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I have no problem getting hard with porn and I get morning erections a few times a week, today I got one and it last for 5 minutes after I woke up

If I had a venous leak, this wouldn't be possible?

Similarly, then time I tested viagra with porn, it would produce very hard boners that were slightly painful at times.

I did have a some difficulty with a lady recently where I was semi hard despite taking viagra. The weird part, is 2 hour later I got home. I tested with porn and produced a very hard erection very quickly. I tested again 2 hours after that and the same.

This tells me my issue is my brain, my arousal. Ive become desensitized from watching porn and masturbating for many years. I deleted everything and put blockers, threw away password, I still find it difficult.

Is it worth going to a urologist to get a doppler just in case?

My fear is getting priapism, since they will probably inject me with something, so I'd have to make the they inject a reversal before I leave.

PSSDorAmINormal wrote:Yes you could have a praipism with the test. Also there is the injection site in which a needle pierces the internal structures of the penis. You already know and have clearly observed that you are getting erect and aroused with porn. There is nothing wrong with you, but for whatever reason you're not quite as aroused by the female you have been with. Perhaps she is not as exciting as what you view in hardcore porn.

What kind of porn blockers do you use on your computer? I'd be interested in knowing. I get by without any right now, and for the most part I don't view porn anymore. For me it seems to get easier to avoid as I get older. I barely masturbate.

You might be able to negotiate or talk to your doctor that does doppler testing and see if they can use something topical as opposed to an injection. Topical alprostadil or something might be less risky for priapism. I don't know if this is possible or not as I have never been offered a doppler test in all my adult life and I'm 39. In your particular case I do not see the need for this test, because you have erections. The viagra is a vasodilator, so that is likely why you felt more intensity with it in your system.

That's my fear. I mean if I can get hard ons with porn alone and then viagra with porn results in super hard ons, I would probably have priapism with trimix as it induces an erection without arousal.

Yes, I've been having sex with the same lady many times over the years, she is a sex buddy so to speak. She is very attractive tho. I haven't had sex with another lady in a long time.

My point is viagra always worked great, but last time I used it with her not so much, once I got it in semi hard, it got harder tho, but right before the act, I wasn't aroused at all like I was numb, that's why when I got home I checked with porn and the erection happened instantly and very hard, even though I had ejaculated with her 2 hours prior.

So when I tested with porn, not only it had been around 4 hours after I took the viagra, but also after ejaculated with her 2 hours prior. This is what leads me to believe the issue is not viagra or my physical penis, but my arousal. I'm desensitized.

If the issue was viagra, then it wouldn't have worked better with porn than with her, it wouldn't have worked at all with porn

It makes sense as viagra depends on arousal, it doesn't work on it owns on, so my only solution for improvement is quitting porn and masturbation for as long as possible to give my brain a break

In theory, it should make the pills work good again once my arousal sensitizes again

PSSDorAmINormal wrote:Yes you could have a praipism with the test. Also there is the injection site in which a needle pierces the internal structures of the penis. You already know and have clearly observed that you are getting erect and aroused with porn. There is nothing wrong with you, but for whatever reason you're not quite as aroused by the female you have been with. Perhaps she is not as exciting as what you view in hardcore porn.

What kind of porn blockers do you use on your computer? I'd be interested in knowing. I get by without any right now, and for the most part I don't view porn anymore. For me it seems to get easier to avoid as I get older. I barely masturbate.

You might be able to negotiate or talk to your doctor that does doppler testing and see if they can use something topical as opposed to an injection. Topical alprostadil or something might be less risky for priapism. I don't know if this is possible or not as I have never been offered a doppler test in all my adult life and I'm 39. In your particular case I do not see the need for this test, because you have erections. The viagra is a vasodilator, so that is likely why you felt more intensity with it in your system.

