How do I explain this?

[Pete5829]

I was implanted on Oct 18. So far the pain has been manageable (with the help of some lovely little pills) and other than a few moments of panic that I’ve ruined my penis beyond the damaged that had naturally occurred through 20+ years of ED all has been great. I’ve actually enjoyed the time off from work and in a busy house with three school age children it’s nice to be the one getting taken care of for a few days (unlike my new robo-erection I’m aware this will never last).

My question is about explaining my new addition to my anatomy. Specifically I ‘enjoy’ male grooming and get waxed ‘down there’ every 8-10 weeks. The time will soon come when my lovely esthetician Amanda will be waxing my balls and will discover I’ve grown a third. What do I tell her? I’m pretty sure she will notice and I’m not sure given the unicorn aspect of our fellowship that she’s ever encountered this before.

I have a similar but less anxious question about how and if I tell my close friends. We gather in a few weeks for our annual Vegas weekend which includes an afternoon at the hotel spa. I’ve told one of them I had the procedure. I’m guessing as discreet as I’ve asked him to be it might come up. I’m warming to the idea of telling them but I still feel some shame and embarrassment. I know its unfounded and that many if not all of them are on some form of hydraulic enhancement but still how did you discuss your new ‘abilities’ with your buddies (if at all)?

Thanks for reading. This is my first post and it’s therapeutic just to be able to express these fears and questions; looking forward to your answers.

[Cajun Jeff]

Im not implanted yet but my thought is. "Nothing to be ashamed of or embarrassed about. You had a problem that medical science is able to take care of. Fixed and working like is should. Congrats!

[WhiteCane]

My friend… good people will never ridicule you for trying to be a better version of you….. most people can absorb in their minds that this was a serious enough issue for you to go to such an extreme length “no pun intended“. I cannot emphasize enough that everyone’s got something going on… if anyone gives you trouble, they are the dysfunctional Dick in the room…

[jfruedam]

That's for me the million dollar question my man. Be it friends, estheticians, a new lover...it will always be something to think about. How do you bring this up is what I would constantly think about until the revealing moment comes. I guess it comes up to the individual. You seem to have an established family already, if I were in your position I wouldn't sweat it that much. You have your loved ones and as long as they are accepting of it, I wouldn't give a rat ass about anybody else's opinion.

I see a lot of guys who go through this with the support of their partners, and that to me would be the ideal scenario. He/She is the one who gets to enjoy your dick, and that's all that matters.

[MARKOS2018]

Hey Pete

That is great that you will be enjoying Vegas and don't worry if your dick is bigger than theirs. LOl You had to do it and it is a good thing to having sex again without any worries.

You don't have to explain anything to your groomer. If she asks you can respond whichever you want. No big deal.

Enjoy yourself and i am sure you will.

[cmforbsc]

I enjoyed each and every posted reply and I can tell you it gets easier to talk about and even brag about your "new" capability to please your partner and if they don't understand that, then you need new buddies!

[ft8790]

I was thinking along these lines as fessing up. I am recently divorced and found I had PCa gleason 8 during. Treated in May and divorced in August. It's been 5months since treatment and no defined erections. It seems I'll need an implant. Doing this alone is difficult. So I was wondering do you tell a new partner or someone your dating upfront?

[DaveKell]

From all the dick flash porn videos in existence of guys getting a hardon while being waxed I'd say demonstrate it to her! As for people finding out, I'm a firm believer in telling as many people about it as possible. There was a time the Viagra tv commercials made people squirm uncomfortably. Now, it's so mainstream they even sponsor NASCAR. I regularly tell an auditorium full of strangers about my implant at men's health seminars and have let my implant manufacturer rep know I'm willing to do a tv interview on a medical show or be in a commercial for it. I've found once people get over the initial mild shock of being told they then think you're bragging!

[Greg1956]

First of all you have nothing to be ashamed of or embarrassed about. You did nothing wrong. If you had an accident and lost a limb, you would get a prosthetic to make it easier to do everything you could do with all of your limbs. Essentially your penis had stopped functioning so you got a prosthetic device to help you do what your penis was no longer doing.

Yes, an aesthetician will notice the difference. It would be difficult to avoid that conversation. It is more because of the touching that she will know than looking at you. I am a nude model for artists and college art classes and I seriously doubt anyone can tell.

Regarding your friends, only you will know whether it would be smart to tell them. Some guys, no matter what age, have the maturity of a teenager when it comes to dicks. If you are getting naked with them at a spa and your penis size increased dramatically because of the implant and they know what it looked like before, they are going to wonder why. If it is not dramatically different they may never know, if you trust the one friend you told.

I chose to tell my best friend while I was healing after my own implant surgery. He and I swim together and we are in the locker room and showers together all the time. My deflated length is quite different than it used to be and I decided to tell him why. Some of the other guys I see at the gym frequently did kind of a double take at first but soon my new look was the new normal.

[Gt1956]

Greg1956, I would suggest that a penis implant is different than a missing limb. To me it is more like the literally thousands of people that you see wearing a wrist/knee/ankle brace. You have your limb, it just needs a little something to help it be useful.