up daises.

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olie20 wrote:right on shopman, my wife won't do oral on me. She won't play around so I can arouse her. I am 69 and she is 73, will let me have sex with her but she is very non responsive. When we were younger she would get in to it, but the older she got the less she would have sex. We sleep in separate bedrooms, she says the CPAP I where bothers her. She knows I bought Cialis she is ok with that but won't play. She was brought up that sex was a taboo, and went through 12 years of Catholic school. I think the nuns really warped her mind. I am going for prostrate surgery and hopefully I can get an erection after. No cancer just to correct and enlarged prostrate. I am willing to get a pump installed if I can't get an erection. Don't know if Medicare will pay for it, hoping it does.

Keep trying, I know a lot of men just give up, but I totally enjoy sex and will to I am pushing up daises.

Women definitely lose some interest and ability after menopause. My wife takes hormones and that has allowed her to remain orgasmic. She's never been playful or aggressive, though. Don't think they make a pill for that. So, we schedule sex and it's still pretty good.

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my wife is 52 and I am 58, she is menopausal, I am horny as ever, she tells me I don't work anymore but I do with trimix, but I have shrinkage. she tells me its a good thing she does not want sex anymore or she would go somewhere and get it good elsewhere. what a life.

olie20 wrote:right on shopman, my wife won't do oral on me. She won't play around so I can arouse her. I am 69 and she is 73, will let me have sex with her but she is very non responsive. When we were younger she would get in to it, but the older she got the less she would have sex. We sleep in separate bedrooms, she says the CPAP I where bothers her. She knows I bought Cialis she is ok with that but won't play. She was brought up that sex was a taboo, and went through 12 years of Catholic school. I think the nuns really warped her mind. I am going for prostrate surgery and hopefully I can get an erection after. No cancer just to correct and enlarged prostrate. I am willing to get a pump installed if I can't get an erection. Don't know if Medicare will pay for it, hoping it does.

Keep trying, I know a lot of men just give up, but I totally enjoy sex and will to I am pushing up daises.

If by "pump" you mean implant, then yes Medicare does cover that.