Implants

[Faith95]

For the younger guys out there with implants, please share your experiences with it and how confident you have been with your device. Thanks!!

[Lost Sheep]

I am not a young guy, but since no one has stepped up, here I am.

Before implant I was very un-confident in my erections. More to the point, in the later years of my E.D. history I was confident my erection would be insufficient, if present at all.

After implant, I was not confident at all I would remember how to fuck. Even though my penis was rigid as it ever was in my teenage years and in appearance was virtually indistinguishable from my natural erection. (It was a little more oval in cross-section than it used to be.)

Still, it took a couple of months of successful coitus to get that nagging suspicion that I would not be able (or remember) to move my hips, etc in the customary ways without my penis sabotaging my efforts.

About a year post-op all those nagging questions were completely gone.

These before and after remarks may or may not resonate with your experience.

Before: If one position was not good for her, we could not switch to try another. If we disengaged, and stimulation of my penis ceased my erecion would collapse irretrievably. Trying new positions was simply not within the realm of possibility.

After: If we desire to try a new position (for any reason at all - wrinkles in the bedsheet, wanting a different stimulation, leg or arm falling "asleep" mere curiosity - anything), we can easily disengage, move, get a drink of water, consult a list of alternate positions in a sex manual and go back at it.

Before: When I had an erection, there was an urgent race to use it before it disappeared. ("Quick, before it melts!") And if I had a decent erection, I felt obligated to use it - they were so rare. Being as patient with her if she was not in the mood essentially wasted the erection-it was so fleeting.

Also, the "obligation to use" applied to erections by medication as well. The number of erections per year (because supply of medication) was limited.

Kind of like total eclipses of the sun. If we don't catch this one, the next will be a long time in coming.

After: I can pump up to an erection and see if she is in the mood. If not, no harm, no foul, I simply let it down and proceed with life as normal. We can do a little foreplay or talk or take care of other business and see when her mood changes. Essentially, I can now be patient. I have an unlimited supply of new erections if I don't use this one. It is not wasted.

Kind of like sunrises. If I don't get a great picture of this one, there will be another tomorrow (or, in fact, I can produce a sunrise at will, any time of the day, or multiple times per day).

Now, having pointed those advantages of my artificial erections over dysfunctional erections, I am compelled to point out two advantages of natural erections if they are fully functional.

I have credible reports that a functional erection can last for tens of minutes and, after orgasm/ejaculation, return after a 20-60 minute refractory period of rest.

A natural erection grows when a man's partner administers attention to it. This can be edifying to that partner (as well as the man) as the erection responds.

[notaes]

Lost Sheep

Thank you for your post. I had my implant January 9, 2020! I have always been very confident in my love making skills but I must say I have had some strange thoughts with regard to how this implant will effect those skills. I have to wait six weeks before activation with my doctor. I have never gone six weeks in my entire life! Will I forget how to make good passionate love with my wife of 36 yrs? I must say I have had lots of crazy thoughts! Your post was encouraging! Thank you.

[Lost Sheep]

Lost Sheep

Thank you for your post. I had my implant January 9, 2020! I have always been very confident in my love making skills but I must say I have had some strange thoughts with regard to how this implant will effect those skills. I have to wait six weeks before activation with my doctor. I have never gone six weeks in my entire life! Will I forget how to make good passionate love with my wife of 36 yrs? I must say I have had lots of crazy thoughts! Your post was encouraging! Thank you.

You are welcome. I added some thoughts to that post, too, so please re-read.

Now, to both you and the O.P.:

I also will note that women are INCREDIBLY supportive if they feel engaged in the process, respected, trusted valued and safe. Even if you completely forget how to have sex, love will find a way. She, I am 100% confident will teach you anew how to make "good passionate love" with her. (Note that I use the word "with", and not "to" -as you also did- for sex, at its best, is a cooperative endeavor.

It actually IS quite like riding a bicycle. Once learned, you don't forget. I spent a few years not riding a bicycle and when I got on one again, it was a little awkward and unsteady, but a few minutes later, I was completely back in the groove and comfortable on the machine. Getting back on/in another person is a little more complex than the inanimate bicycle, but because sex is a natural act some instinct will help you out and the cooperation of the other person will make it a LOT more fun even than it ever was before. Take advantage of your wife as a teacher! She, I expect, will jump at the chance to be your "coach" if you invite her.

So, I recommend sharing your trepidations with her. No doubt, she will support you, for it is to her everlasting benefit to bring you along to being the lover she desires. Women rarely get to be the guide during sex. Let her, invite her and she will open up to you in ways you never imagined. When you learn these "secrets" of womanly ways, you will be much more able to take the initiative in your love-making in the future - to BOTH your delights.

[Frederickdave]

Notaes...Like Lost Sheep said, youll not forget. I had those same thoughts also. Whether you're making love, or just having fun, lustful sex, having an implant is so much better than a natural erection.There's no question whether or not you can perform. You can go as fast or slow as you wish depending on your (both of you) collective moods. You can try new things knowing your erection wont fail you. You can stop, rest, then start again. Your physical conditioning becomes your limiting factor. Your confidence is catching, playful. The old saying, "what I used to do all night, now takes me all night to do," takes on a new meaning. Rarely, except when we were very young did we spend hours having sex. It's common practice now. I dont recommend getting an implant before you need one, but dont hesitate when that time comes. Better living and loving through modern medicine. We live in a great time. Have fun with it.

[notaes]

Frederickdave

Thank you man for those kind words. I’ve heard it hundred times how much better it will be when you no longer have to physically worry about keeping your erection. Can’t wait to try it out and give it all I’ve got which isn’t much at this point. Thank you again!

[stephen54]

Notaes...Like Lost Sheep said, youll not forget. I had those same thoughts also. Whether you're making love, or just having fun, lustful sex, having an implant is so much better than a natural erection.There's no question whether or not you can perform. You can go as fast or slow as you wish depending on your (both of you) collective moods. You can try new things knowing your erection wont fail you. You can stop, rest, then start again. Your physical conditioning becomes your limiting factor. Your confidence is catching, playful. The old saying, "what I used to do all night, now takes me all night to do," takes on a new meaning. Rarely, except when we were very young did we spend hours having sex. It's common practice now. I dont recommend getting an implant before you need one, but dont hesitate when that time comes. Better living and loving through modern medicine. We live in a great time. Have fun with it.

EXACTLY.

Said perfectly. And 100% agreed.