Afraid of " the bulge, " .... I just don't get it

[wolfpacker]

I wonder if the AMS is the same ( I think the 700-CX would be) as the Titan deflated . A deflated implant is really just a soft erection. It really doesn't shrink much ( the LGX does from my research) .

And hopefully you can understand why some guys don't want to walk around their elementary school with a soft erection 24/7

Of course can . But tell me , What's Mark supposed to do ? Quit his job ? Remove the implant ? If you have a big dick , does that disqualify you from certain jobs ? Do they measure dicks when you apply at a school to make sure your genitals are within an acceptable range to be around kids ? If you're a former NFL player , would you be allowed to coach youth football? That's crazy . It's not me who needs a perspective change. I feel some implanted men feel like Cersei in " Game of Thrones. " Being marched through the streets with a bell ringing and people chanting " Shame." I don't post anything to take shots at people. I just saw Mark had a post titled, " How to hide the bulge." So I understand why he may have thought that this topic was a direct result of his ( it wasn't, I promise) . It's been a constant concern I've been reading since being a member. I just want to provoke discussion amongst my brothers and share our knowledge with future bionic brothers.

No, I don't think he or anyone else should quit their job or remove the implant because of the bulge. But they could:

Post here seeking advice from others on how to deal with it
Try different clothing or underwear combinations to minimize the appearance
Consider preferring a softer flaccid implant (AMS) in the future when revision arises

[Mark1974]

I wonder if the AMS is the same ( I think the 700-CX would be) as the Titan deflated . A deflated implant is really just a soft erection. It really doesn't shrink much ( the LGX does from my research) .

And hopefully you can understand why some guys don't want to walk around their elementary school with a soft erection 24/7

I just saw Mark had a post titled, " How to hide the bulge." So I understand why he may have thought that this topic was a direct result of his ( it wasn't, I promise) . It's been a constant concern ( bulge
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That was another poster as I don't have an implant yet. My surgery is scheduled 12/9. I'm going with the AMS and the reason is the softer cylinders. Comfort in the flaccid state was the determinant factor, but concealment was a close second. I just hope it lasts, because the downside is the cylinders aren't as durable as your Titan

[Txagq8]

To confirm Journeyman’s research: yes, the LGX does shrink. I go from an erection of 6.8” to a flaccid of 5 3/4”.

To comment on Mark1974’s observation about AMS vs Titan cylinders and their softness/durability. Yes, the AMS cylinders are softer although still stiffer than original equipment. Even so, I wouldn’t call my deflated implant a soft erection. I’d call it a stretched flaccid. What it most emulates is a dick that had Trimix injected about 6-8 hours ago. The erection has worn off but there is still some drug activity going on. Your dick has not retreated to its “I’m a grower on the beach in Norway” type condition. The cylinder softness might make them susceptible to mechanical conditions but that’s why AMS guys don’t deal with dog ears. Dog earring the same spot on a Titan, over time, can cause cracking and material failure.

Philosophical comments on bullshit about bulges and exhibitionism:

I don’t know when folks got so weird about the human body. When I was a kid (late 50s-early 70s) modesty was something reserved for women. Guys spent all summer shirtless unless going into a store or something. Swimming lessons at the Y were done without swimsuits. Guys weren’t body shamed for having big cocks or little wieners. Ribbing & teasing? You bet. I was a grower. My dick was nowhere near as big as I thought it should be to match my balls. I have big balls. They’re not easily concealed in a swim suit or gym short. I wear appropriate undergarments and they’re still there. Oh well.

A quick funny story: as a Captain in the Army one year I got tasked with running the water survival training at ROTC summer camp. Nothing terribly difficult. Basic swimming and floating techniques for nonswimmers/poor swimmers, using your uniform to make flotation devices, that sort of thing.

The uniform for me and my crew of instructors was Army PT shorts w/ women in t-shirts. Prior to starting the summer camp all of the Colinels and higher-ups came by for a demonstration to make sure the curriculum was being followed etc etc.

