ED, Size and Treatment

[Daveuk36]

Im fairly new to posting so please bare with me guys.
Ok, im 37 and for the last few years i have had a few things happen, one is i realised i have a smaller than average penis, and also fairly small balls and also that my ability to maintain a usable erection has basically gone.
Now im unsure if these are related: if you are wondering why i took me so long to realise i was small, basically untill my 30s id never seen another mans cock. But with the internet and also finally biting the bullet and joining a gym, i have seen a fair few! I will be clear, im not too worried that little dave is, well, little, and i kinda thing he suits me, but after joining a site for smaller guys ( http://www.measurection.com )it made me wonder if it can affect a guys performance. We have all heard women laughing and joking at a guys expense etc.
Im sure that although my 'discovery' happened at a similar time to the old ED; i do wonder if on some unconscious level if its had an impact, it is coincidence. My wife has never complained that im small and insists its fine. I have kids, so although its small and i have little nuts, its done the job.
That brings me to my next point, i does not bother me as much as i feel it should. Dont get me wrong, i miss the sex, who wouldnt. I have a sleep disorder that i know can contribute, and take antihistamines year round which again i believe there is evidence to suggest these can also contribute (correct me if im wrong guys). Im tired a lot of the time although on CPAP therapy, and my sex drive has suffered as a result. When i think of bed, my only thoughts are asleep! Other than this i have a good full happy life, and i feel that if i allow this to become a major problem, searching for a cure, (im against taking further meds if possible)etc, then it could sour what i have, whats isbasically a good happy life. But im i being unfair to my wife. We have an open honest relationship, we have discussed this, its not brushed under the carpet, and she says she is happy as we are, sex had dwindled due to having 3 kids in a very small house, opportunities were very few n far between!
I know im not like a lot of the guys on here who have been through a lot of tretments etc and i dont want to sound a whiner, cos im not. But i guess there maybe other guys like me out there, who have just lost the ability to maintain their erection, and are wondering what the next step is.
Im not after answers as such, we all have our own journey to take, and whats good for the goose.......... but i would appreciate any feed back r thoughts etc, or even if you know or think you know a guy in the same boat, point them this way so we can help each other.
Thanks for reading,
Dave
(ps apologies for any mis-spellings etc)

[rdpugh]

I only have a few minutes because it is almost 8am on the eastern coast of the US and I have to head out for work. A couple of observations.

First you mentioned sleep apnea. This most certainly can cause ED. You are not getting enough sleep and you are tired as you mentioned. This affects performance. Also it wrecks the circulatory system which is what feeds our erections. So yes, your ED does most likely have a medical cause. You really should find some kind of treatment for it, because doing nothing well really make it worse. The statement is true, if you don't use it you will lose it. You need to find a way to keep blood going into your penis and filling the erectile chambers with blood. Oral meds, injections and pumps all help with this. Find something that works and keep using it regularly. Also ED from what ever cause, and I really hate to say this to you but it is a fact, does cause some penis shrinkage over time. Producing erections help over come this.

On to the penis size issue. You again mentioned sleep apnea. If you don't mind me asking, are you overweight? Being overweight can be a cause of sleep apnea, so that's why I am asking. Also being overweight can hide the true size of your penis. When I was 100lbs overweight, I had but a small nub of a penis visible, basically just the head, but I knew my real flaccid length was a well within the average 3 1/2 inches, because that is what is was before I gained weight. The extra fat will hide things. Also being overweight can cause ED problems. Also if you are comparing yourself to guys in online pictures, you are comparing to the wrong people. First, when you look down at your penis or in the mirror, you are getting a distorted view of things, so it does look smaller. Trust your wife because she gets the view from the proper prespective and angle. Also the guys in online photos are either true freaks of nature and are much larger than average. Average flaccid is 3 to 4 inches or so and average erect is 5 to 6 inches or so. If you are within those ranges or on either side you are well within average size and are the size of most men. These photos of men mainly use camera tricks though. By using trick angles or just plain photo enhancement, they enhance the guy unnaturally. Also smaller props are used and if a woman is in the picture and has her hands wrapped around the guys penis, you can bet she is very petite and has small hands, which makes his penis look much larger. These are just tricks of the trade, and are just that, tricks. Most likely that guy in the porno who looks huge is of average or just slightly above average size. Also just having ED in general can really play having on how you feel about your confidence and you start questioning your manliness and if your manhood is of any value. It is all a viscious cycle. Find ED treatment. Seeing an erection again is a good confidence booster.

