Women's attitudes may change as they get experience and as their values change, but by and large, they make love to the man, not the penis.
I saw an ad on Craigslist (a few years ago when CL still did personal ads) by a woman who specified that no man under 8" would be considered. I considered her either immature or possessed by an abnormal vagina. In either case, if I were a young man, I would avoid her company as not worth my time for a woman as shallow as that.
Maybe if I were only interested in a good fuck (good being a VERY iffy term) would I bed down with a woman who was more interested in my penis than in my character. Same goes for any woman more interested in my wallet than my character. (I recall on guy who warned me off of a woman by saying that she was only interested in what was in my pants....my wallet.)
My advice is to cultivate relationships with women of character. They will be more interested in YOU than in your penis and as far as sex is concerned barely interested at all in HOW you get your erection than in what you do with it.
Rawness, I know from your other posts that you are less prurient than my advice immediately following this paragraph, but put those caveats in for men with more flexible moral strictures than yourself.
However, if all you are interested in is "getting your stinger wet" (a quote from President Harry Truman), consider that women who care about your chatacter should be selected out of your candidate list and you should focus your energies on women who (but for different reasons) do not care how you get your erection, but in what you do with it. You might consider selecting out those women by wearing one of the t-shirts suggested in this thread:
viewtopic.php?f=6&t=12167But don't set your expectations too high. Such women tend to be non-monogamous, so use condoms.
To anyone reading and considering this question, "Do you want a one-night fuck, a fuck buddy or a lover?" The answer will change your search criteria, your results....and your future satisfaction with life.
Of course, I do recognize that a (young) man might be concerned about how his reputation might be deliberately damaged by a jealous woman furious over being scorned (or feeling like she has been scorned or dumped). If your social standing would be changed by general knowledge that you depend on medications or other "artificial" means for your erections),that is a different minefield of dating within a social circle. Or you might consider switching your social circle. It IS a lifestyle choice.