EveningWood wrote:Merry Christmas to all members!
Wishing everyone lots of health and joyful moments with loved ones!
A thread and personal update - I had full intercourse last Saturday, less than two weeks before turning 34.
Unfortunately, I got dumped because of the said intercourse and it did raise some questions. But more details on that in a separate post in the coming days, as I am currently relaxing with my family.
Regards,
EveningWood
As promised, here is a more detailed overview of the relationship, interaction and break up (from both sides' POV).
In short, I met this woman trough online dating. Not ideal, but due to much work/renovations this year I had to be efficient with time. So I set up a profile, that generated matches here and there.
We chatted for a month before the first date. We kissed and had a heavy make out in a club on our second date (I could have closed there, If I were persistent enough). On the third date, we were in a café with again with a heavy making out. For the forth date, she came straight to my place, with the intention of sex (we were chatting for more than two months by this point, with lots of sexting).
An hour before she came to the house, I took two 5mg generic Tadalafil pills, but did not feel anything specific, except some flow to my member.
On the mentioned forth date, we made out for a half or a full hour, I undressed and massaged her. Everything was going great. I undressed and she immediately started stimulating me manually and orally. I still could not obtain a full erection and size as in my teens, we went trough three different positions, but basically sticked with missionary (I was too soft or not long enough for the other positions). The condoms kept almost falling off, and also she had to constantly stimulate me with hands or mouth, even for a partial erection. During missionary, she started moaning and said afterwards that she came (not sure if it was true).
At almost two and a half hours in, she was struggling in making me come. I could see she was annoyed/bored. After I came, she cleaned up herself, dressed and I walked her to the subway station to take a train to her home.
She did not sent me any text that night (during the second and third dates, when there were making outs, she texted me immediately and playfully when she returned home). She was distant and I basically asked her five days after the sex what was going on (fully aware that she has moved on in her mind, just wanted to know the reasons). She basically said:
- I am expressive (in sex) and you are not - perhaps this alludes to the fact that she did not want me to put on any condoms, and kept removing them. (Also, I was mindful if we make too many "noises" - since I am in a new building and those can be heard easily);
- I do not like and do not have the time to wait 2+ hours for the man to come; I prefer to have a 30-40mins intercourse, and if possible, a second time within our scheduled time (she said it more discrete, but this was the idea).
But in my opinion, she understood that I had ED, and did not want to deal with it (women having too much choice these days and no time for problems). The frustrating part for me is that basically mediocre/horrible penetration trumped over nearly 3 months of texting and great dates. The woman respected me, what I had accomplished, my intelligence and sense of humor. But seems that women put a lot more emphasis on sex than we think and are as shallow as us in some aspects.
Regards,
EveingWood