Unfortunately I have to leave right now for work, but I hope this little bit does help some.

[Daveuk36]

Hi, thanks for taking the time to read and reply.
I admit im not a slim lad, im 230lbs, but in fairness i work out 5 days a week so some of the weight is muscle. Ive a 36" wasit with a 48" chest, stand about 5'8" with big thighs, so that should give an idea of my physique (with out sounding like im on a dating site, lol )
Im happy with the size of my dick, i have checked many stats and i am shorter than average, but not to the point of micro. Im about 1" soft (and thats mainly foreskin) and about 4.5" erect (i think) so a bit smaller than most guys, but like i say i like the way it looks on me. Anyway ,i digress, im sure the apnoea is a large factor in it, and when i had my last check up for CPAP i actually mentioned that i was, er, you know, (awkard cough) having probs, erm, in the bed room. Im not sure who was most confused and embarrassed, me or the poor guy who looked about 20! I didnt press the issue further.
So thats where i am, like i said in my post, i miss sex but im so bloody tired all the time, i dont have the energy to really worry about it, if that makes sense?
My sex drive has dipped (plumetted, crashed n burnt ,to be more accurate) which again can be a symptom of the OSA but id like to get the feeling back and then maybe i can get off my (gym toned, ) arse and tackle the ED.

[rdpugh]

Actually I went back through your original post, and I do not see where you said you are not getting enough sleep so I just assumed that. If you are not getting enough sleep (which on its own will cause tiredness, ED, etc.), you could also be experiencing a drop in testosterone levels, which will also lead to tiredness, lack of desire, and ED.

[franglais]

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[jackpTenn]

Dave

As one sleep apnea sufferer to another there is hope and help. As you and I know the CPAP and sex do not mix. You have not asked for advise so I will try to tell you some of the things I have done.

My journey has been a long one and most of it is posted in the implant section on this forum and on Bob Bacon's Blog www.penileimplant.blogspot.com.

I said I would not give you advice but I would highly recommend an evaluation by a Male Sexual
Function Specialist, not a general practice urologist. These are rare and hard to find. Send me a PM with your general area and I will see if I have the name of one in your area.

As for the small penis. I was about 5 1/2" before peyronies in 1995. With all that happend afterward of low testosterone, loss of night time erections, venous leakage and corporal fibross I lost down to 4" the rare times I could achieve an erection on my own. My wife has also been very supportive and never complained, the only thing she told me was, "Jack, I did not marry you for your penis." We used a VED with a constriction ring for the 2 years before I could get my implant. I can tell you now I have gained back 90% of lost length due to a daily VED exercise and then the AMS 700 LGX, www.amslgx.com, and the skills of Dr. Milam at Vandebilt.

If you want to talk privetly with me my email is jwp104@att.net. We share a lot of the same problems. I can tell you that now I feel NORMAL for the first time in years.

Good Luck, I care and so do others on this forum. Also the chatroom on this forum is fun, informative and straight talk. Join us some evenings.

Jack

[Daveuk36]

Hi guys, thanks for all the replies, i appreciate the feed back.
To clarify, yea im on CPAP for OSA, i have spoken to my technician as the symptoms are returning, but it seems its me rather than a hardware problem as such. I have a wonky nose which has been operated on once and the surgeon sees little value in re-operating, but i have a persistent vasomotor rhinitis, so many nights my nose is just too blocked for the machine to work properly. Im on antihistamines and steroid sprays constantly but having a bad spell.
I honestly think the tiredness, loss of interest and the ability to keep an erection stems from this.

[franglais]

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[Daveuk36]

As I understand it, Dave, antihistamines can also *kill* an erection.

Yea ive heard that but trying to get concrete evidence for this is not easy, seems they are not keen it going on the old data sheet! lol
But thanks for the confirmation, wasnt sure if i was clutching at straws.

[jackpTenn]

Dave

My lung doctor just put me on Xolair shots for my allergic asthma.

They are new and I have to go to the hospital to get them. The next day I felt much better even though it is supposed to take some time for it to work. The goal of the shots is to get me off the other asthma meds.

Jackp