Cdogg737 wrote:deepanvee wrote:Hi
I am getting my implant done on May 17th. I have a 7 year old and he sleeps with us( me and my wife). Question how do you handle situations with small children- What did you do or didnt do ( did u sleep alone until recovery).How do you hide it from them? My son is very inquisitive and also very attached to me wonder how to keep him away and out of his eyes. Any feedback is appreciated.
I have a 5yr old daughter and she too occasionally sleeps in our bed etc. What I found from both the first surgery last year and the latest revision is for the first couple of weeks at least, when its looking all bruised and battered, I was wearing underwear all the time with it pointing upwards, so it was mostly concealed anyway. Given that it is during this period that I am most concerned about it being hurt and her seeing it in this state, if she did want to sleep in the bed I would go to the spare room and I would lock the door for showering etc. Also I explained that any rough play was off limits as I was very sore from having an operation.
Those first couple of weeks was probably the only time I was deliberately preventing her from seeing it because I didnt want to freak her out. Its a balancing act though because kids are very inquisitive and if they detect that something is going on then it makes them even more curious and determined to get to the bottom of it!!
Once I was looking more normal again I didnt really do anything differently - she knows I had to have surgery because I had an issue in my lower tummy area, if she sees me in the shower or getting dressed its no big deal, but I would try to avoid drawing any attention to the incision or that it was specifically my penis that was worked on.
I think its important to be open and honest in a family environment, but you do have to keep in mind that whatever you feel comfortable enough sharing with your child may also be happily shared with school friends and ultimately get back to other adults which could make things awkward depending upon who they are.
Thanks a lot for the valuable insight. Makes perfect sense.