Advice for upcoming appointment

[SquadCaptain74]

Happy to have a convo. PM me and we can set some time to chat.

[Old Guy]

Unfortunately, some docs will blow off a young guy complaining of ED. "It's in your head!" Then they prescribe pills that may or may not work, not to mention the possible side effects of those pills.
My suggestion is find a new doc. Search for a men's urologist who does implants. They can run tests to determine if it's a physical issue.

[Old Guy]

Search for a men's urologist who does implants. They can run tests to determine if it's a physical issue.

Tests are good, but I don't want to get a doctor that will view me as the next customer on the assembly line. I'd rather have a careful conservative approach rather than invasive surgery if it's not really time for that.

Your signature says no tests done? I have to say if your ED is due to a previous injury, and hasn't healed yet, being conservative might only offer you partial results if any. A good surgeon won't treat you like the next customer but realize that a good doc will be a busy person.

[Txagq8]

PSSD: first things first. Don’t give up. Yes, my fight with ED started a long time before Your’s (dinosaurs roamed the earth, it was the 1980s, some doctors’ offices still had ashtrays, and any number of specialists told me it was all in my head, relax, have a glass of wine beforehand).

Frankly, I say piss on the doctors who start with a urine specimen for an ED visit. I knew I was going to the right doctor when the check in desk started to give me a cup, then took it back, saying “you’re here for an ED consult, we don’t need a specimen unless the doctor says to get one after he examines you.

I can’t tell you what to do. Well, I could try, but ultimately every adult has to make his or her own decisions.

Dr. Sweeney & his clinic took your money (or your insurance company’s money) under false pretenses. You made a good faith effort to find the sort of doctor who could address your issues and he really doesn’t do everything he advertised. I’d probably go back down there and demand a refund. Then again I’m 66, a retired Army officer, and pretty cantankerous. It would not hurt, however, to make contact. I might even suggest they have the doctor call you when he can. At that point I would insist (for insurance and other purposes) that he provide you with a referral to a clinic that does specialize in sexual health issues. Don’t take no for an answer. You may or may not choose to go where he refers you. But don’t tell me a urologist doesn’t know which other doctors within traveling distance are good and cutting edge and can get you where you need to go. That’s how I’ve handled my medical care for years. I made friends of one of the guys that followed my son’s CP. he’s at a large teaching hospital. Then, when I’d have an issue, I’d call him up and say “who’s the best in that department?”

I went thru similar shit 1999-2000 time frame. After a busted visit to a urologist who had me pee in a cup and tell me he thought it was all in my head (despite a 1988 DICC study that said otherwise once and for all) I ended up at the University of Kansas med school for a full work up.

It’s a lick on Dr. Sweeney for overpromising and underdelivering. Don’t let neglecting to insist on a referral to somebody who can help be a lick on you. You don’t even have to be a crusty, obnoxious asshole like me (although sometimes that’s fun).

The right doc is out there. It ought not be such a challenge to find him or her, but it is. Good luck.