Reggieman wrote:I think that looking at porn can be stimulating because it often offers something new and different and can aid fantasy. Unfortunately, once one has seen enough of it it is difficult to find something new that stimulates. My wife has a low libido and will only agree to sex once a week. I therefore masturbate via electo-stim once a week. In order for electro-stim to work I need to look at porn (this is common for many men using this method). I find it more and more difficult to find something worth looking at. At my age it takes more than the sight of a naked women to turn me on. My wife finally came around to accepting my looking at porn on these occasions as I explained how it works to her. I think that a bigger factor in her accepting it is the fact that when I am away in another room with my electro-stim device I'm not in her face pressuring her for sex.
My wife is a basically a "one trick horse" in that she is not interested in trying anything new in bed. Porn allows me to fantasize about doing things with a woman that my wife is unwilling to try. I, of course, have E.D. and the electro-stim does not cause an erection but allows an orgasm without an erection. This method has its downsides. I recently ordered the Nobra Twin Charger vibrator (a couple FT members recommended it) to see if I can orgasm by a different method.
Looking at porn is what you make it. It can be for good or ill. Its all attitude.
What works for me:
• Variety. I have several different erotic Tumblr blogs that I frequent.
• Choose erotica vs. porn. I know that is argumentative, but that is what I find better.
• Read erotic fiction as well or alternate to viewing images. A site like Literotica has good stuff, organized by categories and genres.
• I prefer still images or GIF’s rather than full videos. The videos signal ‘fake’ to me, but my mind accepts still images as more genuine.
• I have a slide show program called Simply Slideshow on my desktop. I set the slide program to access the still images in my Windows folder. The slides are set to automatically change every 30 seconds, and play randomly. This helps with the variety.
My theory is that if I am going to masturbate with erotica, I want it to be an effective and fulfilling experience, so I put a lot of thought into it.