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Hello Everyone,
At the ripe old age of 31, it appears I have been struck down probably with a very noticeable ‘ Erectile dysfunction’ and to a degree libido. Till last year I had no problem with either. In fact when I was 29 both my erection firmness and and libido were still as high as my teens (albeit the refractory period was longer)My research suggests that is in self is not common. In point of fact for a number of weeks that year my erection strength (was longer to) and libido where the highest they ever have been and never replicated. That was shortly after I added/tried Pumkin seeds/Bee pollen/Coq10 to my diet for the first time. So much so to get a full erection(longest than ever it was to)/hard as anything required just a few strokes and with no further stimulation and still stayed rock hard for several minutes vs now many to get a by comparison inadequate erection and disappears quickly without stimulation. I guess the biggest concern/sadness is the drastic nature of the decrease in such a short time.

I’m at a loss as to what could be the cause for such significant changes as the usual suspects can pretty much be ruled out. Ie

1) I don’t drink (and truth be told I never have )
2) I don’t smoke (and never have either) (exposure to parents 2nd hand smoke perhaps)
3 ) My diet is substantially the same as it has been for many years (although to mum passing last year have indulged in a ‘slight’ junk food eating
4) I do daily a decent amount of exercise covering stomach/chest/arms/legs.

My weight is about in the middle of the range for my height (5’6)


I tried adding the same things again to perhaps slight benefit.

My research suggests ED can be genetic/inherited. The only problem with that is BOTH my parents had very high sex drive through life. For instance my mum said they had sex 3x daily at times when they were in there 20’s and then perhaps 2x sometime in there 30s. Despite dad having lung issues (COPD) mum said he was still very much healthy/no issues in the erection department despite being now fast forward to being in his 60’s and without the aid of Viagra/similar things. This would also be despite both being huge smokers from 19 in mums case and about 17 in dads, which is said to be very bad for erection issues. On my mothers side her parents where said to have no libido issues, high if anything mum said (4 kids). On dads aint a clue as his ‘natural’ father is not the one that brought him up and he was less open about everything(only found out his dad was not biologically last year) let alone sex side of things.

Mum passed away last year (and all that entails) is only thing I can muster, but at risk of sounding uncaring my libido/erection issues where still largely retained in the first months afterwards even if I was super shocked from the out of blue nature of it. Mobile phone use is said to be a cause of ED and indeed I have used the mobile a lot more since she passed, so thats the only major culprit I can think of. I guess my gums may not be quite as healthy (due to the added junk food refered ) perhaps is the only other reason (a study suggested gum health ed link)

Other than the ED/Libido issue I am quite healthy and strong for my height (only 5 ‘6). Even my lungs despite being Exposed to 2nd hand smoke from the very beginning seems as good and sometimes better than many of my peers inspite of them not having parents that smoked. Not sure if it is relevant but I did have my appendix taken out at age 8 and maybe was a few weeks premature.
I apologist for the rambling with some details that may or may not be relevant just figured more detail is better than to little.

Hey, welcome to FT. Lots of good information here. Hope you find some of it helpful.

The best thing you can do is find a good urologist who specializes in men’s sexual health. Not all of them do. Some urologists are much more focused on kidney stones, bladder cancer, and a host of other issues. So shop around and see who is available in your area.

If you can say where you are from you might find others here in your region that can recommend who they see. You might want to search the forums with city, states country names to see if anything turns up. There is a physician finder function on the site as well that MIGHT turn up something for you.

That urologist will be able to talk with you about your health and start to determine what is behind your ED.

In an otherwise healthy individual ED is usually caused by 3 things: psychological causes, arterial insufficiency (not enough blood flow INTO the penis), or venous leak (not enough blood being trapped in the penis).

Of all the causes you suggested the only one that seems probable is grief from the sudden death of your mother. Grief has a funny way of expressing itself. Everyone is different and it just takes time.

So, read through all the past posts. But most importantly, find a good doctor who can
Work with you to find a solution.

GoodWood wrote:Hey, welcome to FT. Lots of good information here. Hope you find some of it helpful.

The best thing you can do is find a good urologist who specializes in men’s sexual health. Not all of them do. Some urologists are much more focused on kidney stones, bladder cancer, and a host of other issues. So shop around and see who is available in your area.

If you can say where you are from you might find others here in your region that can recommend who they see. You might want to search the forums with city, states country names to see if anything turns up. There is a physician finder function on the site as well that MIGHT turn up something for you.

That urologist will be able to talk with you about your health and start to determine what is behind your ED.

In an otherwise healthy individual ED is usually caused by 3 things: psychological causes, arterial insufficiency (not enough blood flow INTO the penis), or venous leak (not enough blood being trapped in the penis).

Of all the causes you suggested the only one that seems probable is grief from the sudden death of your mother. Grief has a funny way of expressing itself. Everyone is different and it just takes time.

So, read through all the past posts. But most importantly, find a good doctor who can
Work with you to find a solution.

Thank you 'goodwood' for taking the time to reply and was most informative.
I spent precious little time in doctor surgeries, which perhaps explained I had not even heard of urologist . But thank you again.

If things do not improve I will try and work up the courage to see a urologist.

Welcome to the forum Sardinesam,

Sardinesam wrote:If things do not improve I will try and work up the courage to see a urologist.

I spent a couple decades (of slowly progressing erectile dysfunction -E.D.- that I did not really recognize as a medical issue) suffering before I told my primary care physician. I held back because of embarrassment and lack of knowledge. DECADES wasted!

Do work up the courage to speak openly to your medical provider(s).

Do invest the time to read a couple years of past posts. They contain information that perhaps would be a long time coming from currently active members. They also contain questions you may want to ask your medical care team (which you may not think of right away).

Document your current penile size: photos and written records.

Pre-op V.E.D. therapy helps to maintain penile health, elasticity and size while you sort out ways to get the return of full function.

Life is too short to miss the joys of sex and too long to endure its absence.

I've had erection issues all through my twenties (psychogenic ED). My sex life changed precisely when I turned 30 and decided to give Viagra a try. Thanks to my research, sound medical advice and a bit of common sense, today I'm 45 and I'm having the best sex ever.