PORN impact on sex drive

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merrix
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Re: PORN impact on sex drive

Postby merrix » Sun Jan 05, 2020 5:53 pm

Being the way I am, I always think there is a better way, a best way.
And I think that way is rarely or never found by coincidence, and equally rarely without sacrifices.

As my work and lifestyle requires me to travel a lot ~120 nights per year, I do my fair bit of porn watching/masturbating as well.
My 50 cents in this discussion:

There are credible research sources claiming too much porn can make young men losing the ability to get hard when having sex with girls/women. Porn induced ED.
Of course, for us implanted men, that can’t happen. We can always get hard. But why do young men without prior ED issues fail to get hard from porn watching?
It sure ain’t that porn causes venous leakage. Or that porn destroys their nerves. Or clogs their arteries. Or whatever reasons made us unable to get/maintain an erection.
It is because the porn, with super sexy girls in lingerie, submissive, moaning, anal loving, dp craving, cum swallowing, made them no longer get enough turned on by their pale, small titted girlfriend who prefers to have sex like most normal women actually want it.
That sex simply wasn’t enough to turn the porn sedated guys on any more. Their treshold to get turned on had moved to a level reality no longer could deliver.

And even though our implants will always guarantee we get an everlasting erection, we are not immune to the psychological effect.
We can still get porn sedated.

I have noticed that I never have as good sex with my wife as I do when I’ve been together with my wife for every night for several weeks. This only happens twice per year. Summer vacation and over Christmas/New Years.
Why? My theory: Because when I don’t travel I don’t watch porn. The only naked woman I see is my wife. And to be fair, she would stand up pretty well to any MILF porn actor, looking amazing for any 40+ woman on the planet. But still, porn is porn. They are pros and still porn videos display perfect sex in a way reality seldom can match.
I simply get more horny and desire real sex more when I don’t watch porn for a few weeks.
And sex is not only about penetrating a woman with a hard dick. Enjoying sex to the fullest requires our mind to be fully engaged as well. If the woman we fuck doesn’t look as good as the women we masturbate while watching, if she doesn’t moan as sexy, if she doesn’t get turned on by anal, gangbangs, bondage or whatever we watch on the screen, then we run the risk of judging the real sex as less exciting than we otherwise (without porn) would have.

That is my strong conviction, supported by the empirical study of myself.
Hence, I think too much porn does equal worse, or not as good sex, as what we would experience without porn.

That doesn’t mean I don’t ever watch porn. I am just a man with too many lonely boring nights at hotels around the world.
But I seriously think it has a negative impact on real life sex.
And that skipping porn most likely would be a good idea.
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stephen54
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Re: PORN impact on sex drive

Postby stephen54 » Mon Jan 06, 2020 7:42 am

merrix wrote:Being the way I am, I always think there is a better way, a best way.
And I think that way is rarely or never found by coincidence, and equally rarely without sacrifices.

As my work and lifestyle requires me to travel a lot ~120 nights per year, I do my fair bit of porn watching/masturbating as well.
My 50 cents in this discussion:

There are credible research sources claiming too much porn can make young men losing the ability to get hard when having sex with girls/women. Porn induced ED.
Of course, for us implanted men, that can’t happen. We can always get hard. But why do young men without prior ED issues fail to get hard from porn watching?
It sure ain’t that porn causes venous leakage. Or that porn destroys their nerves. Or clogs their arteries. Or whatever reasons made us unable to get/maintain an erection.
It is because the porn, with super sexy girls in lingerie, submissive, moaning, anal loving, dp craving, cum swallowing, made them no longer get enough turned on by their pale, small titted girlfriend who prefers to have sex like most normal women actually want it.
That sex simply wasn’t enough to turn the porn sedated guys on any more. Their treshold to get turned on had moved to a level reality no longer could deliver.

And even though our implants will always guarantee we get an everlasting erection, we are not immune to the psychological effect.
We can still get porn sedated.

