Reconsidering the implant to better and challenge my self

[Antonio1010]

Hello all,


I have made my decision to not move forward with an implant at this time. My surgery is scheduled for November 15th. My decision was based on a few dissapointing erections and anger. After reading many of your post and thinking in much more depth I will be giving my self more time. I will reschedule my surgery for 3-4 months out with the hope I can hold as long as possible. If things will go down the drainage I will have the surgery without regret because I gave mydelf a chance. 


In the meantime, for the last 4-5 days I  been having some great erections. The moment I m near my wife and we start to talk little dirty or we flirt with each other my fellow goes up. In addition, as a (self test) I go to the bathroom sometime even when I m tired at nigth.  I watch a quick two mitues porn video and touch my self. My dick has been responding very good producing greater erctions. The erection goes away as soon as I stop stimulating my self but this is part of being human and aging. This is what I had to process in my head. We are not going to alway be ready like we were in our 20s or 30s and this is ok. I may have some great weeks and some not some great. Once again this is part of the aging peocess. It doesn't mean something is wrong.  For example even my beautiful wife needs alot of stimulation and forth play before we ingage with intercourse. She may need alot more time to orgasm as compared to one year ago. She is 43.  This doset mean something is wrong with her, she never once questioned herself.  Why should i question my self? If I relax and let life just be this will help alot. If I stop being obsessed and will accept the fact that a Saturday I may not be up for the task. Its ok, as there is always going to be another occasion, another time, another date...I can finally relax and let my body being.  There is noting wrong with me aside the pelvic floor dysfunction which compromise my erections quality when I have a flare. But when it goes away, I seem to be back to 85-90% (if you wonder why not 100% well I m taking in consideration the age factor. As we age we can't expect to have the same erections as we used to in our 30s or early 40s). This is part of the journey aging with a woman and accept the fact that I may not be able to run a marathon like I used to, she may won't be able to clean the house everyday like she used to, i may not be getting always erections my ways,  and she won't be horny like she was in her 30s.....it's a beautiful gift to finally recognized that I m aging along side my love/woman and together we can overcome everything, and adjust to life. She never complained once about it, she always supports me, and she doesn't think something is wrong with me. 


By the way, my plan is below:


I have been motivating my self and going to give my body a fair shot. I m back in the gym, taking some great supplements and have added saw palmetto, B/C vitamins (very good for ereclie function), and whey protein shake.


I'm addition me and my wife together purchased some fun toys that will be arriving in a couple of weeks. No dildo but just some clitorial massager, couple games, dick sleeve for me (my idea lol), hopefully this may provide support in times of need....intimacy is not just about pounding like porn..i been there done it with my wife for years...sex and specially orgasm are about fun, pleasure, and most important connectiveness..as my wife always tells me "its not about sex but the quality of our date/time we spent together. Woman's these days are looking to connect, be heard, and most important presence. 


As for my fellow down there, i will try my best to pump dailey when , I will be doing shockwave therapy from home, I have already purchased the machine, in additional to acupuncture, and physical therapy for my pelvic floor dysfunction. I m not in control of life but I will give my best to remain healthy...


Ps. my hope is that this message can help anyone that like me was scared,  confused, and felt lost all controll.  We did not....it's just life testing us, it's life happening to us... we must stay strong and try harder untill one day ( which is likely to come), we can look back and say - I tried everything but now with zero regrets i m ready for the next chapter of my life the IMPLANT !!!


With Love, 

Antonio

[Musson]

I completely understand. I’ve been on the fence for 2 years but have now decided to go forward with it. The sex toy approach is great and we’ve adopted it until I have the implant and can use it. We ended up focusing on realistic dildos in a variety of sizes. It took a while for my wife to get comfortable with them ( literally and figuratively). I would also recommend other visual stimuli like body stockings ( fishnet). When I need that extra visual stimulation she is happy to put it on and start working the 10” dildo ( she only goes in a few inches). Anyway good luck with your journey and we’ll wait for you on the other side. I’m targeting February of 24 for my procedure.

[Rider1400]

You didn’t mention any meds for Ed. I was at similar issues when I started using cialis. It lasts over two full days or you can just take 5mg daily and maybe boost a little on days you’ll have sex. It definitely bought me 10 more years! Injections not so much so. By the time I was resorting to needles I started seriously thinking about implant. Used injections about 16 months and only regret was I should have started the process for implant immediate after I started using injections. Had my implant for 16 months now and never look back! Great decision. You will know when the time is right! Just keep on doing whatever it takes to get by until that time.

[Antonio1010]

You didn’t mention any meds for Ed. I was at similar issues when I started using cialis. It lasts over two full days or you can just take 5mg daily and maybe boost a little on days you’ll have sex. It definitely bought me 10 more years! Injections not so much so. By the time I was resorting to needles I started seriously thinking about implant. Used injections about 16 months and only regret was I should have started the process for implant immediate after I started using injections. Had my implant for 16 months now and never look back! Great decision. You will know when the time is right! Just keep on doing whatever it takes to get by until that time.

I started ED meds at the age of 40 very little and increased up to 70-80mg of viagra when I have a Friday date. I do take daily cialis 5mg for my pelvic floor dysfunction. Some day helps some others not so much. I tried enjection 4-5 and stopped. I don't like the lump and the potential scars tissue was causing. Now I start a new ed meds called Rugiet ready. It's a sublingual med combining viagar and cialis. The first 3-4 times worked really well then the last few times no so well. However I was taking only half of the lowest straight. I will try the full dose which is the lowest strength so should give much side effect. I m happy to hear about your sucess with the implant. I will make sure to proceed with one the moment I m not longer achieving erection and I may face potential size lost. I will act way before that happen.

Thanks

[Lost Sheep]

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I will make sure to proceed with one the moment I m not longer achieving erection and I may face potential size lost. I will act way before that happen.

Thanks

Size loss can be reliably prevented by proper use of a vacuum erection device therapeutically (not using constriction rings).