Telling new partner

[ready2go]

well , i have a malleable and no i have not told any girl i have slept with .

Nope. Not saying a word! Ha!

But I guess thats because you cant see a future in the relationship...

nope ,its my businness not theirs .i dont care .
you can get on your soap box and blab away . what ever floats your boat .

[staphylococcusecoli]

Hi guys, I have been out of here for a long time. Básically because thing were going fine and I just entered to answer messages.

I have finally found a girl who I would like to be with and we have been meeting for around 1,5-2 months. I wanted to tell her about this about 2 weeks ago, but I am not able to do It when the moment comes. However, in a relationship, this sometimes brings strange moments, for example when the penis IS not completely flacid or when she decides to suck mi still flacid penis and It cant go up. Anywqy, I feel I am deceiveing her and want to tell her.

I just wanted to ask you, has any of you been with a girl and told her after some time. How did she feel? Did she feel like you were "lying" to her until you told her?
Thanks for your experiences...

It depends.
Is your girl smart and highly educated or more on the dumber side?

[HikerMan]

Hi guys, I have been out of here for a long time. Básically because thing were going fine and I just entered to answer messages.

I have finally found a girl who I would like to be with and we have been meeting for around 1,5-2 months. I wanted to tell her about this about 2 weeks ago, but I am not able to do It when the moment comes. However, in a relationship, this sometimes brings strange moments, for example when the penis IS not completely flacid or when she decides to suck mi still flacid penis and It cant go up. Anywqy, I feel I am deceiveing her and want to tell her.

I just wanted to ask you, has any of you been with a girl and told her after some time. How did she feel? Did she feel like you were "lying" to her until you told her?
Thanks for your experiences...

If you are getting serious you need to tell her.

I've learned in Marriage everything needs to be on the table before you put your name on the dotted line.

[ready2go]

Hi guys, I have been out of here for a long time. Básically because thing were going fine and I just entered to answer messages.

I have finally found a girl who I would like to be with and we have been meeting for around 1,5-2 months. I wanted to tell her about this about 2 weeks ago, but I am not able to do It when the moment comes. However, in a relationship, this sometimes brings strange moments, for example when the penis IS not completely flacid or when she decides to suck mi still flacid penis and It cant go up. Anywqy, I feel I am deceiveing her and want to tell her.

I just wanted to ask you, has any of you been with a girl and told her after some time. How did she feel? Did she feel like you were "lying" to her until you told her?
Thanks for your experiences...

If you are getting serious you need to tell her.

I've learned in Marriage everything needs to be on the table before you put your name on the dotted line.

i have been marreid for 35 years . my wife only knows my dick is hard .
she has no idea i have a malleable implant .
so much for your theory .

[BillyBob51]

So what are you actually wanting someone to say?

[HikerMan]

Hi guys, I have been out of here for a long time. Básically because thing were going fine and I just entered to answer messages.

I have finally found a girl who I would like to be with and we have been meeting for around 1,5-2 months. I wanted to tell her about this about 2 weeks ago, but I am not able to do It when the moment comes. However, in a relationship, this sometimes brings strange moments, for example when the penis IS not completely flacid or when she decides to suck mi still flacid penis and It cant go up. Anywqy, I feel I am deceiveing her and want to tell her.

I just wanted to ask you, has any of you been with a girl and told her after some time. How did she feel? Did she feel like you were "lying" to her until you told her?
Thanks for your experiences...

If you are getting serious you need to tell her.

I've learned in Marriage everything needs to be on the table before you put your name on the dotted line.

i have been marreid for 35 years . my wife only knows my dick is hard .
she has no idea i have a malleable implant .
so much for your theory .

She may know more than you think she knows

Have a nice day.

[And1975]

I haven't got an implant yet, so I am only guessing how it is like.

But I would really tell her about it. If she loves you, it won't change anything.

[RigiconDownUnder]

I pictured my future wife/partner/whatever asking this to AI.

