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Hi guys!

This may be long so do try to stick with it!

I always try to give a backstory so newcomers can have the full picture.

I'm 32 now and had a bad experience with a girl when I was 21 - after a night of drinking I lost it and she was less than cool about it. Since then I've always focused on my own performance instead of letting go and enjoying like most men do.

Since then my EQ (erection quality) gradually declined.

This led to having the pipes checked (after an intense battle with lymphoma at 26 which is important to note) - Uros diagnosed me with a mild venous leak.

A few years later I had another ultrasound with a specialist - good results, no venous leak.

Just this year - third opinion sought, saw another specialist, another ultrasound, good result - no venous leak.

All bloods normal range. So I've been told this is all in my head and yes, I do have super deep seated anxiety over the issue of my penis and its performance. I've been hooked on Cialis now for 5 years or so. But can still produce a natural erection. It will just fade quickly.

In an effort to eliminate every possible cause I saw a specialist pelvic floor physio. She did her own ultrasound of the pelvic floor (NOT a Doppler) and a digital anal exam. Lo and behold, I have a very weak floor.

This seemed to fit as I dribble urine after peeing a lot and sometimes after doing a no.2, sometimes I would find later that more excrement has seeped it's way out. Disgusting I know! Sorry.

So I've been set a plan: KEGELS!

The routine:

10 second holds x 10 repetitions
Then...
10 1-second pulses

This will activate both the slow and fast twice fibres.

Morning 9AM / Mid-day 3pm / Night 9pm - to remind me, I have a specialised app developed by NHS physios. It's called 'Squeezy Men'. It's superb.



Results:

In just 3 days I was waking with hard ons the likes of which I forgot existed in the morning. My sleep was littered with nocturnal activity as well.

Sex with my gf: though I still use cialis - erections are harder than when I was a teenager. Plus a dose of Cialis will pack more punch 2 days down the line.

I have been doing the kegels now for a little over 2 weeks - last night I don't recall having any erections though depending on my level of sleep I may not have noticed and I didn't wake with any either.

I am also shaking a little sometimes during the contractions.

It is said that when engaging with kegels, you will likely experience great results early on but then you may experience a dip. This is natural. You just have to keep on going with the exercises and they say it usually takes around 3-6 months to see definitive progress.

I have noted that my no.2s are generally more complete and I dribble less post urination.

So this was very revealing!

This coupled with my mindset was dragging me down. I can see a time in the future where I'm gradually freeing myself of Cialis dependency. But I must attack my anxiety head on. So I am seeing a psychosexual counsellor and engaging with relaxation strategies and meditation.

The fight ahead is long. But it's one I must take on.

So ----------

For men with no discernible or medically detectable conditions causing ED, please visit a specialist pelvic floor physio. It will assist you in getting to the root cause of your problem.


To those who do Kegels. I invite you to tell us all how they have impacted your sexual and overall health.

Thanks everyone,
Defiant

Hey man... It's nice to know if worked for you. I had heard of this back in 2012, back when i was normal. there is even a book called "penis of steel" that mentions these techniques. I tried doing them, but i felt no difference at the time.

Well obviously I know that you fractured your penis and therefore that is a stumbling block however, it will help I'm sure. They need to be stuck with and done properly.

And I'm nowhere near 'normality' or 'cure'. But it's a slow process.

I have an implant now, but I have a Kegel routine similar to yours mainly for continence. Three years out, I do, daily without fail, 5- 10 second Kegels and 50 bursts. Have been continent since three months out of my radical prostatectomy and been totally dry ever since, even with coughs and sneezes. (Every once in a while get surprised by a killer sneeze which may cause a tiny amount of urine, but my wife reminds me that the same thing happens to her. I have to remind myself that after a radical prostatectomy I am left with the same set of plumbing that she has.)

defiant wrote:Well obviously I know that you fractured your penis and therefore that is a stumbling block however, it will help I'm sure. They need to be stuck with and done properly.

Yes... but the exercises were done in 2012.... and i fractured my penis in 2014. So when i tried, i was perfect. And even then, it didn't work. But hey, glad it's working for you.

Well, I don't know about working.

I tried to masturbate just now and noticed my blood was escaping super quickly.

I've heard that when you start kegels a dip after a month or so can be expected but this has me worried. I have a lot of anxiety, especially surrounding masturbation now as I view it as a marker of my abilities.

defiant wrote:Well, I don't know about working.

I tried to masturbate just now and noticed my blood was escaping super quickly.

I've heard that when you start kegels a dip after a month or so can be expected but this has me worried. I have a lot of anxiety, especially surrounding masturbation now as I view it as a marker of my abilities.

Hi Defiant Look next time you feel like masturbating do your meditation first, clear your head, get relaxed then masturbate, may pay you to get a full package cockring I have a hardwear ice its worked wonders for my erections here's a link to it, http://allknight.com/products/cock-enha ... kring.aspx if like me your find really good, I wear mine 24/7 keeps your motor running, if not that one you can just try a steel ring, you can buy the from a good iron mongers, just measure round your package when you have a semi on, to put it one you really do need to be shaved, you put your nuts through first one at a time followed by your penis, baby oil your package first, then try it.

If your having any trouble with your meditation see if you can find a local group, your get all the help you need. OK

NOWHARD

A hard penis--one that penetrates and works again, would easily be worth 10 million kegals, I'm starting as of yesterday--got a few to go. It's an easy thing to do---who knows, some pussy might be attainable after all.

Kegels on their own do little if any to improve my EQ. However, after applying a tight constriction band after using my VED, kegels increase the blood flow into my pumped erection which increases the engorgement. Also, performing kegels while under constriction, forces in additional fresh blood which increases the time before Insensitivity sets in.