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Hey! I´m a 24 y.o guy. Very healthy. I practice sports every day. Great friends, social life, etc. Checked my testosterone levels and stuff, and it is all fine. Sildenafil did not work.

The first time I tried to have sex, was when I was 16 years old. Since then, I tried many times, but I can never keep an erection for more than a minute. Most of the times I can´t even get an erection.

Last week I had to turn down a girl that I really like, just because I didn´t want her to know about my issue. So, I would really really like to get this over with.

I am pretty sure, that I have performance anxiety and (at least a little) of porn induced ED. I just gave up on porn. But I don´t know what to do. Where I live, there are no sex specialist psychologists. Does anyone have an idea on what I can do? Maybe something online? I´m deep in the dark, so anything helps.

Speak with an Urologist. Preferably one that is open to ruling out physical reasons 1st.

What about man ... can you maintain an erection when you masturbate? ...... does it depend on posture? ..... or do you only have that problem in sexual intercourse? .... if it is an anxiety problem, you could use trazodone with daily 5mg cialis and test how it works... and i say you... i am 23 years old and i have venous leak and probably peryone too... Don't worry you If your problem is anxiety this one be easy solvable.....good luck

Andrea.gut wrote:Last week I had to turn down a girl that I really like, just because I didn´t want her to know about my issue. So, I would really really like to get this over with.

I advise you to "buck up" and go for it. And "get this over with" is not an attitude I recommend. Once you have tasted sex, you will NEVER want it "over with", but will desire new thresholds to cross. And if you carry the right attitude to the relationship, so will she.

Life is too short to miss the joys of sex and too long to endure its absence.
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I recall, even younger women (who, presumably do not have the maturity to appreciate the finer aspects of manhood and who also have a greater appetite for raw sex) are incredibly supportive if they feel trusted, respected and safe.  

I went on a dating site and was honest about my inability to have sex and that I was intending to have an implant to fix that problem.   My honesty and candor was commented on several times as "brave" and "refreshing".

Don't waste a day of a potential relationship just because sex may be difficult.  There are other (and some are better) ways for a woman to have and to give orgasms.  Also, orgasms are not the only joy of sex.  

When my E.D. began the transition towards impotence, I learned cunnilingus and how to use my hands and exual aids (toys) to masturbate her.  These skills (even after my implanted penis is unstoppable) are still useful and QUITE appreciated.

Trust her.  Let her know by your words and actions that you want to please her and that trust her with your innermost secrets. 

Andrea.gut wrote:I am pretty sure, that I have performance anxiety

I am pretty sure, if you follow my advice, level with her that your penis may not work, but you will attend to her sexual desires in any way she likes and that works, she will have her expectations adjusted to reduce pressure on you to "perform". Then, as you get intimate, slowly progressing through kissing, petting and mutual masturbation, your penis will stand up. Maybe even perform with penetration. But if it doesn't, she will know of and trust your affection for her and that will be OK. Ok with both of you.

It’s great that you are looking for information and learning what you can online, but getting examined by a physician, hopefully a urologist, will be an important part of the process.

This will be a process and you will need to be the one to pursue it, but it will be worth it.

Where are you located? There are members here from all over the world and they my know physicians in your area.

Do you have difficultly with erections ONLY when you are with a partner? Or do you sometimes have difficulty when you are alone? Do you get spontaneous erections? Do you wake up with erections in the morning? Can you get erect when you masturbate? How often do you have difficulty with erections when you have been with a partner? All of this information will be helpful for a urologist to zero in on the cause of your erectile dysfunction.

There are a lot of tools at your disposal to help you get erections, but there are a number of steps that need to be taken first. Find a physician and make an appointment for an examination to start.

Hang in there. It will be worth it.

Brian

What GW said.