qcswral:
Been thinking about your situation, there was a blog on the internet a while ago about various sex issues. No longer on the net,but I kept a copy of what he said about PERFORMANCE ANXIETY:
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The next issue is performance anxiety. I always had issues with being 'the best'. I'd rather avoid sex than be known as someone who was sexually incompetent. This was a vicious cycle, because going through a phase of sexual incompetence is a necessary step in becoming sexually confident.
At 17, when I tried to have sex for the first time I didn't actually lose my virginity - I was so nervous I didn't erect. I was humiliated. I didn't try again until I was 18. At this point,
I was so focused on pleasing the woman, and not letting myself down, my own pleasure became completely irrelevant. I didn't have sex for pleasure, but for experience. Just so I didn't feel like a chump. I found that the motions were enough to keep me erect, but never did I feel close to orgasm, never did I enter that state of mind. In fact, since I was so wrapped up in my own performance and had underlying anxiety, there was no way I could reach orgasm in a mutual sexual situation - even with my own hand.
Since learning to cum from the fleshlight, and subsequently with women I now go into sex with orgasm in mind...as any normal person would
. I'm selfish. I don't mind if I don't conform to the unrealistic standards I set for myself. I just do whatever feels good. While I had a very strong ego before, and would worry about messing up, now I just aim for pleasure. Which leads on to the next point...
Lack of arousal. This is a tough one. During sex, the motion was enough, even thought it felt awkward, to keep me erect. The penis, however remained numb. This is where a change in attitude comes in. When I'm with a girl, I'm generally thinking about what feels good for me. I don't mind if massaging her ass during making out may seem poor form. I don't care if stroking my own penis may seem poor form. It gets me aroused, so I do it. You have to be selfish, simple as that....ad you have to try and get to that 'false point of no return'
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Hope that helps, helped me when I had a bout with Performance Anxiety.
None of my business really but I don't think you should get involved with injectable ED meds unless you absolutely need them. For one thing, there was a huge learning curve for me until I could get a good injection. For another thing I think it would be very very easy to get psychologically addicted to Tri-mix.
So do what you can to work thru the performance anxiety before you take desperate measures. Did you talk to your girl about what is going on? That might take a lot of stress off of you it you do.