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Hi all,
I’m 23 and definitely suffer from erection dysfunction, I honestly think I have never been able to get an erection since I was born. I have suffered in silence and am very depressed at the moment. I am terrified to go to a doctor because all I read it looks like there is no help for me. I have no regular doctor because beside the ed problem I am healthy. I am too embarrassed to go to a doctor, as I am very self-conscious and I feel if I go to him everybody will find out, I play sport regular and keep fit.
I think I always knew there was something wrong with me because I remember going to discos at 14 and fearing that I would not be able to get hard if a girl wanted to give me a wank. At 17 I tried to have sex but could not because I couldn’t t stay hard long enough to get a condom on. I tried the next day again but the same thing. I knew there was something wrong with me going into the situation but I just kept lying to myself.
I have pushed all my friends away over the years because of the problem. I come up with shit excuse for not going out and just basically lie to them and ignore the phone calls. It has ruined my life but I still do nothing about it. I live in a dream world and saying it will all fix itself. I know this won’t happen but I still do nothing. I spend all my time by myself just so I can keep ignoring the problem.
I can masturbate somewhat every day and can still cum. I think this doesn’t help as I still orgasm with half an erection and it gives me relief for an hour and I just keep lying to myself. It destroys my life.
I stopped going to college recently because I know a girl was getting on to me and rather than just saying I wasn’t interested, I decided to bury my head in the sand and stopped going to college. I have no confidence and think I am really depressed. The worst thing is I know all this but still won’t go get help. I’ve known about this website for long time but chose to ignore it because I am too afraid to do anything.
The most useless and worst men in the world can get erections and I cant. I know that sounds bad but its true, there is fat lazy useless people able to have sex and I cant. I think and want to have sex so much but cant.
I need help but don’t know what to do. I live in cork Ireland. If anybody knows any doctor in cork or Ireland or anybody that could help me, please let me no.
Sorry if it is badly written it is my first ever proper cry for help.
Thanks

Glad you got the courage to post. You are on your way to getting help. If you live in the US do you have insurance or money for seeing a doc? I would recommend you go to a urologist who specializes in ED. Lots of guys are pulling for you.

You have begun your journey !!!!!!

All of our stories are different here, but all related to the same rotten thing, the inability to get and keep an erection!!!

Your very next step should be: GET YOUR ASS TO A GOOD UROLOGIST !!!

and then.... get and keep a POSITIVE attitude..... " I will make my situation better "

Hang in there .... help is available, but YOU have to accept it.

Bill

There is hope! I had venous leak too since a very young age. I was deeply depressed as well. I have an implant now, and I'm happy. Women love it! Go to a good urologist! Don't waste anymore of your life! Do it now!

I agree with the suggestions above. But, MAKE SURE the urologist you pick is a specialist in ED. If you have trouble locating someone with those qualifications, check the nearby medical schools. Most will have someone who has a specialty in ED. And, MAKE SURE they take your ED seriously and give you a complete workup. There are some (hopefully rare, but probably more common than not) who will look at your age and your depression and conclude your issues are psychological. That's not to say you might not have such issues, you sound like you do. But make sure they get to the bottom of whatever physical/medical issues you might have. INSIST that they completely check you out.

You've already been given the words and advise you need to make a big difference, but YOU have to get off dead center and go for the solution. It may---in the end, be pretty simple to get your motor running, remember, you are young. There are 75 year old men here that are doing what YOU need to do, seek the right help. You are somewhat defeating yourself up to now, so turn that around and find help. The pro ED urologist is a great start to a new you. Good luck, let us know how it goes.