In my computer I'm using two porn blockers, I still have the password on a piece of paper that I plan on throwing away as Im still testing i haven't blocked anything unrelated to porn that i use everyday

- cleanbrowsing
- cold turkey blocker

without the password, i literally cannot watch any porn or even uninstall cold turkey blocker, i also blocked several apps, microsoft store, etc

maybe is possible but who knows, is very helpful

for my phone im using the restrictions on iphone for adult content, i still have the password, but im still tweaking, then ill use the password to type another one blindly without apple account recovery

that way the only way for me to deactivate those restrictions is by formatting the phone, thats troublesome and annoying so it can be a deterrent

there is also an option to block app installation, but i haven't set that yet as you wont be able to install any app ever again, but there are way to watch porn through installing certain apps

the only wa to not watch anything at all is simply not to have internet and use flip phones tbh thats very drastic

PSSDorAmINormal wrote:Sounds like you may not even need the pills. You were able to penetrate your partner. I wouldn't over think it and worry about slight changes in firmness or hardness. For whatever reason your timing may have been off with the pill you took beforehand. Or maybe it had to do with the rate at which it moved through your digestive system.

Since you have this sex buddy, I wonder why you really need any porn at all. I mean you have a real live woman that is willing to have sexual fun with you. Surely you must like it, and surely she must like it or this would not go on for as long as it has.

I started taking pills like 9 years ago when i failed one time with a lady. I believe this happened because of porn but also at the time i was taking propanolol a betablocker for anxiety which can cause ed

I did a month no fap and tried cialis for the first time i think 20mg and it was super erection

Eventually i started with viagra as is more potent

Every time ive been with her intimately the current lady ive used viagra tho but ive been using the pill for encounters for years as i havent had a partner in many years so for hookups which are rare

So in all these years I wasn’t even using the pills that much maybe every 3 months or even 6 months i would go without sex

I think my issue is porn has desensitized me

I started using pills to make sure i dont have an issue again as i never knew what caused it many years ago if the betablocker or porn or both

But i believe porn has a lot to do with it as back then i was watching a lot snd masturbating 3 times a day and i was already having difficulty getting hard even with porn

Yes, this could still be venous leak.

Having venous leak does NOT mean you never get morning wood or erections. It just means that blood has an easier time getting out of your penis than it should. An erection just means more blood going in than coming out until erect and then staying that way.

Porn and masturbation are way more stimulating (mentally - picking your favorite turn ons, and physically- touching yourself in your favorite way) than regular sex with a partner.

So it’s entirely possible to have venous leak that is bad enough to make sex with a partner difficult yet still be able to get morning wood and masturbate.

Talk to a good urologist that has experience with men’s sexual health.

If you are watching porn so much it’s getting in the way of going to work and spending time with friends, sure, do something to curtail that. But otherwise be gentle with yourself. We are visual creatures and looking at porn is nearly universal among men. There is an awful lot of puritanical shaming around porn and the notion of “porn addiction”. Be gentle with yourself.

See a good urologist and let them guide you.

PSSDorAmINormal wrote:

GoodWood wrote:Yes, this could still be venous leak.

Having venous leak does NOT mean you never get morning wood or erections. It just means that blood has an easier time getting out of your penis than it should. An erection just means more blood going in than coming out until erect and then staying that way.

Porn and masturbation are way more stimulating (mentally - picking your favorite turn ons, and physically- touching yourself in your favorite way) than regular sex with a partner.

Your first statement seems to contradict itself. The OP has erections and penetrates his female sex partner so I can't see this as VL. I can't see a physical problem with veins coming and going.

The OP says he’s having problems having sex with his partner.

Perhaps I wasn’t clear enough. My point is that venous leak is not all or nothing. It is often progressive and there can be a middle ground where some more intense stimulation can still produce erections but in less stimulating situations are more difficult.

