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I have often wondered why anyone (male or female) would want to perform fellatio without some sort of reciprocation. Call it trading orgasms?

I have guessed that there must be some satisfaction in generating one or more of these results.

I write this in the first person to avoid gender-specific language and because I have only been able to imagine answers to the question by thinking in the first person. I have even asked girlfriends what they get out of fellation. None have given me definitive, solid answers.

Seeing a growing erection in response to my ministrations

Feeling a growing erection spreading my jaws apart

Giving pleasure to another (not unlike giving a back rub, combing someone's long hair, preparing a delicious meal, etc)

A feeling of accomplishment provided by making someone orgasm. Could be a power thing?

Liking the taste of semen, the feel of it in my mouth or the pulsing of the penile orgasm (with or without semen) in my mouth

Oral fixation; having a penis in my mouth, filling it with the (unique) texture of penis' skin. Might be comparable to the oral fixation that some
smokers (cigarettes vaping, pipe or cigar smoking; just something to do with my hands and mouth)j have. To be sure, it is safer than tobacco and not fattening!

Psycho-social reasons, having "scored" on someone or something like that.

Have I left anything out? Surely I must have.

I might ask the reciprocal question, "What does someone get out of non-reciprocated cunnilingus?" Or masturbating someone without reciprocation.

I am a 72 year old who is in a solid marriage for 47 years. After having prostate cancer and having a prostatectomy I no longer produce cum to ejaculate. I have never had any experience sexually with another man but have those desires for the last few years which have not been acted upon. Don't really know why I guess.

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PSSDorAmINormal wrote:Perhaps someone can let me know why this seems so important to M2M interactions. Why so many personal ads on the net of men wanting to do oral? Some ads are very direct right to the point explaining what they want. Some make it very clear no recip.

I wonder why the men like to do this so much but yet they don't want any attention themselves.

These kinds of ads don't really suit me. I wonder what kind of ad would I need to be on to be able to attract the right kind of mutual attention and not just a random oral or anal encounter. At my age I don't even think things would work properly if I wasn't somehow aroused. It just seems like there should be something in between random hookups and going all the way to the other side of marriage. Am I talking about "friendship" territory or what am I rambling about?

"at my age", PSSDorAmINormal what would your age be, sign if you can

INDIANA BONES wrote:I am a 72 year old who is in a solid marriage for 47 years. After having prostate cancer and having a prostatectomy I no longer produce cum to ejaculate. I have never had any experience sexually with another man but have those desires for the last few years which have not been acted upon. Don't really know why I guess.

I have no ejaculate either following cancer treatment. It's very frustrating to have guys want to suck me but also demand a "big load" and then block me when I say I don't produce anything. I guess I should just lie.

MuscleDaddyRWC wrote:

INDIANA BONES wrote:I am a 72 year old who is in a solid marriage for 47 years. After having prostate cancer and having a prostatectomy I no longer produce cum to ejaculate. I have never had any experience sexually with another man but have those desires for the last few years which have not been acted upon. Don't really know why I guess.

I have no ejaculate either following cancer treatment. It's very frustrating to have guys want to suck me but also demand a "big load" and then block me when I say I don't produce anything. I guess I should just lie.

Treating cancer is a mixed blessing.

First I shojld note that I am straight, but semen (and its appreciators) knows no gender boundaries.

My first real lover did not like having to sleep in the "wet spot", little realizing that the wet spot tended to follow her around. Nowadays, as I contemplate how much my current lover likes swallowing (and having bought a bunch of pineapple having read that certain foods like pineapple make a man's semen taste better) I will be disappointed that after October 24, I will no longer have any semen (since I will not longer have a prostrate gland).

So, having had lovers who like to swallow and lovers who don't, I do not know if I like the idea of not having any semen for them to taste and appreciate (or decry).

I will not miss the mess. I will miss the feeling of power shooting a load gives.

Lost Sheep- Well said. You nailed it.

I think those offers to suck with no reciprocation wanted are from guys with severe ED or inability to ejaculate themselves. Other possibility is having a very small or deformed penis they are too embarrassed to expose to anyone.

My theory is they vicariously share in the feeder’s orgasm via the cum pumping into their mouth. It sort of provides the sexual release they are either too embarrassed or physically can’t have with their own penis.

Flounder wrote:I think those offers to suck with no reciprocation wanted are from guys with severe ED or inability to ejaculate themselves. Other possibility is having a very small or deformed penis they are too embarrassed to expose to anyone.

My theory is they vicariously share in the feeder’s orgasm via the cum pumping into their mouth. It sort of provides the sexual release they are either too embarrassed or physically can’t have with their own penis.

I think you're right about that. When I got ED, I'd rather just get fucked or give the other guy oral, didn't even want anyone to touch my penis since it didn't really work anymore. I was mad at it, and it often just took me out of the mood for sex altogether.

My perspective FWIW.... I am ALL about giving pleasure. I love to suck guys and give them supreme pleasure. I've never really liked my own dick sucked anyway (I'm a top and I LOVE doing THAT) but just not into receiving oral. We all have our own likes and dislikes... I say, just go with it. Be you, do you.




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