need to pour my little heart out...

[lost_confused]

It's almost midnight here in Canada...My girlfriend went to sleep and I am writing an essay for a University class....While doing all of this my mind wanders...I am confused, angry, and about to have a total emotional meltdown.

I am 26 years old.
My ED woes started 2 and a half years ago. I had broken up with my girlfriend (my decision and at this point everything worked perfectly, erection pretty much on demand, some misses but nothing major) and decided to be single for a year after that . Because of heavy workload at school and job I haven't dated much and masturbation is not something that interests me altho I did it once in awhile, but once me and one of my classmates decided to hook up 6 months into my celibacy vow and NOTHING, she was really attractive, I wanted her but nothing was happening. No biggie I thought and we laughed about it, we decided to try again...and again...and again...and nothing.... I was scared but thought it was all in my head, I decided to look up a sex therapist and she tried her best hypnosis, all kinds of tests, I even took a humiliating polygraph test to see if I am homosexual or not.....and I wasn't...I gave up on therapy because after I sunk some 2500$ in this, it was not working.... After looking up some info on internet, I stupidly decided to try this "ALL NATURAL" drug which just ended up being Cialis in disguise.

And lo and behold, everything came back to normal, and I found my current girlfriend, after a year and a half of awesome sex and a great relationship in the past 3 months I wasn't able to do anything, the pills have stopped working, well for now they are a hit and miss and sometimes I need to down 5 cialis and that causes incredibly adverse effects and severe muscle pain, altho worth it every time it actually works, cause I see my girlfriend get this huge smile and makes me feel like a man again, she has been supportive through all of this. Amidst all my confusion I went to see a doctor, he didn't take me seriously, tried to refer me to a therapist again, and after I explained myself he prescribed me some Viagra(no effect) and recommended to get blood-work done (which I did) and referred me to a urologist (since these things are free in Canada there is a 2 month waiting list) I am going insane while waiting for my turn, I cannot sleep, this is having horrible strain on my emotional well being, I am very angry and frustrated that at 26 no one can see yet what is wrong with me, I am at my wits end. I am thinking of just breaking my penis and having to go through emergency surgery and when I feel these thoughts creeping up I get scared.

At my age I am supposed to be having fun with my penis, not fucking whining about ED problems to the internet, my friends all seem to make it look so effortless... I don't get what I have done to have this. I am in great shape, work out alot, do cardio vascular exercises, my nutrition is impeccable, I don't smoke or even drink for that matter, yes I do drink an occasional cup of coffee but whatever....Only medical condition I had was when I was born, my right testicle never went down, but I had corrective surgery when I was a kid and it was pushed down into the scrotum.

If my urologist doesn't take me seriously as the doctor didn't which is my last hope I AM FUCKED. Only things I haven't tried yet are the injections or the implant. It took me every ounce of bravery to tell the doctor what was wrong with me and he didn't even flinch and just looked at me as if it was all in my head. I don't even get morning erections anymore.
Does anyone know if surgeons even accept to do implants to people my age?
I seriously don't know what to do anymore while I wait.
I hate the predicament I am in right now....

Sorry I just had to type this all out to get it out of my system in a place where someone might read it....
Thank you and sorry for wasting 2 minutes of your life you won't get back.

[antelope]

Dear Lost,

Let me assure you, buddy, we hate the situation you're in as well. Everyone on this site has been where you are, though you seem to be young to be going thru this crap. I'm really, really sorry about that. I can assure you of a couple of things. (1) You're not alone. There are limp dicks on every corner in North America. And you're not the only one who is your age. (2) You've found a network of men who are willing and able to help you in more ways that you know at this point. Guys on this site have been thru just about every situation that can be imagined and we are ready to share that knowledge and experience with you. (3) There is a solution for you. Mine turned out to be trimix injections. Yours might be something else. (4) We will help you find it.

As frustrating as it is right now (and we've all been there, believe me) give yourself a break and know that this can be fixed. With that in mind, try to stay positive. the biggest sex organ is inside your head.

Hang in there. Check here often; you're going to get a ton of responses, I htink. And come join us in the chat room. It's a hoot. We'll make you laugh if nothing else.

Greg

[Illuminist]

I got my implant this year at age 27. I had been having priapisms since puberty. Last year I had a severe one and couldn't have an erection afterwards. This is when I started my search for implant info. I called up a guy by the name Dr. Edward Karpman and quickly began my journey to a sex life again.