I thought everything was good at my station until the head honcho took me aside and said all was well, but that my gym trunks were obscene and vulgar and I needed to put on and wear an athletic supporter and not rely on the liner the shorts came with.

So I pulled out the waistband of my Army pt shorts to show him I was wearing a Bike athletic supporter.

They never gave me any grief after that.

So here’s the deal: in our new, modern, body fearing culture all you can do is wear appropriate clothes and hope for the best. That implant you gave has not given you a dick any bigger than other guys have. If you teach grade school you are going to wear slacks or khakis to work, not a Speedo or something see-thru. So there’s a bit of a bulge. Oh well.

If you aren’t actively trying to flaunt your wares to the schoolchildren, you should be fine.

As far as my balls are concerned, I’m living proof a good doctor can squeeze an AMS pump in a nutsack with 2 large grade-A hen’s egg sized balls.

If I was really worried about the appearance, I’d consider a jock strap or compression shorts. At my age I’m less inclined to get terribly worked up about it.

I just think it’s tragic that everything has been sexualized. Or that it’s so discriminatory. Do they fire or freak out when Ms. Bryant the math teacher comes back from summer vacation with a new set of 38DD implants? Of course not. What they do is process all the requests from teen boys wanting to sign up for Algebra 2.

[Mark1974]

The issue is big breasts to signify arousal. Looking constantly aroused around school children can create a perception problem and telling your female teacher co-workers that it's okay, you aren't a pedophile, you just have a penile implant...well, it's an awkward conversation to have.

[Journeyman]

The issue is big breasts to signify arousal. Looking constantly aroused around school children can create a perception problem and telling your female teacher co-workers that it's okay, you aren't a pedophile, you just have a penile implant...well, it's an awkward conversation to have.

It's a conversation you should never be forced to have . Get loose fitting pants if you're that concerned

[Txagq8]

The issue is big breasts to signify arousal. Looking constantly aroused around school children can create a perception problem and telling your female teacher co-workers that it's okay, you aren't a pedophile, you just have a penile implant...well, it's an awkward conversation to have.

It's a conversation you should never be forced to have . Get loose fitting pants if you're that concerned

And Journeyman nails it.

I don’t go around looking at guys’ crotches. I do see my own daily.

My implant doesn’t look like I’m aroused. It just sort of looks like I was well endowed. You might not believe it, but that doesn’t bother me at all. It’s not a bad way to go through life.

I gave up underwear 35+ years ago as a soldier at Ft Polk Louisiana because of constantly dealing with 100 degree weather, 100% humidity terminal crotch itch and never looked back.

With a 23 cm implant and big balls I wear tight wrangler jeans and it never looks like I’m walking around with a boner. My wife is Miss Proper and I can assure you if my trousers were inappropriate she wouldn’t be seen publicly with me.

Lol swimsuits are a different story. Her typical comment is “you would have looked real hot in that at age 25.”

This is a simple problem. Actually it’s no problem at all. Deflate the damned thing. Put on a jock or compression shorts. Avoid skin tight britches. Forget about it.

Nobody is going to say anything. I doubt anyone notices. But if they did, your answer is simply “I cannot help being well endowed.” Show them the waistband of the undergarment you use to minimize things and be done with it.

It worked for me and my balls.

[easymoney]

Much ado about nothing in the end .. unless you are huge and of a smaller frame meaning you don't have an old man belly to help hide some of the implant then tight fitting underwear and looser pants are all you need. I have the old man belly and a fat pad I have a mallabble implant 13mm x 20cm which is average if not a little above I live in fl. I'm in shorts 80% of the year .. even jean shorts which are snug to some degree are not an issue for the most part. I at time have to "adjust" if he gets in a bind but have never worried about someone seeing my bulge and thinking I'm aroused. If anything they might think I'm just a little bit more endowed it looks natural ..

[treetop]

I am 6 weeks post-op with a Titan. Dr EID showed me how to squeeze all the fluid out, at least for cycling…
But I can get most out, my Titan has softened up, and regular bikini briefs and jeans you can’t tell…
I look totally normal.

