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Relationships with having ED

Posted: Wed Sep 01, 2021 4:10 pm
by Mike1589
Hi,
I am 23 years old guy with a venous leak (confirmed by 2 penile doppler ultrasound tests). I have a question to those who also has this problem and is (or was) in relationships with a woman. How do you build relationships with women? Do you tell your partners that you have an issues with elections? I have just started the relationships with a girl, but I don’t really understand how to deal with ED in relationships. Personally for me sex is not the most thing in relationships. I would be really grateful for any advice.

Re: Relationships with having ED

Posted: Wed Sep 01, 2021 4:40 pm
by Benjohn
Hi Mike,
I told my partner straight away - although I didn't have much choice as she knew something was wrong. If your partner is understanding they can really help you through it. Where are you from? UK?

Re: Relationships with having ED

Posted: Wed Sep 01, 2021 6:19 pm
by Lost Sheep
Mike1589 wrote:Hi,
I am 23 years old guy with a venous leak (confirmed by 2 penile doppler ultrasound tests). I have a question to those who also has this problem and is (or was) in relationships with a woman. How do you build relationships with women? Do you tell your partners that you have an issues with elections? I have just started the relationships with a girl, but I don’t really understand how to deal with ED in relationships. Personally for me sex is not the most thing in relationships. I would be really grateful for any advice.

I usually started out (when sex became a potential component of a relationship with a girl/woman) by saying, "My penis does not work as well as it should, but I will make every effort to make sure you are satisfied sexually." I followed up with whatever it took to enable her to feel good and to have orgasms.

Women are incredibly supportive if they feel desired, trusted, respected and safe. They respect a man who does not hide from difficulties. I went on a dating site and was honest about my inability to have sex and that I was intending to have an implant to fix that problem. My honesty and candor was commented on several times as "brave" and "refreshing".

Don't waste a day of a potential relationship just because sex may be difficult. There are other (and some are better) ways for a woman to have and to give orgasms. Also, orgasms are not the only joy of sex.

Re: Relationships with having ED

Posted: Sat Sep 04, 2021 12:32 pm
by silverdude
Well said lost sheep!