I'm a 40 year old male who's had ED for most of his life. I became so used to it that I basically avoided most sexual interaction or forced myself into it in hopes that it would make it better - it didn’t.
Doctors told me it was all in my head, so I tried everything from meditation to coaching for anxiety - didn’t help. Even in the best case scenario (turned on, in love, no stress, perfect location/setting) I would randomly not get it up, or lose it quickly.
Pills did kind of help but erections didn't last for very long, also a lot of positions never worked for me, particularly standing ones. I was told that's because I don't work out enough so I got fit and it made no difference.
When I recently moved countries and wanted a new prescription, they sent me to do a doppler ultrasound and discovered that I actually have a venous leak - and suddenly all the above made sense. I wish I had known 30 years ago.
Pills are having less and less effects and the side effects are getting stronger (massive headaches). After looking at my other options including injections, i've decided to go straight to nuclear and get an implant.
I figured I have probably about 10 years of looking pretty good and having lots of fun left in me and I realized how much my inability for erections has affected who I am dating, under what circumstances, and whether I approach women at all.
Currently 18 (7 inches) centimeters length and 13 centimeters (5.1 inches) girth. So if I lost length, it wouldn't be the end of the world, and women have told me before that I have “a soft head” so I guess I already don’t engorge a lot.
Side effect of the above issues was that I got pretty good at “everything else”, and I’m pretty active in the kink community, who is generally very supportive (most of my friends know of my plans), and I’m zero worried any of my play partners would find the implant weird. (Currently mostly getting comments like “can please I try when you’re healed?” or “does that mean you stay infinitely hard when I tie you up?”)
5 days to surgery, Dr.Love in Australia, who is high volume and seems well regarded from all I can gather. I’m slowly getting a bit stressed out though, because I am thinking about whether 15% erection fun with understanding people is better than potentially wrecking my dick forever….also stressed because I never had a major surgery. Having a bit of a cold feet moment and thinking of cancelling.
Any comments, tips, thoughts welcome.
