Giving up... probably

[corporatestiff]

I've been trying trimix injections for the past couple of weeks, and as of now, it's looking like a no-go for me. I'm on the strongest mix and not having the success I had hoped for. Started at 10 units and worked my way up to 30 units (max of 100 units per my urologist). The pain is almost to the point that it outweighs the pleasure. And it lingers. I'm still sore 24+ hours after injecting usually. I'll probably try 35 units and maybe 40 (maybe), but I can't see going beyond that based on current results.

Very frustrating. Especially to think that had I started the injections sooner, I may have had some better results for a while a few years ago.

Met with my urologist today for a follow-up, and based on my overall health, this was not really at all unexpected. Options now are to consider an implant, continue increasing injection dosage, or go back to things as they were a few weeks ago. My wife is against an implant, although we have not really discussed it much yet. I may continue with smaller dose injections since the increased blood flow adds heat where there was none (or very little) before, and my wife likes that. Urologist says that's still an acceptable use as far as she's concerned.

The slow injections didn't seem to help with the pain; but based on some other posts I've seen, I may still be injecting too fast. And I may try this technique again.

Just kind of rambling and thinking out loud here. I'm realizing I may actually be done with intercourse now. A reality I have not previously fully accepted.

Thanks to those who have offered advice. I appreciate it. Might just be too late for this path.

[bldoink]

I sorry it hasn't worked out for you so far. I wish you the best and I pray you find satisfactory answers.

[silver daddy 1960]

Hi Corporatestiff,

I too had great pain from the tri-mix, god it ached for hours during and after. My cock was stiff as a board for 4 hrs and it was constricted in girth. Found out through FT that I was possible allergic to TriMix (the Aprostadil). I meet with a URO and switch to BiMix and it was like night and day. A side benefit was that my erection was thicker and a little longer, more like my natural erection before prostate cancer. I would suggest at least trying it. I need a larger dose of BiMix but its far more pleasurable now!

Silver Daddy

[68CatFan]

Why is the wife against an implant? That seems really odd to me... Specially at 51 you are still quite young and have a lot of living to do.

[SteveSW]

Corporatestiff,
Over time I worked my way up to the same strength you are using/used. At each stage of increasing strength, it would work for a little while, but I had to keep increasing dosages to achieve a usable boner. At 70 -75 units of 100/6/30, resulting in only a partial erection and pain that lasted for hours, I started looking for an implant surgeon. And honestly, I was sick and tired of stabbing my penis. Scheduled for IPP 2/18/21. Have some serious discussions with your wife and try to discover what her objections are. Speaking for myself, being able to get a hard dick is as much about being able to have sex as it is about a positive self image as a man. Men are so often dick-centric, in that our entire manhood is about our virility and ability to fuck. Good luck. Steve

[corporatestiff]

To follow up... I did have some discussion with my wife regarding an implant. Hard to explain here, but in essence, she's simply against such an extreme solution just for sex. I'm not going to go deeper here other than to say I understand her perspective and respect it. She has concerns about her aging body as well, which I respect but honestly don't really understand. There's still some disconnect here, but I'm not sure it's worth pursuing the implant idea too much further. Especially since it's not something I'm dead set on to begin with.

Since I have been suffering from ED for several years, we have found ways to work around my limitations. I have learned how to give her more intense and consistent orgasms now with my hands than I ever did with my penis. It's a role reversal from our younger years where she could always get me off and it was hit or miss on me being able to do the same for her. I don't always orgasm when we're intimate now, but she almost always does. I'm good with that. Once in a while in the passion of the moment, she will make a comment implying she'd like me inside her. I'm not even sure she's aware of it. That's ultimately what I had hoped to be able to provide.

[Txagq8]

It was the great Winston Churchill (who remains solidly among my favorite statesmen of all time that said “Never give in. Never, never, never, never--in nothing, great or small, large or petty--never give in, except to convictions of honour and good sense. Never yield to force. Never yield to the apparently overwhelming might of the enemy.”

Frustrating sex on pills plus injections plus Cock ring resulted in anorgasmia for me, and due to aggravation and frustration had limited it to birthdays, anniversaries, valentines day, and maybe an attempt on vacation.

My wife wasn’t thrilled at the idea of an implant. So while I didn’t lie, I simply told her I was having a minor procedure done which would fix my ED. I waited til she was out of town visiting relatives after the holidays and had it done. By the time she got back the bruising had subsided for the most part. I no longer looked like they anesthetized me, took me to the parking lot, and ran a big SUV over my crotch several times.

I’ve got an AMS. It looks real in both soft and hard state. She has been happy with it since my recovery. Overall, things are much better because I no longer feel like I was a failure as a male.

I wouldn’t tell anyone what to with their own lives. But I would suggest that the ability to have an erection for no reason at all is a part of a guy feeling like a virile, potent male. When a guy can feel good about himself, it has a spillover effect on rest of family.

Good luck regardless of your future decision. The successful marriage is always based on compromise and each person getting what they need, even if it’s not always what they want. Even if I was to never have sex again (which fortunately is no longer the case and the outcomes are no longer excruciatingly frustrating) I would be glad I have that implant in there to enable certain manly function.