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The Villages, Fl here

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The Villages, Fl here

[Hartbraker]

I am Jeff from Tampa, partnered for 24 years. Diagnosed with Prostate Cancer at the age of 45 y/o and had robotic prostatectomy 2 months after receiving the news. About 6 months after surgery, I started with injections. TriMix was prescribed but I couldn’t get the dosage correct, I would have 3-4 hr erections. Sounds like fun but it was really painful and I hated it. Finally doc changed me to BiMix and it works well. I can maintain an erection after injecting for 1 - 1.5 hrs. Having ED for me has been as much about the mental/emotional part as the physical part. Still feel inadequate much of the time. Miss shooting a load (I can still orgasm) and spontaneity in my sex life. My partner has been supportive as he can but he will never really truly understand. Even with ED, I continue to have a very high sex drive. HMU if you are interested in chatting further.

[Theboyracer]

Lou here in NJ just outside of NYC. Just turned 50 been struggling with ED for about 15 years, after colon cancer. On injections now, finally exhausted all options now seriously considering implant. Looking forward to some encouragement.
Thanks.

[calixtus]

This outstanding blog is an education in implant: http://rugbydave.blogspot.com/2012/

[calixtus]

Southwest Florida here.

Psychogenic cause of ed much exaggerated. Work on assumption of physical issues. In my case smoking a pack a day from ages 16-23. Later aggravated by prostatectomy. Let urologist investigate.

[Jaypeep]

49 year old in Portland, OR here. First time posting. Been lurking and reading a lot. It’s a relief to see others who have common experiences and understand all the different aspects of this and how it impacts you.

[Alex-Dys]

Hello guys ...

100% gay man here. Not much at all into "anal" sex (maybe "top" a few times in my lifetime).

Had large B-Cell Lymphoma in 2015. I was 55 back then. Had a tumor the size of a tennis ball - just outside my rectum near the prostate.

Tumor was treated and I'm fine now.

Also had prostate cancer, very small Gleason 6 1 out of 12 cores. Had to radiate because my rectum was going to be radiated. Can't radiate the same area ore than once.

A year after that I began to notice the expected: Erectile Dysfunction. Had IMRT (radiation). A year go I did the shockwave thing - it helped. An ultrasound found me to be "not sever" - about mild-moderate.

Now... as far as gay men think, we focus on a man's dick and not much the size, but the hardness and the squirting afterwards. I used to shoot in small puddles. Now I shoot in small droplets.

My case is a double whammy: I can't please men. And a lot of my own feeling is gone. I used to be a wild relentless sick-minded chronic masturbater. I can share stories that will make a raunchy porn video seem lame.

I get extremely frustrated at times when I remember what I used to do vs. now.

Can anyone here relate to my story?

60 year old. Had lymphoma and PCa.

[Hartbraker]

Hi Alex - sorry to hear about all you have been through. I definitely understand the frustration of then vs. now. I had prostate cancer and a prostatectomy in 2012 at 45 y/o and still struggle with this same feelings. Mine range from sadness to anger and any place in between. I tried to bury my feelings for a while but that ultimately didn’t work. Every day is different, some better than others. This group has been a great resource of support and strength. You are not alone in your feelings!

If you would like to reach, send me a private message here to talk further.

Jeff

[Alex-Dys]

Hi Hartbraker,

I sent you a pm. Did you receive it?

This portal is not showing the message, as it is also not showing you initial pm.

- Alex