Cold Feet

[pjt1958]

Hello all. Thanks all for sharing your experiences which have been helpful over the last year leading to deciding on getting an implant after dealing with ED for many years.

I think its pretty common but I'm having my doubts about moving forward with surgery. Currently scheduled for about 2 weeks for AMS 700 install with scrotoplasty at the same time. My partner has been very supportive, but its been difficult journey because I am uncomfortable sharing this journey with my personal friends just to avoid the shame.

Are there things leading up to surgery that you found helpful to deal with the anxiety and doubts??

[wilsonmill]

Coldfeet, yes my first implant I was scared to death,(5yrs ago)cutting on a mans cock does not sound like anything any man wants to happen to them. At the same time I wasn't having good bedroom experiences with my great wife who by the way said it was fine the way it was. Well it was not fine with me so I started researching and there was a whole lot less information in 2018/2019 than there is today, regardless I bit the bullet and had it done. Now, all I can tell you is that after 5 yrs my titan failed and I miss it tremendously, if I could have gotten the surgery the day it failed I would have jumped at the opportunity, but like everyone else you have to wait, I am scheduled for the 25th of June for a AMS700 LGX, my bigger concern is infection as I am a type 1 diabetic and now going on 64 yrs of age. So, reading all the posts that are failures including mine puts doubt in your head, you have also got to remember that out of it every 100 virgin implants that 1-2 people get infected and what I have found on revisions that about 3-4 people get infected. I have my diabetes under control as I have a insulin pump but I still know that it is still a possibility. I am looking forward to getting this done to enjoy what life I have left on this earth before God calls me home, I want to leave this earth skidding in to home plate but right now I only want to be running from 1st to 2nd. Good luck and hope you find the answers you are looking for.

[Txagq8]

How about a brutally honest pep talk from a guy who is 4 1/2 years into being bionic?

The easiest way to avoid second guessing yourself is to make a decision and git her done before you have a chance to think.

About the 1st of October 2019 I had a TRT appointment. We had hit our catastrophic cap on insurance for the year due to my wife’s bout with pneumonia. So while I was in with urologist, I said “the trimix/Quadmix is less and less effective. What about an implant?”

I saw the surgeon a couple of weeks later and got a surgical date in December.

At the end of November, they called to reschedule until March. I said no, if I do it now I have no co pay.


So I got on the phone and managed a consult with urologist/surgeon in Austin for 17 Dec. he put me on the surgical schedule for 31 Dec. Happy New Year!

I’ll be honest, the last two or three days before surgery were tough. I kept asking myself “was I sure?” “No more natural albeit shitty erections.” “What if I lose a bunch of size?”

Surgery went great. But even in a trouble-free, uneventful recovery the first 2 or 3 weeks it is like “what the fuck have I done?”

My doctor was an early-to-cycle, early return to sex advocate. On my 3 day follow up they wanted me to start cycling. At 2 weeks I was told I could have sex if I wanted. I was a bit judicious, plus at the time I felt like I had lost a lot.

Now. Fast forward 4 1/2 years. My LGX is a part of me and I don’t even think of life before implant. I ended up with a good sized albeit not huge cock but I didn’t start with a huge cock. I’m right where I started, only everything works. I never worry about being impotent or anything less that a virile, masculine male. One of my best decisions ever.

The night before was tough. The first 2-3 weeks might be rough. After that’s, it’s all sunshine, gumdrops, & buttercups. Be ready.

[happycamper59]

Not sure where my reply went, but it disappeared after I clicked Submit.

Anyway, Tsagq8 says it as well as anyone. Doubts mean you are human. I had my doubt crisis a few days AFTER the procedure; but too late for that! But now 10 days out, I've turned the corner and swelling and soreness is dissipating. I have 4 weeks until activation date and cannot wait.

The stories and advice on FT are priceless. These great guys have been helping me through my ED journey for several years now.

Good luck! I hope you don't back out.

[Jage64]

In my case, when the doubts crept before surgery in I'd say to myself "what's the worse that could happen, my dick not work anymore...? I already have that now"

Nothing to lose, right? 16 months later happy as hell.

[LetoMan]

I never had doubts, pre or post.

I had nothing to lose, and everything to gain.

If I hadn’t done it, I’d be back where I was: trying to guess if my date wanted to fuck in an hour, and then taking a pill and feeling like shit during sex and for days after. Or maybe an injection and its problems. Either way, worrying I would lose the erection, so letting myself cum as quick as possible to make sure it wasn’t all a waste.

That’s no way to live. Sex should make you feel good, not anxious and terrible.

I’m still in the worst part of it - recovery. Only three weeks out. And I already know it was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.

Your friends don’t need to know. We’re your friends now. Tell us whatever is going on. The only people who know about me are me, my doc, and you guys.

You’ll be fine, brother!

Leto

[Rider1400]

I had used pills for 10 years and even doubling dose had no effect. Then injections were all over the place. I doubled and doubled and doubled again on amount I injected from month to month always unsure if it would last long enough to finish or if it would not go down for 4 hours! Shots to me were as bad as anything I delt with, with ED. So I made my mind up to have an implant! I have always said on FT on many posts, 90% of the battle with a decision AND your recovery is in your head!! Make up your mind to do or not to do. Once you’ve made up your mind don’t waiver and stick with your decision! Do your homework use the best surgeon you either can afford or the best you can get to. Stick with it! I’ve always said when you know the time is right for you, you’ll know it without a doubt! At this point decide and move forward… no regrets!

[CigareVolant]

Oh my goodness! Today is my two year anniversary! (Peniversary?)

Let me start by saying that I'm absolutely thrilled with my new, bionic cock. That doesn't mean you should get one, but it seems like important context.

I read about things here for some time, which really helped me get my head around the process. But eventually I decided, "Yep, I want to do this," and at that point I just moved forward. In my case, I had been on pills for about 20 years, and while they still worked partially, I couldn't reliably get an erection that would last long enough for me to come. I'd often get one that would last long enough for me to enter my partner, but it just wouldn't last too long. And if foreplay was long and slow (as it should be!), then my erection might not even last long enough for penetration. And I'd been increasing pill dosage which increased side-effects like headache and stuffy nose. I just wasn't interested in the hassle associated with shots, so I just jumped straight to implant. (The current medical guidelines say you should start with pills, but after that jumping to implant is now considered an acceptable choice).

I can't say that I had no jitters, but I did select a high-volume doctor which gave me confidence. It's always possible that something will go wrong, but then again, that's also true when you get into a car.

Did I mention how much I love my new cock? It's not the cock so much as the self-assurance that I will perform wonderfully, every time, with no worry. It really creates a change of attitude and confidence.

[Journeyman]

No doubts. Actually excited to get the surgery! It's so easy .... they put you to sleep , you don't feel a thing . Two hours pass in the blink of an eye , and they're waking your groggy ass up. Congratulations !!! You're a newly implanted man who never has to think about ED , sexual anxiety, or performance issues . You now have sexual super powers ...... You know how men are bombarded with Viagra, Cialis , and other ED remedies on the TV and radio. I still hear them and think with a smile , " Don't need that shit anymore ."

[pjt1958]

Thank you all for the words of wisdom. It does help to hear and learn from your experiences on the other side. I've spent countless hours over the last few days reviewing videos, reading, sending my doctor messages. Seems that it's all part of the norm. Was able to schedule another pre-op virtual appointment with my doctor to discuss everything one more time before surgery - t minus 2 weeks left. Wish me luck!