The implant has made me far more confident than before. No woman I've been with thus far has known I was implanted. They comment on my thickness, hardness and stamina. All things any guy would like to hear. I'm more than satisfied with my implant.

[antelope]

Hey Lost,

It's me again. You've been much on my mind these past 24 hours. With one caveat, I have something to add. The caveat is that I am not a doctor nor do I play one on TV. The "Something to Add" is that you probably could benefit from a complete medical work-up, the operative word being complete. ED is almost always a symptom of something else. In my case, it's diabetes--with the accompanying circulatory issues. For others, it may be absence of a prostate. They need to determine what is causing the ED in your case. Even thought my diabetes was suspected all along, my medical team tested me for just about everything else that might be contributing in a causal way to or might be a parallel side effect with my Limpdickness: cardio vascular system, endocrine system, Low T levels, bone density, etc. etc. Only after ruling out pretty much everything else did they all agree that it must be the diabetes. In your case, since the pills seemed to work for a time, it could be anything. Maybe you have venous leakage. I certainly don't know--but you can find out. Find the cause and treat the cause, then you can treat the symptoms more effectively. Believe me, I speak from experience. I've had television cameras and other medical appliances inserted into every body orifice that I own. Mantra #1: This (limp dick) is not acceptable. Mantra #2: When you go to the urologist, you leave your dignity in the parking lot.

Best wishes. We're cheering you from the sidelines, dude. Go get it done. Sorry you have to deal with national health care up there. The waiting has to be the worst part. You've taken the first steps in this journey. God's peace to you as you follow through.

Greg

[lost_confused]

thank you all for being so empathic. I just can't frickin' wait until I go and see an urologist and see what can be done about this....If this doesn't work out, I will probably go and do some medical tourism somewhere and get this done one way or another if my uro shoots me down...

[Minnesota]

Hey Lost,

My name is Colin. I had a penile implant (Coloplast Titan) put in in September 2009 at the age of 20. There is a light at the end of the tunnel but it starts with being proactive and seeing the people you need to see. I was born with ED ("Natural ED") and was so confused and fed up with things not working right... I needed answers. Not sure what took me so long to find out, but my life has changed for the better. Take it one step at a time and eventually you will have answers too.

[antelope]

When you're ready, let us know what part of Canada you live in. From within our group, we can recommend urologists and ED specialists and implant surgeons from
Bangor to Seattle.

[dmikesaw]

Yes, choose a good, experienced surgeon, and use a VED for a few months before surgery. BUT still be prepared for the possibility of a poor outcome. The ladies now ask me why mine is so small, why the floppy head/SST head, and why the glans isn't sensitive anymore......................... Hope for the best but plan for the worst. That way you won't be so disappointed if you get a bad result. Some guys get good results (they are the ones who post positive things on here), but other guys get poor results and don't post here (for the most part). Don't be misled by the overwhelmingly positive things you read on here. Best of luck!

[clay64424]

i feel you dude i am only 39 and got my implant a few months ago i had ed problems since my 20's wish i had gone thru this then because now it is amazing took a couple months to all heal swelling everything now it is amazing my wife and i was even able to do new positions 4 or 5 we never had been able to do before i have the ams700 and it is amazing it has given me bak my man hood my confidence my ability to perform dude you need to chat hit me up my email is claytonvance0@gmail.com my yahoo is sharkbait302001 both come straight to my phone we all know here what you are going thru and feel your pain but not everyone here has gone thru it young like we have mine is caused from a bad back bad spine and diabaties on top of mediction pain med insulin etc etc so as i said as a younger man under 40 not trying to be disrespectull to the older fellas hit me up you need to i will even share the pictures of the healing process not trying to be gay just so you know what your getting into

[Dave48003]

Hey lost and confused...

As you know by now, you aren't alone. Many men with the same problem, many your age or younger. I have had e d issues since my teens, I'm now 60.

A couple of suggestions while you wait for the urologist. Get a pump. I have a medical grade pump that comes with rings. If you don't want to spend that kind of $, get one at an adult store and get a cock ring. With your understanding lady, you will have some good sex while waiting. It's not the best, but it's better than nothing.

Canada is a big place, don't know where you are at. I'm in Michigan, I can be in Canada by going east 35 miles or south 45 miles (yes, south) to Windsor. If you are near Sarnia or Windsor, I'd be glad to meet for lunch, I'd let you have my pump and see how it works for you. With my luck, you're probably in BC! I'd also be glad to lend an ear. You have understanding friends here!

Dave