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Hi all. Name's Alan. Interesting stuff on this forum.

I am 53 years young, and am in reasonable shape. Ok...so-so shape. I don't like to exercise much---hate it really. Gyms and exercise machines just aren't my thing. Walking is, biking is, aerobics is. Oh, and sex is too. Only one problem with the latter...Uncle Willy doesn't seem to understand that much anymore.

Everything was dandy until last summer, 2010. Almost 2 1/2 years removed from my divorce, living alone, I was able to perform very well. Of course, I was performing alone and I am not so sure that really counts. I had a few dates with women but none led to sex. Not one. Then, in late July 2010, I met my current girlfriend...and lover.

And almost immediately, I realized something wasn't kosher with Willy. (Why do people put names to their dicks anyway?) Despite being so turned on, Willy just laid there, mocking me. Eventually, with enough coaxing and prodding, he responded, but only to hand stimulation. This continues most of the time to this day.

Now I have been to numerous urologists, had tests done and everything medically checks out. I have high blood pressure but it is not off the charts (140/88) and my cholesterol is around 215. Most docs say it is a result of age. At 52? I don't buy that!

Anyway, there is more to this story and my condition, but to keep it short, Cialis works for me very well 90% of the time. Sometimes I take 20mg of Cialis and 10mg of Levitra few hours later and that usually keeps me hard enough for one session. I can usually get hard by hand stimulation but as soon as penetration becomes an option, it's bye-bye Willy. This is not a case of performance anxiety either. There are a few occasions where intercourse works well...with the meds. I hate the meds. And having been with my girl for 14 months now should alleviate all performance anxieties. And while I do not really wish to be 20 again, I want to be able to respond spontaneously as though I am in my 20's.

I will post more in other forums once I figure out what the other forums talk about.

Thanks for your ears.
Alan

Alan, you will get lots of advice and information from this site. I think this first began happening to me when I was in my fifties, and certainly things began to deteriorate more as time went on. One of the best things that has happened to me was getting testosterone shots every ten days. That definitely increased the libido; it doesn't sound as though you are lacking in libido, but then, again testosterone affects other areas, as well. Things like self-confidence, assertiveness, and just general well-being are all affected by testosterone or the lack of it. Having been a member of this site only a month or so myself, I would refer you to some of the many discussion areas here for more information. Even those that I didn't think would interest me much at first I have found very pertinent to my situation. Check out the chat room occasionally for some interesting conversations and opportunities to ask questions and contribute to the discussions in real time. Also, don't forget to check for personal messages on the upper left of your open screen next to "User Control Panel." This is a very user friendly site, but you have to poke around a little to find some of the really great features. If you don't want to let it all hang out in one of our open forums, you can sometimes discuss things more privately with an "expert" in a private message. I personally like this site because it's a place where we can be frank and caring with each other.

Alan:

Welcome, this is a good place. Understand with you, while I have no desire to be 20 again, I would like a better response from him and would like the spontaneous surge from time to time. Ah, let the "Good Times Roll". I am here because of PCa and robotic surgery so my story is different. I am pleased to hear that you get a good response from the pill. I am currently using pill and pump as part of my rehab.

You might consider adding a pumping program to your regimen. That will bring blood into the shaft and may help things along. There is also the option of using a ring with the pump and slipping it off for sex. You WILL be ready but remember to release the ring within 20 minutes or so. If you have not pumped before use a pump-release method as you raise the big boy to full attention. You really don't need an expensive pump to start; just make sure it is one that will allow a ring. Your local adult toy store should have a selection. As for a ring, I would suggest an "OSBON" ring. They come in four sizes and with the little "handles" they are easy to use. There is a lot of information under the "Treatment Section" and the "Discussion Forum" so consider looking those over.

Hopefully soon, you will be able to shop in the Franktalk Marketplace for a pump with privacy and a selection of items which members have used and found useful. As soon as the Foundation (Erectile Dysfunction Foundation) can raise the $$ to cover the start-up cost we all will be able to shop with privacy and in a secure setting. But, until then, an adventure to an adult toy store is interesting- I was surprised with the items I never knew I needed or thought about. . .

Please join the chat room and ask ?'s. There is a lot of experience there and the topics can be bawdy but fun. We are all guys, regardless of cause, fighting the same problem. Good to have you in the clan!

If I can be of assistance please let me know.

Regards,

Dick

O2B,

Hey welcome to the site -- hope you get some good info while you are here.

Speaking of good info, your mention of HBP 140/88 (yeah that is HBP) set off an alarm in my head. A cursory google search will pop up tons of HBP vs Erectile articles. All pretty ominous. And not only does HBP by itself contribute to problems, but Beta-Blocker meds and diuretics used to treat HBP are also know to aggravate erection issues. Even for people with normal BP, in the heat of battle and exertions of intercourse can easily raise BP rates pretty high if you are out of shape physically and cause things to take a downturn. I use Trimix and I have even seen it happen with those rock hard, nearly impervious to anything including Kryptonite erections that can temporarily soften when heart rate and BP goes up. Sometimes a guy just can't win.

So I suppose a good cardio training program might help?

So forget about all the reasons to get in good shape -- good erections is the one and only reason you would ever need, yah?

J

02b:

Welcome aboard.

You mentioned having high bp. Are you on a med for that condition?

As another man said- beta blockers and some other bp meds can turn willie into a sad little guy.

I had been using propanolol to address some symptoms of ptsd. It's pretty effective at that, but it kicked my libido in the head. Off that medication, and 20 mg cialis once per week changed everything. Not to get too graphic, but I have no worries about accidentally rolling out of bed at night.

That's my story and I'm stickin to it.

buster