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I would like to hear some stories on mutual Masturbation. How was it a part of recovery from prostate surgery? How did you and your spouse come to understand each other’s needs?

I'm not sure how to reply. First off I'd say the sexuality sub-forum would probably be a more appropriate location for this thread. Secondly, I'd say that whatever (within reason??) works for you and your wife/SO is the way to go.

I don't have any "stories" to share. It's a better option than no sex. I can certainly see it having a place, especially while regaining full bladder control. It can also have a place if suffering from difficulty climaxing. I know I've experienced that and MM was a solution preferable to wearing the wife out. The down side is that, IMHO, the normal hand masturbation as a response to difficulty climaxing can be self perpetuating, as in making the problem worse, but that can be another topic that has been discussed previously. The advantage to MM is that watching/hearing the wife get off can really help with the difficulty climaxing problem. You both have to be comfortable with the practice for it to work. It's not a place I would want to be permanently stuck but it is an option, can work and is better than nothing. It seems a fair number of couples us it as their normal sex routine. Whatever works and satisfies you both.