HELP, I CAN'T CUM

[riseagain]

Wife and I have started having sex again, it's been along six weeks. I am having a very hard time ejaculating, I have good sensation, but just can't finish the job. Has anyone else had this problem. Could be an age thing, don't know.

[newbie443]

Wife and I have started having sex again, it's been along six weeks. I am having a very hard time ejaculating, I have good sensation, but just can't finish the job. Has anyone else had this problem. Could be an age thing, don't know.

Yes others have had this as I did. There was one man on the site that even post over in the viewforum.php?f=22 section. He went on for months with trips to many doctors and tried a bunch of medications with no luck at all. Then one day when he had given up it came back. Mine came back on its own and I tried to tell that man to just relax and enjoy the device and let things improve over time. Just about everyone does. In my case I think I had to learn how to give myself an orgasm again. This feels different with cylinders in my penis and the pump in my scrotum. At first with masturbation, I just grew tired of trying and would stop for that day. Then it did come back but took over an hour of trying. After nearly 2 years I was back to close of what I was in my younger days.

So just tell your wife that this is part of the recovery and you need to keep trying. think of all the fun you can have (and your wife also) working on getting this back.

Just give it time and relax. just enjoy your device and life. Let time heal your body and let your mind learn the new you.

[riseagain]

Thanks for the encouragement, hope over time it will.

[gjmjoe017]

It will return!I have had a couple of short stents where I can’t then I cum every time!Try and get her in a position that stimulates your glans and that will help!

[Rider1400]

I’ve been battling this for years. Started not long after I started injections about 2 years ago and has ups and downs sine my implant. I discussed it with my urologist and he said it’s a very common issue with age and generally starts in your 50s and tends to get worse with age. When asked why he said it’s usually from less sensitivity as we age. I attribute my beginning of issues to when I started using a VED which definitely cause less sensation. Now with my implant I can’t use the VED due to the location of the tubing that goes around the side of my shaft just under the left side. I do however do the Perito exercises which requires you to pump as hard as you can and bend it all around in every direction.. then pump some more and do it again… I feel that this is causing continual damage of the nerves which leads to more failed climaxes. Hopefully after I stop the rigorous exercises my penis can heal and the nerves will eventually recoup and I’ll get enough sensation to climax every time. I’m maybe 50/50 now and it really effects my wife a LOT more than it does me as she blames herself…no matter what I explain or show her on this forum. Good luck in the future.

[riseagain]

I somewhat agree that the bending exercises contribute to the possible nerve damage. I am going to stop them for now until i meet with my doctor and talk with him about it. I've only done them for about three weeks. Hopefully I haven't done any damage to the nerves. Although oral feels really good, just can't finish the job.

I did the bending just to help regain the length lost, but now I'm ok with where I am, but still want my girth back. Hopefully that will come back over time.

[riseagain]

Another side note, it could be an age-related issue also, like your doctor said.

[bloomingguy]

about 7 weeks out here and I told my wife I don't know what to expect prior to our first 2 trial runs. The first was no orgasm for me, the second was positive. She is very happy with her experiences with this new toy and I will just keep on trucking.

[gjmjoe017]

I’ve been battling this for years. Started not long after I started injections about 2 years ago and has ups and downs sine my implant. I discussed it with my urologist and he said it’s a very common issue with age and generally starts in your 50s and tends to get worse with age. When asked why he said it’s usually from less sensitivity as we age. I attribute my beginning of issues to when I started using a VED which definitely cause less sensation. Now with my implant I can’t use the VED due to the location of the tubing that goes around the side of my shaft just under the left side. I do however do the Perito exercises which requires you to pump as hard as you can and bend it all around in every direction.. then pump some more and do it again… I feel that this is causing continual damage of the nerves which leads to more failed climaxes. Hopefully after I stop the rigorous exercises my penis can heal and the nerves will eventually recoup and I’ll get enough sensation to climax every time. I’m maybe 50/50 now and it really effects my wife a LOT more than it does me as she blames herself…no matter what I explain or show her on this forum. Good luck in the future.

Rider,have you found documentation that Perito’s exercise causes nerve damage?I use it everyday and have for months with absolutely no problem.I just don’t see how it causes nerve damage and don’t think he would promote an exercise that would.If you found some medical articles saying it can I would be interested in seeing them myself.Thnx!

[Rider1400]

Don’t mean damage as in really bad, just that it definitely seems to make it less sensitive as did VED. During the two weeks I practically didn’t touch it after surgery it got ultra sensitive. Just my thoughts. Your stretching the skin in girth til it’s extremely tight… then stroking in one way or another so it has to stretch and maybe injur the nerves. Maybe I’m all wrong, just my thoughts… maybe I’m digging for a reason I’m getess and less sensitive.