Questions and fears..26 yearold new member

[irishguy]

Hey im 26 and as ye can tell from Ireland..
My ed started when i was going on 18, up to 18 it was like a steel pipe, but i got a girlfriend when i turned 17 and although i could get hard
as a rock i couldnt ejaculate, then she cheated on me a few times we broke up and more or less the ed started to take shape..

now a back story when i was younger i was obsessed with the size of my flaccid penis, i was truely in hell because it was so small and skinny..
i obsessed and obsessed, couldnt and still cant shower infront of guys in the locker room or piss in the urinals etc...
it is truely tiny when flaccid but when erect it was an average/good size... if only i knew back then how good i had it....

so parents split when i was 13, i got meningitis when i was 14 and from then up till about last year i had seriously bad sleeping problems..

iv no self confidence, social anxiety and probably like most of you very low self asteem...
and theres been alot of other shit that mentally messes me up...

i started with all the oral tablets for ed and sleep when i was 21, viagra,levitra,cialis gave me nothing but a headache..
tried cavreject and the other injections and muse, and nothing but a pain in my balls..
tried the pump, probably good for penis health but not good enough to keep the erection with the ring..
then i went to a urologist in dublin, ripped me off with money didnt do a penile doppler but did the venous ligation surgery which did nothing for me...
went to another urologist and he told me news i was running away from, the dreaded PENILE IMPLANT.....

so at 24/25 i started seen a pyscologist after that because i was truely fucked in the head so she referred me to a pyscosexual counsellor and i found her to be excellent, its the best close to erections i got, actually very close just couldnt keep it, then because of money restrictions i had to stop goin to her and of course i spiralled into anger and drinking once again.. which completly stopped all activity down there...

so i went to a different urologist in Galway and he refered me to a doctor David Ralph in London.. have any of ye heard about him?

and i got a phone consultation with him and i found him to be very understanding, i told him and he listened about the depression the sleep problem, the pyscosexual sessions, so i have NPT tests coming up in afew weeks with another test to make sure im getting enough REM sleep...
but with all that said and done i think its going the way of an implant which i truely do not want(or dont think i want)

so to summarise:
2 urologists say penile implant
pyscosexual counsellor says its in the head
certified hypnotist says its in the head.
i dont get morning wood, but im constantly stressed and depressed. no energy all that sort of thing



so thats my story so far i want to say thanks to whoever set this site up, my hand goes out to you,

also going by my story do ye think its at all possible that it pyscological?
thanks for yer time!!

[Peckerwood]

You really did come to the right place, Irish Guy. I strongly recommend that you read the posts by Minnesota on this site, as he is actually younger than you and already has a penile implant. All of us will be pulling for you to resolve your ED problems as soon as possible, and it's obvious from the history that you gave us that you are willing to do something about it. Read the section on implants on this site. Also, post in the forum for younger members of Frank Talk.

John

Hey im 26 and as ye can tell from Ireland..
My ed started when i was going on 18, up to 18 it was like a steel pipe, but i got a girlfriend when i turned 17 and although i could get hard
as a rock i couldnt ejaculate, then she cheated on me a few times we broke up and more or less the ed started to take shape..

now a back story when i was younger i was obsessed with the size of my flaccid penis, i was truely in hell because it was so small and skinny..
i obsessed and obsessed, couldnt and still cant shower infront of guys in the locker room or piss in the urinals etc...
it is truely tiny when flaccid but when erect it was an average/good size... if only i knew back then how good i had it....

so parents split when i was 13, i got meningitis when i was 14 and from then up till about last year i had seriously bad sleeping problems..

iv no self confidence, social anxiety and probably like most of you very low self asteem...
and theres been alot of other shit that mentally messes me up...

i started with all the oral tablets for ed and sleep when i was 21, viagra,levitra,cialis gave me nothing but a headache..
tried cavreject and the other injections and muse, and nothing but a pain in my balls..
tried the pump, probably good for penis health but not good enough to keep the erection with the ring..
then i went to a urologist in dublin, ripped me off with money didnt do a penile doppler but did the venous ligation surgery which did nothing for me...
went to another urologist and he told me news i was running away from, the dreaded PENILE IMPLANT.....

so at 24/25 i started seen a pyscologist after that because i was truely fucked in the head so she referred me to a pyscosexual counsellor and i found her to be excellent, its the best close to erections i got, actually very close just couldnt keep it, then because of money restrictions i had to stop goin to her and of course i spiralled into anger and drinking once again.. which completly stopped all activity down there...

so i went to a different urologist in Galway and he refered me to a doctor David Ralph in London.. have any of ye heard about him?

and i got a phone consultation with him and i found him to be very understanding, i told him and he listened about the depression the sleep problem, the pyscosexual sessions, so i have NPT tests coming up in afew weeks with another test to make sure im getting enough REM sleep...
but with all that said and done i think its going the way of an implant which i truely do not want(or dont think i want)

so to summarise:
2 urologists say penile implant
pyscosexual counsellor says its in the head
certified hypnotist says its in the head.
i dont get morning wood, but im constantly stressed and depressed. no energy all that sort of thing



so thats my story so far i want to say thanks to whoever set this site up, my hand goes out to you,

also going by my story do ye think its at all possible that it pyscological?
thanks for yer time!!

[irishguy]

Thanks john il do that.. i think wev all been through hell, but you would definetly recommend a penile implant?

[newly1]

My uroligist says implants are fine if you need one, only as a last resort. Doesnt really compare to a natural har d on.

[Dave48003]

Define "need". If it means there is absolutely no other way to get hard, then I guess I didn't "need" it. If it means I found it unacceptable to have to get out of bed when my wife feels amorous to 1) take a pill, or 2) get out my VED, grease up my dick, pump my dick and wear that stupid ring that made my dick go numb, or 3) shoot myself in the dick with some medication that made it ache afterwards and was starting to give me some internal scarring then I guess I did need it.

None of those 3 methods would keep me hard enough long enough to really do a credible job of lovemaking. So, if I'm not one of those guys blessed with the ability to get rock hard and stay that way for 45 minutes or an hour of making whoopie, I'll take the implant and the ability to do just that and more, even if it doesn't feel quite the same to me. My wife can't tell the difference when it's inside her. Since I never had the ability to stay hard more than a few minutes, I'll take the implant. Its a heck of a lot better than any of the other 3 methods I've used. And I know I can perform now, and I don't have to time the experience because it might fizzle out on me or go so numb I can't feel anything anyway.

[radiodec]

I agree with Dave. Need is the other methods fail, are unacceptable for one reason or another, or are causing damage that will make things even worse in the future. For me, the choice was easy everything else but VED had quit and I newver tried it, but my wife was turned off by the thought (therefore it wouldn't work), so only choice implant. Now I am waiting to use it.

Radiodec