A Young Man’s Plight - Please Advise

[GruffHunter]

I'd be worried about anyone who wanted to cut off a relationship because of a medical device. We're focused on implants....but what if the condition was removal of your testicles due to testicular cancer? Or a colostomy? Glass eye? Daily eating regimens and insulin injections? Finger Amputation?

It's a medical device that improves your life. Anyone who can't deal with that isn't worth your time and effort.

Different if you are young and not in a relationship yet.

I disagree. I was single, and on the very night I met the man who would become my husband, I revealed that I was HIV Positive. His response was, "So?" We've been together 9 years - ever since that night.

If someone's response is, "Er...OK...see ya later," Good riddance.

[ringo1]

Im 38. Ive had ED my whole life. I dated a nice girl in college for three years amd struggled significantly with failures in the midst of intimacy. She ended it three years into our relationship because of my ED. She couldnt see herself having her sexuality hindered by my ED all of her life. Once she knew she couldnt marry me and be ok with my problem she left. It hurt alot but I understood. I met my wife about a year later. She has always accepted me. Did she wish I didnt have ED? Yes. Was it so disruptive that she didnt want to be with me? No. We’ve been together 18 years now and have two beautiful daughters. I guess my point is that some women will confirm your fears and reject you because of having ED or if youre implanted, its “weird” etc. But there are good women that will love you despite your failings, struggles, “weird” parts etc. you just have to find the right one and they are out there. Im glad my first serious girlfriend left, she did me a favor. I do think a woman is more likely to leave a man with ED that cant satisfy her vs an implanted man that can successfully have sex every time (even if its not “natural” erection. Good luck pal, its hard having all this as a young guy. Dont let it define you.

ur one lucky man to have a wife who stood by you...all these years..my advicee do get the implant for her sake if u dont have already...in todays word that`s rare uve got a precious gift..

[edsince18]

Here at franktalk

I have never seen young implanted men told us he was rejected by women due to implant.

Several young implanted man's stories i found in another web communnities say good experience with women overwhelms bad experience.

In my opinion, if the implant reduces the range of the woman we can meet from 100 to 90(Because I think there are certainly women who do not accept implants) , Ed reduces it from 100 to 0~2

[DougAnd]

Some people see a guy in a wheel chair and see a cripple. Others see a potential friend. I have a crippled (or did) penis. There is no shame in having a prosthesis. I tell those who are interested but not everyone. Bottom line: this is for you not them. Would you refuse an artificial leg because someone didn't like it? Go around with a patch over your eye? I don't think so. No difference here. Do yourself a favor, get the implant. Others will have to deal with their feelings, their loss in my opinion.

[ED2013]

In my experience, very few young women out there even know implants exist lol.

[dawnoftime]

OK, if you are on a second date and not in love, why are you making love? Oh, it's not making love it's just sex?? Great, go screw a goat... that's sex too. Why should Phoenix18 be condemned to a life without sex just because some bimbo may be turned off? As for the Seinfeld comment... in my opinion, there were very few TV shows more stupid than that one. In my 51 years on planet earth, I don't know of ANYONE that acted like any of those characters on that show. I'm sorry that the members are coming out in force against your opinion but those of us living with the implant can tell you without reservation that it saved their lives in many ways.

Larry

Outside of this site, I do not use social media at all. Your response has just confirmed exactly why I don't. To misrepresent what I am saying to such a degree is, I have to say, quite shocking.

I'm sorry you don't respect my opinion. Phoenix18 is asking for opinions... I have one and I shared it, I'm sorry you don't agree. Misrepresent what you are saying??? I think everyone knows what you are saying... MOST do not agree. Please don't be so dramatic, it is unbecoming of the members of this site who are trying to be supportive of their brothers.

Larry

I have just noticed that you are a moderator Larry. A moderator that wants to quash divergence of opinion, that misrepresents what people post and uses misogynistic language like "bimbo"?

[GruffHunter]

OK, if you are on a second date and not in love, why are you making love? Larry

Because she had a headache on the first date?

<ducking and running>

[defiant]

It seems no consensus was reached and I guess that’s because as someone wisely said; there are as many possible reactions as there are women.

If a woman can’t accept the way you achieve an erection, does that make her a bad person? In my book no but yes, slightly shallow (under the assumed scenario that you have been dating for some time and there are clear mutual feelings).

I think the negative reactions will be fewer than positive and receptive. She wants you, as a whole, not just your dick. And I once read ‘if the sex is good, it’s 10% of a relationship, if it’s bad, it’s 90% of the relationship’ and I kind of agree with this assessment.

There’s more to it than sex but it is a key component and without it, very few relationships stand a chance. At least then, with the implant, you would hope the sex for both parties would be good.

This whole woman reaction thing is perhaps my biggest concern also but you just gotta believe, the right one, your soul mate, the one, whatever you wanna call it, will not look upon the penile implant with any negative feeling and she’ll embrace you.

[Phoenix18]

Thank you to everyeon, so much for replying to me. I am very thankful.

How hard and alien this prospect is.

But potentially so healing and rewarding