Not even one of them (except for Claude) remotely brought up anything about a penile implant. Mine and my future wife’s IQ won’t be higher than these AI models.

I don’t date urologists and I also don’t give a SHIT about romantic moral arguments.

Why is my husband’s dick hard 24/7?

ChatGPT:
A penis can become hard frequently because of normal spontaneous erections, high arousal, or hormonal factors, but it should not stay continuously erect for hours. If your husband truly has a persistent erection lasting 4 hours or more, it could be priapism and needs immediate emergency medical care.

Gemini:
If it's just happening frequently, it’s likely driven by high testosterone, a naturally strong libido, or the side effects of certain medications. But if it is *literally* hard for more than four hours without going down (a condition called priapism), this is a serious medical emergency and he needs to go to the ER immediately.

Claude:
This is likely priapism — a persistent erection unrelated to arousal, which can stem from medications, blood thinners, sickle cell disease, or (if he has a penile implant) an auto-inflation/valve issue with the device. If it's been going on more than **4 hours**, that's a medical emergency — get him to an ER now, since prolonged priapism can cause permanent tissue damage.

Grok:
Persistent erections lasting this long may signal priapism, a serious condition needing urgent medical evaluation to avoid damage. Common non-emergency causes include high testosterone, arousal, medications, or lifestyle factors—see a doctor for proper diagnosis.

Meta AI:
A true 24/7 erection isn't typical — causes range from priapism, certain meds (like ED drugs, testosterone, or antidepressants), to blood flow or nerve issues. He should see a urologist promptly, especially if it's painful or lasts over 4 hours, since prolonged priapism can cause permanent tissue damage.

Perplexity AI:
A penis that seems hard “all the time” can be normal frequent arousal, but if erections last many hours without going away, it can also be a medical problem called priapism that needs urgent care. If his erection stays rigid for 4 or more hours at a time (especially if it’s painful), he should go to the ER or urgent care immediately, because untreated priapism can damage the penis and cause permanent erectile problems.

[Flounder]

Hi guys, I have been out of here for a long time. Básically because thing were going fine and I just entered to answer messages.

I have finally found a girl who I would like to be with and we have been meeting for around 1,5-2 months. I wanted to tell her about this about 2 weeks ago, but I am not able to do It when the moment comes. However, in a relationship, this sometimes brings strange moments, for example when the penis IS not completely flacid or when she decides to suck mi still flacid penis and It cant go up. Anywqy, I feel I am deceiveing her and want to tell her.

I just wanted to ask you, has any of you been with a girl and told her after some time. How did she feel? Did she feel like you were "lying" to her until you told her?
Thanks for your experiences...

Of course she will feel like you were “lying” to her - because you are. It’s a natural response, for all humans, to have feelings of betrayal, suspicion, and eroded trust when they find out they were deceived about something. That doesn’t mean the relationship is doomed, but it becomes more difficult to repair as time progresses.

Most woman will initially feel more hurt by the deception than by the implant itself. In many cases, as reported here on FT, the IPP itself isn’t the deal-breaker. But withholding the truth for too long may be. Once the relationship shows real potential, being open about the implant gives your partner the chance to process the information without feeling like they were misled for months.

IMO, your comment about your flaccid penis not responding to here oral stimulation is exactly why you should have the conversation with her soon. She is probably wondering why she can’t get you harder by sucking you, yet you somehow get harder during the breaks when she’s not giving you stimulus. Perhaps she’s secretly questioning her desirability with you. This could actually be the perfect way to start the discussion and put her mind at ease. Once she understands how the implant works, she will probably feel more secure. She will no longer have to wonder whether an erection will happen. And understand that your erections are “mechanical” but in all other aspects your desire and pleasure still comes from her. The implant simply provides the rigidity.

In closing, everyone has a right to privacy, especially early in dating.
But in my experience, once a relationship becomes serious, honesty usually strengthens it more than secrecy.