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I fear I'm losing this battle.

I'm using more and more Cialis to maintain this regular and steady relationship. Going beyond the stated 5mg daily usage which I fear won't help, even though I've been scared to try it on that basis.

Fear is my biggest enemy and it's just ruining my quality of life.

I'm in love and I fear this will be our downfall and mine along with it. I feel like I won't be able to come back from that.

Counselling is too few and far between. 50 mins every 2 weeks isn't enough for anything.

I'm seriously considering implants. I may only be 32 but these years are critical for getting ahead in life, doing well at work, finding someone and settling down. And these worries ruin everything.

Injections and pumps just seem like such an inconvenience.

I need that peace of mind back in my life.

There are plenty of men your age and younger who have gotten implants. If nothing else is working this can be an excellent solution.

I know.

Well pills are working but I'm having a hard time working out dosage. I feel as though 5mg Cialis daily won't be enough. And I've been overdosing so I'm suffering headaches.

This whole problem (perhaps because of my pessimistic and catastrophising personality) is really becoming everything. As I say these are the years a man should be forging his empire not constantly worrying about ED. I know many of us sadly are in that position.

I've been told this is all in my mind but it just seems fantasy. I'm definitely blowing it all out of proportion and I'm lucky to have an amazing girlfriend who even said implants are fine, they improve lives and look at Angelina Jolie, she cut of her breasts as a move of positive action.

If I can just get used to 5mg daily and make that work for me I'll be on the right track. But I need more than that currently, mentally, to do any damage.

I'm really coming around to the idea of implantation one of these years.

Before jumping on the implant path immediately, you might want to do some online reading about Cialis dosages. For guys not on the daily 5 mg dosage, it's common for docs to prescribe up to 20 mg to be "taken prior to anticipated sexual activity." Your answer might lie within that dosage range.

I don't want to say that one way is better than the other, but from my own personal experience an implant is a good solution at any time of your life. It has been excellent for me, and our sex life is actually better than it has ever been.

Hi Defiant, Your problem is still performance anxiety, just find a good shrink who works in that field to sort your brain out get rid of that seed that's been self planted, all because some women put you down over your performance.

Your always worrying about how you perform instead of just enjoying the ride, like we all do.

So Defiant stop analysing your performance, this would be one of the best things you can do.

Don't forget Like I told Gusord get an implant, there is no going back, you cant get one for a test drive/shag, if your don't like your stuck with it for good, apart from all the guys on here who rave about them there some who wish they never had it done.

NOWHARD

Hey Nowhard,

Yeah I get you man and I know that performance anxiety is my major problem and my whole attitude to sex now has been completely eroded. I just think that 11 years of this kind of thinking has reached a point of critical mass now. And I fear the counselling has come too late. It's too infrequent as well, 50mins every 2 weeks. What can be achieved at that rate?

I never wake with morning wood, I may feel the occasional erection in the night but when I wake up and realise I'm soft, it hits me for 6 and the day is off on the wrong foot already.

I'll try my very best, I'm trying to eat well, exercise well and I'm doing kegels 3x daily now as directed. But it's important to understand, this is a critical time in my life. If I'm consumed by this, it will depress me and thus I won't be nice to be around so I wouldn't blame my girlfriend wanting to leave me because of that. It's affecting my work and my ambition to do well. It affects every aspect of life.

If it doesn't start to improve soon, what other choices do I realistically have?

Find the time and spend some money on a hooker. Sounds immoral especially that you have a girlfriend. But instead of considering it as cheating, see her as a practical, participating and hands-on shrink. Most (or find such) have had experience with all kinds of ED, mental states and self-complaints. Don't let the girlfriend know though ...

I'd even go the injections route first.
I wish the UK would allow tri-mix though.

oowright wrote:Find the time and spend some money on a hooker. Sounds immoral especially that you have a girlfriend. But instead of considering it as cheating, see her as a practical, participating and hands-on shrink. Most (or find such) have had experience with all kinds of ED, mental states and self-complaints. Don't let the girlfriend know though ...

I have to disagree. A prostitute is a poor substitute for a caring relationship. While a legitimate sexual surrogate in a proper clinical setting may be worthwhile, the basis for any relationship worth having is communication between the partners.

My advice is to level with your girlfriend about ALL things. Do not make her your therapist, but let her understand that you love her and want to do right by her, but for whatever reason, some sexual acts are currently beyond your capacity. ASubstitute other sex acts and pleasuring and trust that coitus will come in due time. If it doesn't, then proceed from there.

Candor always deepens a relationship. Keeping secrets is like putting floating mines in your safe harbor. You never know where you may run across one.

Women are remarkably understanding if they feel valued, trusted and loved. Orgasms are one thing, Good men are treasured beyond reason.

Good luck

Lost Sheep