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This is something that is hard for me to explain. My wife had back surgery recently, and we are just getting back being intimate. Our problem is my holding my body up so that there is not too much weight on her. I am somewhat overweight and my tummy on hers is uncomfortable for her. Then my arms get tired quickly.
Her on top is not solution as her hands and knees hurt because of arthritis.
We're not comfortable to go to sites that would keep sending popups online.
And Trimix is marginal so that is somewhat limiting.
Any ideas?

Larry, you can move this if you want, or delete it altogether.

Take a deep breath, go to incognito on your browser, and search for spoon position lovemaking. There will be non pornographic sites that will use drawings to explain this side by side lovemaking technique. It's what couples use when the wife is pregnant but can still make love.

This is the position that my wife and I have been using for some time. (Neither one of us puts full body weight on the other.)

We use something similar but she is on the edge of the bed

Try calling around to hotels for a little "Weekend Getaway". Ask if any have the style bed that lets you raise the head of the mattress separately from the leg area. Some really great positions can be done and I think you'd find a few you both like! If you like it that much, look for sales, which in the mattress world are going on constantly!

WyoMan wrote:This is something that is hard for me to explain. My wife had back surgery recently, and we are just getting back being intimate. Our problem is my holding my body up so that there is not too much weight on her. I am somewhat overweight and my tummy on hers is uncomfortable for her. Then my arms get tired quickly.
Her on top is not solution as her hands and knees hurt because of arthritis.
We're not comfortable to go to sites that would keep sending popups online.
And Trimix is marginal so that is somewhat limiting.
Any ideas?

Larry, you can move this if you want, or delete it altogether.

Good morning WyoMan;
Why would I delete this? There is nothing inappropriate about your question. I too am a little too fluffy and my wife is petite. Because I was not born with a great gift between my legs, we have to find positions where I can get all I have into her. We have found a position that not only does that but does not put pressure on her but allows me to give it all to her. I stand on the floor at the side of our bed and she rests her ankles on my shoulders and I bring her hips all the way to the edge of the bed.

Larry

Larry10625 wrote:

WyoMan wrote:This is something that is hard for me to explain. My wife had back surgery recently, and we are just getting back being intimate. Our problem is my holding my body up so that there is not too much weight on her. I am somewhat overweight and my tummy on hers is uncomfortable for her. Then my arms get tired quickly.
Her on top is not solution as her hands and knees hurt because of arthritis.
We're not comfortable to go to sites that would keep sending popups online.
And Trimix is marginal so that is somewhat limiting.
Any ideas?

Larry, you can move this if you want, or delete it altogether.

Good morning WyoMan;
Why would I delete this? There is nothing inappropriate about your question. I too am a little too fluffy and my wife is petite. Because I was not born with a great gift between my legs, we have to find positions where I can get all I have into her. We have found a position that not only does that but does not put pressure on her but allows me to give it all to her. I stand on the floor at the side of our bed and she rests her ankles on my shoulders and I bring her hips all the way to the edge of the bed.

Larry

That is what we use with my bad knees and her bad back it works good. It I need to take a break I just pull out piput my knees on the floor and eat her out.

hturner12 wrote:

Larry10625 wrote:

WyoMan wrote:This is something that is hard for me to explain. My wife had back surgery recently, and we are just getting back being intimate. Our problem is my holding my body up so that there is not too much weight on her. I am somewhat overweight and my tummy on hers is uncomfortable for her. Then my arms get tired quickly.
Her on top is not solution as her hands and knees hurt because of arthritis.
We're not comfortable to go to sites that would keep sending popups online.
And Trimix is marginal so that is somewhat limiting.
Any ideas?

Larry, you can move this if you want, or delete it altogether.

Good morning WyoMan;
Why would I delete this? There is nothing inappropriate about your question. I too am a little too fluffy and my wife is petite. Because I was not born with a great gift between my legs, we have to find positions where I can get all I have into her. We have found a position that not only does that but does not put pressure on her but allows me to give it all to her. I stand on the floor at the side of our bed and she rests her ankles on my shoulders and I bring her hips all the way to the edge of the bed.

Larry

That is what we use with my bad knees and her bad back it works good. It I need to take a break I just pull out piput my knees on the floor and eat her out.

Absolutely

Larry

I am in a wheelchair, so there's plenty of positions i can't really do, but there's always variations you can apply. True, i have very strong arms and only weigh ~50kg, so i can do some rather acrobatic stuff in bed, but still...

What we use a lot is, as previously suggest, the "spoons" position and as many variants of it as you can think of - the original is kinda like "doggy style" but lying down, but it can be done face to face, with a varied angle between the two bodies (from perpendicular to almost parallel if your "equipment" allows it), with her legs wrapped around you or with her legs closed and pulled up to her body, etc...

We also do a lot of positions in which she's on her back and i am in a "seated" position over her, only i am supporting myself with my hands and legs on the bed. It's a bit like scissors. These are much more "cardio", but might still be useful and allow for many variations to be used in a very fluent way.

As for "her on top" - you can really help her a lot by supporting her around the chest area or the haunches/ass. You'll be surprised how much "a little help: can help for any physical activity. Simply absorbing a bit of the momentum and weight can make a huge difference and help your partner not tire much.

Thank you all for your responses. We have a lot to think about.