To strong sexdrive partner can handle

[richard_goes_bionic]

My sexdrive has gone a little out of control and she cannot deal with it. I understand mostly trough underlying health issues but also otherwise. That makes me both sad and sometimes angry because I dont want that my ability turns out to be a curse instead of a positive thing.
Tried to have sex today but got turned down. She said she had not been fucking 3 times a week in her 20s. Our relationship is under stress. I know I am to selfish but the drive is strong as hell.
She suggested already I should go to a pro but this I cannot do because its the same turn off, they also only do me a favour, just for the money.
I need the opposite person to enjoy what I do to her, that gives you hornyness and in the end satisfaction.

Anyone of my brothers are in the same situation or been there.

[dan_bionic]

Richard, that's a problem, that probably many men with bionic dicks in our range of age have with their wives, health issues, less libido and so on.
So one possibility is to let her check if HRT could enhance her sex-drive or to date normal women that look for a good sex life, if you don't want to go for pros.
Like Letoman, who found these girls in dating apps or myself, dating young chicks in bars, where you are known as great fucking "sugar daddy" and can meet hotties and after they know you, bring even other girls to meet you. All that needs efforts and some $ to run. Another possibility is to find women, that just love sex and are hot and horny to fuck you as much as they can.
So in the end, you must decide, if you find pros, that do their jobs and you will be satisfied with your sex drive and not need to much effort or $.
Go in yourself and weigh-up, what is best for you. You didn't get the implant to just masturbate, but you need a great sex life all over, no?
Best
Dan

[GoodWood]

Richard, you describe a common issue. You are not alone.

Long-term couples who have matching libido’s for decades seem to be the exception, not the rule. In MOST longterm couples, regardless of ED or not, it is common that one partner’s libido decreases more with age than the other.

It’s also logical that the partner with the higher libido would be found here. A man with a low libido is less likely to pursue a solution for his ED with the same fervor as a man with a higher libido.

It sounds as though your wife has given you permission to pursue sex outside of the relationship. She suggested you see a pro.

I am in a similar situation. My husband’s interest in sex (after 30 years together) is much lower than mine. My solution is to joyfully have sex with him whenever he is interested. (I think I’ve said “no” once in 30 years.) I masturbate whenever the mood hits. And I enjoy sex with a “friends with benefits” whenever we can get together.

I know that sex without emotional entanglement is more common for men than women, but it exists. Instead of the emptiness of sex only for the sake of money, perhaps sex with someone who is in a similar situation also seeking that physical release would feel better to you. It’s something to consider. There are websites and apps for people who are looking for uncomplicated sex. You have a superpower, a rock hard penis that can go until the other person is satisfied. And as men age the ability to stay hard gets more difficult.

So in summary: have sex with your wife whenever she wants it, enjoy masturbation freely (there are some great vibrating sleeves for us men now), and if it feels right to you, seek out a friend with whom you can enjoy uncomplicated, no-strings attached sex.

[richard_goes_bionic]

thanks both Dan and Goodwood, I understand what you mean, but its a long shot from to hear from your wife in frustration, you can go to a pro, to take it for granted and hope the relationship will survive actions like this. I am afraid not.
And so far she has been playing along I must admit.

There is another issue and thats my conscience. I would feel like a an asshole because she is willing to play along and she said something the other day. You remember when your ability was for many years zero and could not satisfy me, did I go and seek something else, so now you complain that 3 times a week is not enough. Maybe she has point and I have to work on my selfishness.
A pro is not a turn on and a tinder fuck is to much cheating.
Lets see how it goes.