Single Lifestyle

[Musson]

As I contemplate this potential implant journey I’m interested in some data points from the single guys here. Out of embarrassment or maybe hassle I’ve been on the sidelines due to my Peyroines. My only activity since my condition has been extras at massage parlors. My 40% dorsal curve provides some difficulty but occasionally some benefit as I hit the upper wall. Nevertheless the ED ( using pills plus a ring) and curve need fixing. I’m anxious to resume dating and I’m wondering about realistic expectations. So here are my questions: do you disclose the implant before intimacy or just inflate discretely? Is it detected during close intimacy e.g fellatio or oral/scrotal contact? Has anyone been rejected by disclosing early in dating before intimacy? Finally do women gossip about the implant ( I live in a active retirement community with a fair amount of hooking up going on)?

Apologies in advance for the lame questions.

[Lost Sheep]

As I contemplate this potential implant journey I’m interested in some data points from the single guys here. Out of embarrassment or maybe hassle I’ve been on the sidelines due to my Peyroines. My only activity since my condition has been extras at massage parlors. My 40% dorsal curve provides some difficulty but occasionally some benefit as I hit the upper wall. Nevertheless the ED ( using pills plus a ring) and curve need fixing. I’m anxious to resume dating and I’m wondering about realistic expectations. So here are my questions: do you disclose the implant before intimacy or just inflate discretely? Is it detected during close intimacy e.g fellatio or oral/scrotal contact? Has anyone been rejected by disclosing early in dating before intimacy? Finally do women gossip about the implant ( I live in a active retirement community with a fair amount of hooking up going on)?

Apologies in advance for the lame questions.

Welcome to the forum, Musson. Yours is not a lame question at all. In fact, it has been asked many times in the past and is always of interest.

First, let me ask you if you have explored other remedies to Peyronie's Disease. There are ways of mitigating the scar tissue. Implant is invasive, irreversible and the "nuclear option", not to be taken lightly.

In some societies, knowledge that a man has erectile difficulties might be an impediment to establishing a relationship or damaging to his reputation. In other societies, no impact on his reputation would occur. If you told us something about yourself (maybe make a signature?) we might be able to give better answers.

I am an advocate of full disclosure (absent contraindications). My story: When I went on a dating site I disclosed that I was essentially impotent but was seeking treatment. I invited women to be my "lab partner" for sex both before and after a probably implant. I got NO negative responses. A couple advised against "hooking up", some simplly congratulated me on my courage and for taking positive action (women seem to respect a man who does not go into denial about a problem) and several women who met with me to consider getting into the sexual relationship I requested. All this from a dating site ad wherein, I repeat, I disclosed the inability to get an erection. Women are incredibly supportive if they feel desired, respected, trusted and safe.

[Musson]

Thanks. I’ve added the footer. Only treatment for PD has been Restorex traction.

[ViaSwiss]

Check out my log. I'm single and have had a few encounters, just got a revision and about to have some more.

[defiant]

Check out my log. I'm single and have had a few encounters, just got a revision and about to have some more.

I just DMd you, ViaSwiss. Hope you get a chance to read and respond. Thanks!

[newbie443]

As I contemplate this potential implant journey I’m interested in some data points from the single guys here. Out of embarrassment or maybe hassle I’ve been on the sidelines due to my Peyroines. My only activity since my condition has been extras at massage parlors. My 40% dorsal curve provides some difficulty but occasionally some benefit as I hit the upper wall. Nevertheless the ED ( using pills plus a ring) and curve need fixing. I’m anxious to resume dating and I’m wondering about realistic expectations. So here are my questions: do you disclose the implant before intimacy or just inflate discretely? Is it detected during close intimacy e.g fellatio or oral/scrotal contact? Has anyone been rejected by disclosing early in dating before intimacy? Finally do women gossip about the implant ( I live in a active retirement community with a fair amount of hooking up going on)?

Apologies in advance for the lame questions.

I agree with LS and will add my take on this. First of all most sexually active women have had experience with men having a bit of trouble at one time or the other and this just gets worse as we age. And women in your and my age group have had more than enough experience to recognize the implant with sex. And I have had several partners that were/are in the medical profession so they would have known anyway but I did and do disclose prior to first time sex. I explain that sex is part of what I am looking for in a relationship. That it is important enough to me that I had surgery to fix my impotency. This is just part of my dating process as women in our age group have problems also and many of them are looking for a sexless relationship. I used to work with seniors in retirement facilities and one man informed me of some women who were quite forward looking for men for sex. So being able to provide this was sought by women as you indicated with the hooking up going on where you live. I have not been rejected for the implant and find that women are positive about it. I was asked one time about pumping up for sex if I was not interested in sex with a partner and explained that if I was not interested or did not want to have sex I would be somewhere else. It just gave me the ability to have an erection whenever and for as long as I wanted. As far as gossip I do not know but it does not concern me as I am open about it and have and will talk to others about mine.

One last thing is that has been posted on a bit is that this is invasive and has some draw backs. Loss of sensitivity with some men and difficulty to orgasm. And depending on the doctor there can be slight or significant size loss. For me the important part was to be able to have an erection again. I did want to keep as much of my size as I could and wanted a doctor that had a great record for preventing infection. But we are all different and make our own choices. Nothing worked for me so my choice was clear. I would look for a really good doctor and have talk about your treatment options. A doctor that has your medical records and does an examination would have the best advice for how to proceed.

Good luck with this and welcome to the sight.

[Weazer]

As a fellow Peyronie's sufferer I have been in your shoes. I went through hell with Peyronie's and wondered about the same thing before I got my implant. I now wish I would have skipped all that other shit ( pills, traction, pumping and two surgeries) and just gone straight to an implant. It would have saved me a lot of time, heart ache and money not to mention missed opportunities with the ladies.

How I handle it depends on the situation. If they're going to give you oral or spend time playing with you, the pump is hard to miss. I usually tell them once it looks like a done deal. I have never been rejected because of it. The responses have varied from indifference to intrigue. I have also not said anything. I have waited untill afterwards, although, she seemed a little disappointed that I really didn't have a magic dick.

[Lost Sheep]

(edited for focus) she seemed a little disappointed that I really didn't have a magic dick.

Considering that most magicians (the real-life stage performers, not actual supernatural practitioners) use some kind of mechanisms or prepared props (mirrors, hidden doors, etc) I think our implants could qualify as "magic".

[Old Guy]

You're 61 and single living in a community of aroused senior ladies? My guess is if you get the implant and hook up with a couple of the ladies word will spread. Old ladies gossip and if they haven't had any for a while, then find a goldmine they sure gonna tell their friends. You might have more action going on than you want, NOT!

[Musson]

Yes it’s a so called active adult ( over 55) community. As you would expect it’s over represented by widows, divorcees etc. there are two community centers and dozens of clubs and a restaurant/bar. For those in the 55 to 75 demographic it’s ridiculously easy to get laid. The reason I asked the question about discretion is actually due to rumors at my late mother in laws retirement community in Florida back in the 1990s. For some reason the story stuck with me. She pointed to a house and said that guy had an implant and is extremely popular. I just chuckled never thinking that someday I would be him.