Erection comes and goes during sex

[ElectricPotato]

I'm 48 and the first signs of ED came about a couple of years ago.
I have no problem at all with desire. Its just that my penis doesn't always cooperate.
I can get it up - though its not nearly as hard as it was just a few years ago.
Problem is, I lose the erection at some point while inside my wife.
When this happens, a blowjob will usually bring it back to life and I can finish the job.
But sometimes that doesn't quite help enough.
I never lose it while masturbating so I figured that was a clue. I had my wife stroke me with her hand instead, and found that I maintained a longer, harder erection.
Then I would get inside her again and try to finish the job quickly before it goes down again.


My doc gave me a cialis sample. So far, I haven't noticed much difference with the pills, except she says the head seems more firm and full.

I'm not a heavy smoker but I usually do have at least one cigar per day. From reading up on ED, I know that smoking can contribute to issues.

Are these symptoms of ED indicative of anything in particular?

Is it just a result of 30-something years of masturbating like a spider-monkey?

[dtwarren1942]

I'm 48
Is it just a result of 30-something years of masturbating like a spider-monkey?

Could be a result of both the above.

You may want to try a stretchy silicone cock ring to maintain the blood. Adamandeve offers a nice beaded silicone cock ring that worked well for me when my ED first started.

[newtoed]

I had a similar problem. Make sure that you get perfectly hard before you enter her. Even if you go in at 90% you may lose the erection. There are a couple of pairs of muscles that are hugging your penis like natural cock rings and when you get hard they get really tight around your penis not letting the blood out.
I also found that when I'm inpatient and start intercourse before I get really hard I also want to orgasm too soon. Entering her hard prevents that too.
Even one cigar will shot down your circulation significantly especially at the end of extremities where the blood sharply turns around: finger tip, toes and of course the mighty penis.
I hope this helps you as well.
Les