Womens reaction to ED

[shipper222001]

Guys. what has been the reacton of your wives or GFs to your Ed? Have they been supportive? A friend of mine told me that he and his GF had great sex until she found out he was using Viagra. Seems that some women think if a guy can't get it up naturally its because they dont get turned on by their spouse or Gf.

Also on a similar note, do you get upset if your partner doesn't have an orgasm. I recently read that 83% of women have confessed to faking an orgasm as to not hurt their partner's ego or have the guy think they wre frigid.

[Matthew]

Most women I know love to be told they look beautiful or pretty etc. There is fullfilment that a women needs that comes only from a partner that is attracted to them. I think it is normal. It is not hard to realize that if they have this need, it would also be fulfilled in having "confirmation" that they are sexually attractive in bed. So if a women who did not know finds out you have to have "aids" to get an erection with her.....well, I dont think its hard to figure out. The tough challenge is to give "confirmation" to your partner inspite of that I suppose. My wife has been supportive but has had some frustration too. Things are looking up ( pardon pun) and should be able to have sex by end of week since I now have a new implant. She knows it is peyroines that played the role in ED but people will be human and struggle. My wife loves sex and her orgasms are too strong to fake usually (: If she could not orgasm she would just let me. She alway give her best and a few times has gotten close but did not quite orgasm Those times are very few. Stress is a big one.

[shipper222001]

Women seem to be hung up on this. My wife had some dicsussions with some of her single friends who are dating and they seem to feel that a man should get an erection on his own and are turned off by the idea a man would take something. She TOTALY disagrees with them!!! All she cares about is that it gets up and stays up long enough for her to get her enjoyment.

Before I started to use Trimix, sex was hit and miss. Our lovemaking was very rushed because we were both afraid I would lose it. It was frustration for her. Now since using trimix Im "batting" 100% and I stay hard for 2 hours. She is very pleased. Again she could care less now i got an erection. She even gets me arouses so I have a biggest area to inject and massges it in after injection.

Yesterday we had our regular bi-weekly "date" . I last for well over 2 hours. We had seconds and she had multi orgasms.

[trimix60]

I have had sex now with 2 ladies using trimix, one was 56 years old and my new GF is 37..... the reaction from both of them was very supportive when they could see that the sex was normal....in fact, they were really excited when they could see that a 2 hr erection to please them totally was possible....I think it is how it is presented, only at the last minute before the first time you have sex...

I did tell my new GF about my prostate operation and she looked it up on the internet and found out about the ED problems and what men can do about that....she was already educated when I told her about my use of trimix....she said she wanted to help me with rehab ....and I tell you that having an understanding women with you really makes a difference....I found that I was having more and more natural reactions from the mindful and physical stimulation of having good sex with an accepting partner....

Cheers,

Curt

[dtwarren1942]

I think your partner's reaction very much depends on the strength of your relationship and how long you have been in the relationship. I had been married for over 20 years when my ED reared its ugly head. During the next 20 years, my loving friend and wife never expressed disappoint in our relationship and was very supportive as the ED continued to progress. We did express disappointment over weak performances, but for the most part we laughed about it and looked forward to the next encounter after tweaking of the pills, constriction, and finally Trimix dosage. I never recall her once expressing and negative comments regarding our loving relationship.

Not sure this would be the case in a short term or rocky relationship.

[shipper222001]

What wonderful stories!!! Great women

[ontopher469]

It's widely reported that most women do not have an orgasm during vagina penetration. But, about 100% of women have an orgasm when the man gives her clitoris oral sex. So, it's an absolute must to make sure you get her to full orgasm before you even think about ejaculation! Your partner will be completely satisfied after she orgasms.

Whether you have ED should not be an issue for her getting to orgasm. She will be grateful for you satisfying her!

[dg_moore]

My wife was very supportive on the long ED road and was happy with the results I had with Viagra. When that quit working she patiently put up with me fumbling around with a VED, which we both hated, a couple of ridiculous gadgets (anybody remember the Intim Tango from Norway, and the Condex from South Africa?) and injections, which never worked regardless of script or dosage. By this time (a matter of some years) she finally lost all interest and was perfectly happy without any form of sex. When I broached the subject of an implant she said "Don't think you're doing this for me." I went ahead and got it in 2008, but I had a stroke that killed my desire and we have never used it. We have now been totally platonic, and perfectly happy, for nearly 10 years. We're in our 70s now, the age at which sex wanes for most people anyway, and do not feel any loss. Sex is something we used to do, but don't any more, and our relationship is none the worse for its lack.

[Lost Sheep]

A couple of observations, quoting women who candidly revealed their thoughts to me.

A woman was distressed by the fact that a man she was with did not have an orgasm (it was, he explained, because he had just enough alcohol to supperss orgasm, but not enough to suppress erection - a narrow band for most men). But still, she was distressed and questioned her attractiveness/sexiness/sexuality.

I posted an ad on "Plenty of Fosh" and on "Craigslist" candidly announcing my ED and my intention to take steps to cure it (and the likelihood of an implant as the solution). I also placed an ad, less candid on "Match.Com" The number of respondents who commented that they were attracted by my bravery (their characterization, not mine) in honestly publicizing my infirmity was astounding.

Some were simply supportive. Some came with advice. Some came with sincere offers to help me through the process up to and including offering to participate in being my experimental partner for my erectile function, before and after surgery.

My conclusion: Women are INCREDIBLY supportive of a man they trust and who is honest with them.

So, I will ALWAYS tell the truth to my significant other. Even at the risk of my ego or even our relationship. The true odds are that, rather than weakening her feelings fo9r you, they will strengthen them. Love3, respect, passion. All are enhanced by truth.

In short, my conclusion is that when you trust your woman (even with your weaknesses), she will love you all the more.

At around the time he negotiated the Israeli-Palestinian Peace Accord, Henry Kissinger famously said, "Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac". Honesty may or may not be the superior aphrodisiac, but in the absence of the kind of power Secretary of State Kissinger wielded, Honesty is a darned good second.

Lost Sheep

[oowright]

Culture, customs, traditional mode of thinking might all be involved here. Imagine a primitive way of thinking which makes out that an older man revitalises himself when he has sex with a young woman by "drawing" out of her life source!!! Well, some women here might think that these products invariably enter the sperm which ends up in their vagina etc.Also here, there is no respect or attraction to a man who is not "man" enough. Therefore, anything a man does about his "masculinity" must be kept from the woman!

However, putting primitiveness aside, is it not true that all supportive women are so because they have to? They cannot be seen to be changing men for whatever reasons. Is there a possibility to find out what is genuinely in a woman's heart? I think that the more primitive and less sophisticated the woman, the less difficult to fathom out what she really feels about these things.

My honest opinion is that ED and whatever are done about it, is a put-off for women ...