I have noticed that I never have as good sex with my wife as I do when I’ve been together with my wife for every night for several weeks. This only happens twice per year. Summer vacation and over Christmas/New Years.
Why? My theory: Because when I don’t travel I don’t watch porn. The only naked woman I see is my wife. And to be fair, she would stand up pretty well to any MILF porn actor, looking amazing for any 40+ woman on the planet. But still, porn is porn. They are pros and still porn videos display perfect sex in a way reality seldom can match.
I simply get more horny and desire real sex more when I don’t watch porn for a few weeks.
And sex is not only about penetrating a woman with a hard dick. Enjoying sex to the fullest requires our mind to be fully engaged as well. If the woman we fuck doesn’t look as good as the women we masturbate while watching, if she doesn’t moan as sexy, if she doesn’t get turned on by anal, gangbangs, bondage or whatever we watch on the screen, then we run the risk of judging the real sex as less exciting than we otherwise (without porn) would have.

That is my strong conviction, supported by the empirical study of myself.
Hence, I think too much porn does equal worse, or not as good sex, as what we would experience without porn.

That doesn’t mean I don’t ever watch porn. I am just a man with too many lonely boring nights at hotels around the world.
But I seriously think it has a negative impact on real life sex.
And that skipping porn most likely would be a good idea.


Well said. Agree entirely and for those of us paying attention and not fans of being in denial, I think it's just not credible to argue the main point you're making. Human behavior and the biochemistry around dopamine are unavoidably real and we're lying to ourselves if we say "oh there's no harm" in porn. Because porn that's doing its job (like, its stated purpose) will always show us something outside the bell curve of experiences of most of the audience. That shit sells for a reason. Most of us don't wake up and find our wife spread-eagled on the kitchen table with a gorgeous lithe young ponytailed gymnast facesitting her during breakfast. And yet, this exact thing happened in something my wife and I watched recently. Hot conversation and delightful fucking ensued for us, but the gymnast, regrettably, did not make an appearance.

So desensitization and an unrealistic escalation of expectations...that's real shit. My only caveat being, as I said in my reply earlier: if you have a partner who openly embraces some occasional porn with you, in a shared experience, the right porn with the right partner (and, in that right contextual place...ie, not constant, not necessary, but just incidentally, as any other toy is used) can be incredibly fun and useful in getting to know and see your partner from new angles and to spurring new experiences (even if they don't precisely mimic the porn scene). At a minimum, you have a laugh, you've shared something filthy, and there can be a pretty sweet, lingering, just-between-us, conspiratorial reference point the two of you can remember, reference, try your own versions of, etc.

Having said that - I travel, too, and I have the same experience merrix describes exactly...if I fuck around much with porn while I'm gone, there is a definite dent in my desire and approach when I get home to my wife. And I'm blessed with a gorgeous, highly sexual woman who seriously sets me off with desire. And she's a woman who is very open and definitely experimental. So I've got a stick of dynamite in my midst. I'm very aware and ridiculously fortunate. And - it's also an absolute fact that I've watched porn and then felt less inclined or less energetic about playing with my wife. That's fucked up and all I can say is I feel fortunate that I'm at least honest with myself and I see the warning signs around that stuff and I try to keep perspective...
54 yrs. Blessed with highly sexual 52 yr old wife. Pills 10 years, then 9 yrs Trimix. 28 cm Titan Touch XL 2019, Laurence Levine, Rush Univ Med Ctr, Chicago. Implant = nonstop fun. Hypogonadal, so also 10+ years testosterone replacement.

seb345
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Re: PORN impact on sex drive

Postby seb345 » Wed Feb 05, 2020 3:23 am

It does sometimes. It depends on how you view it. I find it helpful. I honestly don't find it as something that will cause future ED problems. I have friends who have been watching porn since they were in their teens and they still watch it now and they have no problem with their erection. I feel like most of the time it's mental. I mean if you visit a porn site a lot of times a day (I'll leave one I like bellow) you kind of get used to the image of a female naked body. I feel like that's the main aspect. I mean you don't get a hard on something you have seen every day like a toothbrush or your dog. So why isn't the naked female the same? I feel like the fact that you overstimulate your brain with xnxx videos of naked girls causes an overflow of serotonin and the male psyche just at some point shuts down and poof here comes the ED. I might be wrong though.



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