Yes if I’m standing in my briefs or naked, Mr. T will stick out deflated or not… but it’s ok.
Swimming and boating, I still look normal in swimwear.
Nothing to hide.
TT

[Rider1400]

The first 6-8 months is the worse! I’ve commented many times on similar post. It’s more your personal perspective simply because now your a shower! Your different. I was always a turtle shell pull it out and stretch to go pee. Although in a ved I was 7”. At first my very conservative wife commented several times about me showing…. Things have definitely softened up a lot after the first year but, I brought out the tape measure just the other day now at over two years, and guess what I’m 5-3/4” flaccid now just as I was at 6-8 months!im still 6-3/4 plus a little pumped to the max! But it doesn’t look as big to me or my wife. Again perspective. Think about a normal guy who has a 6-7” dick and is a shower! I had a friend who fit that exactly! He never considered it! He never knew any difference. He still shows a little of wearing tighter jeans.. I wear relax fit jeans and those Magellan fishing shirts with tail out which covered me the first few weeks when I was going around pumped . I still wear them now and never consider it, and neither does my wife. Wear appropriate pants with some supportive underwear and find a position that’s comfortable and try to stop worrying about it. All will be fine in the end.

[aussiePeyronies]

I understand both perspective, but you have to realize (and I have confirmed this with Dr Hakky), that no two implants are the same. There are some titans which will stick out, will not bend flaccid from the base. will not point down, and will have a dog ear protruding out of the crotch. This creates a different issue to a bulge.

A bulge simply looks like one is well endowed, a protruding implant, looks like an erection. I completely understand Mark's concern, we as implantees' are very aware of our implants, the general population; are not. If one were to walk around an elementary school looking partially erect at times and gain that type of reputation; it would be disastrous for ones life. That reputation follows you everywhere, for life.

Try and understand that, there is a difference between a big bulge, and an erect look. While most people may see no issue with a bulge, looking erect in public is a different concern.

I am not saying that this is a reason to avoid an implant, just that, one may want to consider a revision or switching to AMS if, it is really affecting their quality of life.

The goal should be to gain the quality of life back that you had pre-peyronies/ED. And, when one is constantly concerned about looking erect at work, around children (7 hours a day), he may want to consider either switching to AMS or Dr Hakky has advised there is a surgery that can be performed to lower the base flaccid angle (although it is not without risks).

Just consider, some guys may be 60-70+, use their implant 2-3 times a week, retired and have a sedentary lifestyle, in this case, making some wardrobe adjustments and lifestyle changes to adapt to your bulge that just makes you look well endowed (not erect), is completely understandable. In this scenario, is it worth making changes to have sex regularly? Of course! Now, consider the alternative, younger guys 30-40, working full-time in professional careers, having to wear tight suit pants, going to the gym regularly, and unfortunately, their flaccid titan isn't just a bulge but protrudes out like a semi-erection. In this scenario, they are constantly concerned and may avoid social gathering, the gym, avoid places with children when they can't wear thick jeans. In this scenario, one may want to consider further surgery or switching to AMS. I work in a corporate environment, and I go to court regularly, can you imagine going to court and having a dog ear or titan protruding out and the judge noticing; that would probably end up on the news!

In my case, I have found loose chinos that look like dress pants and wear loose woven boxers, it works for the time being. But, if I go to court, I have to wear a full suit, in this case, I wear a vest covering my crotch and a suit jacket over it. Still very uncomfortable, as tighter underwear is better to hold the large titan flaccid, but in my case the device sticks out at 4pm and I also have a dog ear that protrudes out. (For perspective, I am 5 foot 7, lean with abs, and 6 inch flaccid titan). Dr Hakky has advised that this happens, and it depends on the penis; they are all different.

Remember, the goal isn't just to have a sex life again, but your quality of life to return.

I think it's better if we just understand each situation, independently, and are able to offer support to each other.

Mark - if you are still concerned please dm me, I was given the link to a stretcher which may help stretch the device at the base. Also, try perito exercises, they will help soften the cylinders (please be very careful). You are only 3 months out, your flaccid angle may drop and the cylinders may soften more, hang in there!

J