Thats not what I said

I said the last time we had sex i had trouble getting hard but eventually did, it wasn’t as good as previous times but we had sex for 20 minutes

I either got a bad batch or maybe is because it had passed 2 hours after I took the pill

I had to wait in the car for one hour cause she was running very late and i believe this put me im a bad mood tok

All the other times i had sex with her it must have been around 15 times i would take viagra and have no issues

I have no problem getting hard with porn

Two hours after i had sex with her, i went home and tested with porn while viagra effect was still inside and i got an instant super erection that it was almost painful then two hours after that i tested again same thing then viagra wore off

How come viagra worked much better with porn than with her even tho more time had passed

All i can think is porn and masturbation is catching up to me

I may consider a doppler but im afraid of priapism i read stories of one indian guy who went for a doppler had a boner for 24 hours and now needs an implant

The problem sure sounds like some form of desensitization. Could be mental from porn. I wonder if it might be from condom use? The OP doesn't mention it but it's a fair guess that he uses condoms in his non-monogamous relationship. And his hand knows best so that might offer superior physical stimulation.

CanGetItUpButNoMore wrote:The problem sure sounds like some form of desensitization. Could be mental from porn. I wonder if it might be from condom use? The OP doesn't mention it but it's a fair guess that he uses condoms in his non-monogamous relationship. And his hand knows best so that might offer superior physical stimulation.

Yes, I wear condoms, but I would always be 90-100% hard before even putting on a condom. I'd be hard before even taking my underwear. Of course, this on viagra

I believe my not as great experience was a combination of things

- I'm desensitized, the daily porn and masturbation has caught up to me
- I had wait over one hour in the car for this lady, which put me in a bad mood tbh
- We had sex 2 hours after I took the pill
- One hour in the car, resulted in me being in my head, thinking the pill may not work as well since it has been longer than ideal
- Again, waiting put me in a bad mood
- I was sitting in the car for over an hour which made me tired and apathetic
- So when she arrived and we got inside is like i was no longer in the mood
- I took 100mg but is generic which is more like 70mg. Generics are always underdosed, they only need 70% to be approved for USA.

So maybe the 70mg was enough for a while but now that I became more desensitized over time, is not enough?

I still believe porn and masturbation have a lot to do with it tho my issue is the arousal. I read it can take up to 90 days for most people to "reboot", for some is less

One proof I have that this is true is that for the past 2 years, I've been having delayed ejaculation, it takes me lots of effort to ejaculate whether with porn or a woman, I can't ejaculate just stroking, I have to literally tense up my whole body and even then it takes a while and I wasn't like these 3 years ago, it was easier to ejaculate back then

This tells me I've been desensitizing myself slowly overtime and now is catching up to me

so I'm going to do at least 2 or 3 months off porn and masturbation I hope I can resist and then next time I have sex, maybe try 140mg sildenafil

as 140mg generics = 100mg Pfizer viagra

PSSDorAmINormal wrote:From everything you've said, I don't think you need to increase your Viagra dose. The more you do that, you might run the risk of it not working at all for you.

I have snooped around the no fap sites, and honestly I don't understand it fully. However I can say this. I have been avoiding porn for a long time now. So long that I forget the last time I saw some pornographic content. Point is, I can't see how it suddenly revived my penis or gave me better erections. I still masturbate and ejaculate from time to time. I'm just not using internet porn. For whatever reason I don't masturbate much anymore. I partly blame it on getting older. Seems like I can go longer now without masturbating. I wish I knew all the reasons. I think some issues are beyond our immediate control, and I know there are many environmental factors that affect our health. So you have to consider the world we live in, the toxic stuff we're exposed to and don't even realize it.
If you were different 3 years ago, it just may be that you are 3 years older now and it takes a little longer to make yourself ejaculate. How does this delay in ejaculation work when you're with your partner? Does it take too long in that situation?

it takes longer with a woman than with myself actually, but even when i was watching and masturbating porn with stuff i really liked, it would still take plenty of effort to ejaculate

I think is a sign of desensitization

3 year difference is nothing tbh I'm only 38