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Hallfighter4,

Sorry to hear of your difficulties.

Libido and arousal can both be whacked by our brains. Either psychologically, hormonally or organically. I found that when my ED was "under control" with the pills, my libido was "normal". As they became less effective my libido dropped. I'm not a doc or a therapist, but my theory is that low libido can be a defense mechanism for our ego, protecting us from the emotional pain that comes from non-performance. That's the psychology part, at least for me.

Libido is also affected by hormone levels. I have been treated for low testosterone for 16 years (Androgel) except for the first nine months after my prostate cancer diagnosis. During those nine months my libido was much lower, but still present. If I had had no libido, I probably would not have gone through with the implant or revision. Now that my testosterone level is back up in the mid-normal range, if I'm awake, I'm thinking about sex. (I think that's pretty normal, though my wife doesn't agree.)

And last, I think low libido can be from organic abnormalities in our brains. I know that actual physical changes in our brains can affect/cause depression, so I'm guessing there are physical changes in the brain or it's connections that could cause a drop in libido. That's just a hunch.

Have you had your testosterone checked?

Bob
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What you have experienced is LIFE and stress. You got to experince it at an early age. Most of us have a drop in Libdo because of everything you mentioned 0lus kids, mortages, getting sick, supportting a family. Now throw a non functional dick in the mix and the brain just says FUCK IT. Since you have not had a muktipe decade relationship you do not have the add problem of how your ED fucked up your partner.

My philosophy on ex's is it did not work the first time sure as hell not going down that road.

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Get the dick working, destress granted at your age that will be hard. Enjoy life to the fullest. Find a good partner that will be there thru everything. There will be alot of shit you have to deal with

For me my libido started to decrease at about 70. I had my testosterone tested and it was found to be way low. 120 should be around 600. After I started taking the T injection once a month my libido jumped right back to normal. I have had a libido like a teenager all my life. I had pussy almost every day my whole life. Then at about 70 the ED started, I started taking Viagra till about 75 then it took my climax away so switched to Tri-mix. It worked up until recently, now with help from the lady I can get it up but not hard enough for penetration. I have multiple partners so it is really stressful to never know what will happen when the time comes. Most women realize that at 77 years old it's to be expected in most men. I am still just as horny as ever, but can seldom complete the task.
I would get an implant tomorrow if I could but then I would have to try and explain to my wife that won't have sex with me anymore (15 years) why I want an implant that won't be used. I'm thinking about a six week vacation by myself and having it done.

Hallfighter4,
I have always had a very high sex drive. I am 61 and my ED started at 30. I just got an implant several months ago. Even all the years I had trouble getting it up my drive never diminished. I often wished it had because it was frustrating not to be able to do what I wanted to. Now I am grateful my drive is still strong because the implant had finally given me back my ability to have sex as often as my wife and I want it. If she isn't in the mood, I jack off.

I hope you will find a good solution for your situation. It made a huge difference in my morale and self-esteem once I recovered from surgery and could resume a fulfilling sex life.

Greg

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