Possible new partner/my approach with performance anxiety
Posted: Thu Aug 08, 2024 3:35 pm
54 yrs old. Have had performance anxiety/ED on/off for years. All mental.
Early on I got on injections, then pills (via lid and now Avanafil) They helped in casual relationships. Get nasal congestion from pills.
Had a 3.5yr relationship that ended in 2019. She was super hot and I was having sex drug free after a couple months. When I’m comfortable with a partner and told her I don’t fuck well the first month bc of anxiety, she was cool with it and I of course stopped worrying much about performing.
Same thing happened in a 6 mo relationship after that. Was ok after a month or so but wasn’t really attracted enough to this woman so I ended it. But she’s still a good friend.
Now a new woman and I seem to be hitting it off. She has already been flirting with me sexually verbally. She’s very attractive and younger by over a decade.
I don’t like it the start of these relationships so I will tell her eventually about my performance anxiety early on when/if things get physical. Hopefully she is cool with it. Being considerably younger than me, I do sort of feel like a use it or lose it but she said she’s not into casual sex either. So that’s a plus.
I will probably take some of my Avanafil in the beginning. These days I have anxiety about staying hard for blowjobs. That NEVER was the case in my 20s. Don’t know how this happened. If things progress, I will hopefully ween myself off the drugs which also only work if I’m somewhat relaxed. I of course will offer and do all kinds of other stuff like giving oral as much as she wants. Hopefully she can get off that way an enjoys it.
So we’ll see how this goes. I definitely don’t want to ever go the implant route to be honest. I had surgery before down there to remove excess sagging skin on my scrotum. That worked well. But that’s enough.
Wish me luck. (Crossed fingers)
Early on I got on injections, then pills (via lid and now Avanafil) They helped in casual relationships. Get nasal congestion from pills.
Had a 3.5yr relationship that ended in 2019. She was super hot and I was having sex drug free after a couple months. When I’m comfortable with a partner and told her I don’t fuck well the first month bc of anxiety, she was cool with it and I of course stopped worrying much about performing.
Same thing happened in a 6 mo relationship after that. Was ok after a month or so but wasn’t really attracted enough to this woman so I ended it. But she’s still a good friend.
Now a new woman and I seem to be hitting it off. She has already been flirting with me sexually verbally. She’s very attractive and younger by over a decade.
I don’t like it the start of these relationships so I will tell her eventually about my performance anxiety early on when/if things get physical. Hopefully she is cool with it. Being considerably younger than me, I do sort of feel like a use it or lose it but she said she’s not into casual sex either. So that’s a plus.
I will probably take some of my Avanafil in the beginning. These days I have anxiety about staying hard for blowjobs. That NEVER was the case in my 20s. Don’t know how this happened. If things progress, I will hopefully ween myself off the drugs which also only work if I’m somewhat relaxed. I of course will offer and do all kinds of other stuff like giving oral as much as she wants. Hopefully she can get off that way an enjoys it.
So we’ll see how this goes. I definitely don’t want to ever go the implant route to be honest. I had surgery before down there to remove excess sagging skin on my scrotum. That worked well. But that’s enough.
Wish me luck. (Crossed fingers)