Single guy & discretionary practices

[Lost Sheep]

I second what Merrix wrote.

And add: Sex is a cooperative activity. Two (usually) people engaging in pleasurable activity and anything that enhances that activity is fair game. Sharing knowledge about one another is a natural part of that.

I ask this question: A woman who does not produce sufficient natural vaginal lubrication might be embarrassed about needing additional store-bought lube. Should she be? Men who need to take a pill, inject or inflate to produce sufficient natural erection might be embarrassed about needing additional store-bought medication. Should he be? Ask the man who needs a vacuum pump and constriction ring. Hard to hide THAT!

insufficient natural lubrication?
insufficient natural erection?

What's the difference? Both could be a source of embarrassment. Neither should be a problem during sex. You are there for each other.

If what you need to do to bring her the pleasures of sex are a deal-breaker for her, do you really want to have a relationship with such a shallow woman? (My opinion, and judgmental as well:) Sex without a relationship is just masturbation with another person involved. If all you want is that, do you really want a reputation as such a shallow man?

Note: I do not condemn you for whatever you choose in that matter. I was no different in my youth.

Towards that end, I recommend the ideas espoused in this thread:
viewtopic.php?f=6&t=12167&p=105570

Own it. Advertise it. Use it to your heart's content. Just don't hurt anybody.

[Lost Sheep]

Life is too short to miss the joys of sex and too long to endure its absence.

I recall, even younger women (who, presumably do not have the maturity to appreciate the finer aspects of manhood and who also have a greater appetite for raw sex) are incredibly supportive if they feel trusted, respected and safe.

I went on a dating site and was honest about my inability to have sex and that I was intending to have an implant to fix that problem. My honesty and candor was commented on several times as "brave" and "refreshing".

Don't waste a day of a potential relationship just because sex may be difficult. There are other (and some are better) ways for a woman to have and to give orgasms. Also, penis-in-vagina orgasms are not the only joy of sex.

When my E.D. began the transition towards impotence, I learned cunnilingus and how to use my hands and sexual aids (toys) to masturbate her. These skills (even after my implanted penis is unstoppable) are still useful and QUITE appreciated.

Trust her. Let her know by your words and actions that you want to please her and that you trust her with your innermost secrets. `That sort of vulnerability on your part will assuredly open her up to you.

[MK1965]

If any lady would deserve to know it, I would not worry about being rejected. Respect for respect, trust for trust. Why not to be honest and earn person’s trust.
Afterwards, guy wouldn’t feel uncomfortable to inflate it in front of lady.
That is what you have, enjoy it the best possible way and be comfortable with yourself and others.
MK

[Gt1956]

A lot of this seems to be a common topic. Out of my own curiosity. Has any of our posts actually change any mans opinion of his fear?
Since I believe that we haven't gotten through to a few/many/most men with this fear. I propose a different direction of discussion. What exactly is it you want to hear? It sure seems like what is being said isn't working very well.
Are young women any different today than 30-40 years ago. I personally don't think so. Women are so full of self awareness that I doubt they have time to judge your dick. I have adult daughters & granddaughters. They seem to be more worried about pubic hair, external sexual organ appearance & breast size/shape/sag.
Btw, I like the story posted the other day about the girlfriend that tried to wear out 1 guys implant erection. It's a good to read.

[Agfa13]

Hmmm...just my 2 cents after I gather myself from laughing my ass off at Merrix's posting!
One nighters, yeah, you can hide it, but it its more then a fling, just be upfront. Gay, str8, married, single...relationships are work, any way you slice it. Only you can judge how to bring topic up once things get serious...and constantly pissing is not the answer (sorry, could not help it)!

[TitanGuy]

I think it is possible to be in a healthy sexual relationship and not disclose the implant. You'll obviously have to say something because the pump is very obvious unless you have a seriously large set of balls. I just had I had some medical issues when I was younger and had to have surgery on my scrotum and left it at that. It's very easily to have sex organically, especially if you are the more active partner. I pump subtly as I go, most often when performing oral sex. You go down and then it's a perfect time to start pumping yourself. Play half-mast for a while and then fully pump when you're ready. You don't have to rush it. I've probably had sex at least 150 times in my current relationship and never discussed the implant and we're still going strong.

[Agfa13]

Something occurred to me today.
Let's say an old flame shows back up. You just got your implant and started cycling again.
Of course WE know that things are not going to be the way they were, but you get hit up.
What do you say in the situation?
He/she is used to seeing the 7/8", but now, since you are still pumping, you got girth, but length is 'meh', still working on it.
Thoughts?