Late 30's, ED and Scared as hell
Posted: Tue Jul 19, 2011 3:08 pm
Hi Everyone,
I just wanted to say hi and meet my new family. I'm very depressed the past few days because I just found out my ED is likely permanent. (Full story below) Please tell me it's not the end of the world. I need support right now and as a single guy in his late 30's I don't have anyone to lean on. I've just started dating someone but have not revealed anything to her. We haven't had sex yet and I'm scared to tell her. She so great. I just prey she's understanding because I am falling for her and she for me. Does any of this sound familiar to anyone.
Sorry for sad hello.
-Jug
Single, white guy in his late 30's. This is my story.
Since early 2006 I began noticing a decline in my ability to clench my pelvic floor muscles. It was at this point I began have urinary issues and very, very mild ED. I was still able to maintain an erection, although the erections were just a bit less rigid than before. I went to a urologist and he said I have mild BPH. He gave me a prescription for Flomax for BPH. He said the erection issue was psychological and a prescription for Viagra would help get my confidence back.
In Dec 2009, I tried the Viagra and it gave me the hardest erection of my life. So hard it hurt at times. After a few weeks of using it I began have pain in my pelvic floor muscles. Then in Jan 2010 I suffered a terrible priapism which made my pelvic floor muscles tighten for nearly 8 hrs. My whole pelvic floor region was numb for a week. During that week my girlfriend gave me a hand job which gave me terrible shooting pains on the sides of my penis and in the ischiocavernosus muscles in the pelvic floor. From that day forward, my symptoms have been:
1. Loss of stability from left to right at the base.
2. Very week or no nocturnal/morning erections
3. Inability to maintain an erection
4. Instability at the base of the penis from left to right
5. Premature ejaculation
For example: I can get an erection but without the contraction of the ischiocavernosus muscles and their function to constrict blood flow from the two corpora cavernosa I begin to loose rigidity and the erection. I must use constant stimulation to keep blood flowing into the penis. However, the constant stimulation leads to over stimulation and premature ejaculation.
Over the past year and half I've seen numerous urologist and specialist who have all looked at this as a vascular or a suspensory ligament issue. However, after numerous examinations, penile doplers and even an angiogram study they all show I have great blood flow, there is no sign of venous leak and a stretched or torn PSL has been ruled out. My own research points to damage of the ischiocavenosus muscles and or nerves. On Friday, July 15th I met with a well know penile implant doctor in NYC and he confirmed I likely tore the muscles or the tunica albiguina (sheet around my penis). There is nothing he can do. Even with an implant, I will not have the sensation I once had and my erect penis will hang or point downward.
I just wanted to say hi and meet my new family. I'm very depressed the past few days because I just found out my ED is likely permanent. (Full story below) Please tell me it's not the end of the world. I need support right now and as a single guy in his late 30's I don't have anyone to lean on. I've just started dating someone but have not revealed anything to her. We haven't had sex yet and I'm scared to tell her. She so great. I just prey she's understanding because I am falling for her and she for me. Does any of this sound familiar to anyone.
Sorry for sad hello.
-Jug
Single, white guy in his late 30's. This is my story.
Since early 2006 I began noticing a decline in my ability to clench my pelvic floor muscles. It was at this point I began have urinary issues and very, very mild ED. I was still able to maintain an erection, although the erections were just a bit less rigid than before. I went to a urologist and he said I have mild BPH. He gave me a prescription for Flomax for BPH. He said the erection issue was psychological and a prescription for Viagra would help get my confidence back.
In Dec 2009, I tried the Viagra and it gave me the hardest erection of my life. So hard it hurt at times. After a few weeks of using it I began have pain in my pelvic floor muscles. Then in Jan 2010 I suffered a terrible priapism which made my pelvic floor muscles tighten for nearly 8 hrs. My whole pelvic floor region was numb for a week. During that week my girlfriend gave me a hand job which gave me terrible shooting pains on the sides of my penis and in the ischiocavernosus muscles in the pelvic floor. From that day forward, my symptoms have been:
1. Loss of stability from left to right at the base.
2. Very week or no nocturnal/morning erections
3. Inability to maintain an erection
4. Instability at the base of the penis from left to right
5. Premature ejaculation
For example: I can get an erection but without the contraction of the ischiocavernosus muscles and their function to constrict blood flow from the two corpora cavernosa I begin to loose rigidity and the erection. I must use constant stimulation to keep blood flowing into the penis. However, the constant stimulation leads to over stimulation and premature ejaculation.
Over the past year and half I've seen numerous urologist and specialist who have all looked at this as a vascular or a suspensory ligament issue. However, after numerous examinations, penile doplers and even an angiogram study they all show I have great blood flow, there is no sign of venous leak and a stretched or torn PSL has been ruled out. My own research points to damage of the ischiocavenosus muscles and or nerves. On Friday, July 15th I met with a well know penile implant doctor in NYC and he confirmed I likely tore the muscles or the tunica albiguina (sheet around my penis). There is nothing he can do. Even with an implant, I will not have the sensation I once had and my erect penis will hang or point downward.